creativemechanic Posted October 2, 2022 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 7 Topic Count: 414 Topics Per Day: 0.12 Content Count: 1,273 Content Per Day: 0.36 Reputation: 518 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/22/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted October 2, 2022 Can anyone explain this logic? Context- Its based on an incident that happened. A guy in a chat once gave a story that happened to him and his live in girlfriend. I still cant see the logic behind the girlfriends anger. I actually told it to a female friend who sided with the girlfriend. But it actually, rebounds to something a marriage counsellor said- Basically , they said if it as one thing that they would like women to understand is that- your husband cant read your mind, so its unreasonable to expect him to do what you want him to do unless you tell him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ray12614 Posted October 2, 2022 Group: Senior Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 9 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 665 Content Per Day: 0.44 Reputation: 749 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/22/2020 Status: Offline Share Posted October 2, 2022 Well . . . hypothetical illustration . . . ok . . . so let me be blunt. 'live-in'? So they are living together? IF so, then they are not married, and have no biblical commitment to each other . . . I just see 2 selfish people with unrealistic expectations in a 'try before you buy' situation. There . . . I said the "M" word . . . Marriage. It is biblical, and it is expected for any marriage to have a covenant relationship. Not sorry for saying this . . . Ray . . . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NCAP Posted October 2, 2022 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 2 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 265 Content Per Day: 0.45 Reputation: 79 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/19/2022 Status: Offline Share Posted October 2, 2022 She was suffering from "dribble syndrome". It's a situation in which one person is sick and doesn't want the other person to depart and watch someone else dribble a basketball. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted October 2, 2022 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,991 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,689 Content Per Day: 11.80 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted October 2, 2022 4 hours ago, creativemechanic said: Can anyone explain this logic? Context- Its based on an incident that happened. A guy in a chat once gave a story that happened to him and his live in girlfriend. I still cant see the logic behind the girlfriends anger. I actually told it to a female friend who sided with the girlfriend. But it actually, rebounds to something a marriage counsellor said- Basically , they said if it as one thing that they would like women to understand is that- your husband cant read your mind, so its unreasonable to expect him to do what you want him to do unless you tell him. It is all about communication in a relationship. A healthy and honest communication where each person will really listen to the other and really care. A born again Christian couple will have a very different approach than a secular couple. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NCAP Posted October 2, 2022 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 2 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 265 Content Per Day: 0.45 Reputation: 79 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/19/2022 Status: Offline Share Posted October 2, 2022 5 hours ago, creativemechanic said: Can anyone explain this logic? I actually told it to a female friend who sided with the girlfriend. It sounds like the girlfriend feels dishonored. That may and can be a source of trouble and contention in relationships. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creativemechanic Posted October 2, 2022 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 7 Topic Count: 414 Topics Per Day: 0.12 Content Count: 1,273 Content Per Day: 0.36 Reputation: 518 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/22/2014 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 2, 2022 4 hours ago, Ray12614 said: Well . . . hypothetical illustration . . . ok . . . so let me be blunt. 'live-in'? So they are living together? IF so, then they are not married, and have no biblical commitment to each other . . . I just see 2 selfish people with unrealistic expectations in a 'try before you buy' situation. There . . . I said the "M" word . . . Marriage. It is biblical, and it is expected for any marriage to have a covenant relationship. Not sorry for saying this . . . Ray . . . Missing the point by a mile there aren't we? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
other one Posted October 2, 2022 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 598 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 56,148 Content Per Day: 7.56 Reputation: 27,865 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted October 2, 2022 5 hours ago, creativemechanic said: Basically , they said if it as one thing that they would like women to understand is that- your husband cant read your mind, so its unreasonable to expect him to do what you want him to do unless you tell him. As a husband of 52 years I can tell you that it is not unreasonable if he cares for her. Took me about 5 years to understand that if you really love her as the Lord loved the church, he would know. If he doesn't love her as the Lord loved the church they are about to experience hell on earth. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NCAP Posted October 2, 2022 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 2 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 265 Content Per Day: 0.45 Reputation: 79 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/19/2022 Status: Offline Share Posted October 2, 2022 5 hours ago, creativemechanic said: I still cant see the logic behind the girlfriends anger. I actually told it to a female friend who sided with the girlfriend. Probably you will never see (and me too) the logic behind the girlfriends anger because the premise "not that you care " cannot be proven. Some (other females) might think that her premise is true. And maybe some guys see her as using that kind of assertion as a weapon against him. The worst case scenario would be for him to respond and say I do care about you, and for her to respond and say: I don't believe you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ray12614 Posted October 2, 2022 Group: Senior Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 9 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 665 Content Per Day: 0.44 Reputation: 749 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/22/2020 Status: Offline Share Posted October 2, 2022 49 minutes ago, creativemechanic said: Missing the point by a mile there aren't we? Possibly. I addressed the heart of the issue, namely selfishness on the part of both sides. Can men read girl friends minds? No. Can they after much time know her desires? Yes in a limited way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
grahampaul Posted October 2, 2022 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 7 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 431 Content Per Day: 0.28 Reputation: 263 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/19/2020 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/31/1950 Share Posted October 2, 2022 2 hours ago, Ray12614 said: Possibly. I addressed the heart of the issue, namely selfishness on the part of both sides. Can men read girl friends minds? No. Can they after much time know her desires? Yes in a limited way. "Who can understand the mind of a woman ,but to be crazy helps" osca wild i think.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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