Suffering for Doing Good

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2 minutes ago, Josheb said:

Tell me the fruit it would bear

It’s ok that is an answer to me.

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1 minute ago, Josheb said:

Yes, in a public internet discussion forum it is. You have a right not to reply but you can't tell others how, when, or what to post, especially if they are doing so within the tou. It is control, not healthy boundaries. 

Then I will have to live with that. I just prefer to answer people when they speak to me rather than ignore them. 

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1 minute ago, Josheb said:

What in his thread has been "wrathful"? 

Is this thread the only contact we have had with each other?  Do you find this thread peaceful?

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1 minute ago, Josheb said:

Now you're saying you'd prefer to answer people when they speak rather than ignore them. Help me understand that seeming contradiction!

If I ask someone to cease contact it’s so I would not have to ignore them. If they refuse then I have no choice but to ignore them. 

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3 minutes ago, Josheb said:

I don't look to find my peace in the responses of others,

I don’t find my peace in others but others can take our peace if we let them. I’m trying to protect my peace and that makes sense but talking to someone I know does not want contact with me makes no sense.

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5 minutes ago, Josheb said:

Peace is not the absence of conflict.

True but peace is not the presence of conflict either. Some people we have conflict with sometimes and that’s normal but if every single interaction with a person is conflict that’s not normal and should be avoided 

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7 minutes ago, Josheb said:

I'm not having any difficulty with the current conversation. 

It takes two though. 

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19 minutes ago, Josheb said:

I try to consider all others more significant than myself not keeping a record of wrongs and posting with kindness and patience asserting edification wherever I remember regardless of the nefarious motives I might be assigned. 

Is reporting posts keeping records of wrongs because I have only ever reported one person here. 
 

Keep being kind and loving. That’s what I do too and I guess I’ve been doing okay only being reported one time that I have been made aware of. The only posts I’ve played a significant part in that have been shut down are my own nobody else’s. 

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I think records are important. We generally can’t just say who we are if there is record keeping. Nobody will listen they will just want records.

For example- hey I’m an excellent student. Ok mam transcripts please. Hey I’m a good worker. Okay mam 3 references please. 

Records are important to education, work, citizenship, and we have a record here to. My record looks good so I guess I can keep doing what I’m doing. 
 

 

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23 minutes ago, Josheb said:

We are supposed to report wrong doers

I choose mercy instead. The “one” I reported out of many over the course of 10 months is a special circumstance.

 

23 minutes ago, Josheb said:

Scripture, as I understand it, teaches us first to overlook offenses wherever possible.

Yep and it’s always possible here but some file many many many reports and state that they do so we can see who reports a lot. 
 

23 minutes ago, Josheb said:

If they interfere with our worship then we are to go to the other person - whether we are the cause of the offense or they are the cause -  and try ot work things out.

This is what I did. Tried but didn’t  work so I asked to cease contact.

I get inbox complaints about people on the brink of leaving here and I try to console them and say stay and just ignore like me but out of about 5 two of them left anyway. 
 

23 minutes ago, Josheb said:

We're supposed to report posts.

I choose mercy and find it generally not necessary and overused as a bully tactic by some.

23 minutes ago, Josheb said:

If I violated the tou and get admonished then that's on me. That is NOT suffering for doing good. 

True and as you said if we have done so we will be notified and I haven’t been notified so this post was not about suffering for doing good for violation of the tos. I suffered that my message is not visible for anyone to read because reports were made on others. I see that happen often. A good post with a good message gets shut down by people who come to argue.