filled with shame

[PwrInTheBld]

ahhh yes---the old secular way to handle things.

lets start building a new foundation---based on DECEIT.

its only marriage--right?

and yes, lets tell a pastor or counselor, besides EVERYONE IN THIS FORUM

already knows---

LETS JUST KEEP ADDING TO THAT LIST---

so he can sit in the pews with the whole WORLD except him...

knowing.

oh yes---thats a good way to REBUILD a foundation---THAT WILL CRUMBLE.

the 2 SHALL BECOME 1----not 2.

unbelievable.

no trust.

no faith.

no marriage.

Wow, you need to relax a bit

Please point out in my post where I said not to tell her husband? Looking for advice on how to go about something isn't a stupid thing to do you know........sarcasm isn't real smart either

***was going to say something else but it would come across as sarcastic and I won't go that route***

[Kansasdad]

There is something built into our psyche that we have a very difficult time forgiving ourselves. God has already forgiven you of your sin, but we humans tend to bind ourselves to the sin and the guilt of the sin. It is critical that you "confess" your sin to another person. Not to receive Gods forgiveness, this has already happened, but for your own walk in the forgiveness. First speak with your pastor, lay it all out, everything, including how you feel and your fears. But also know this, you will need to also confess to your husband. Let your pastor guide you in the timing. God will heal your marriage but only if you bring everything to the light. Satan

[carant2000_2001]

There is something built into our psyche that we have a very difficult time forgiving ourselves. God has already forgiven you of your sin, but we humans tend to bind ourselves to the sin and the guilt of the sin. It is critical that you "confess" your sin to another person. Not to receive Gods forgiveness, this has already happened, but for your own walk in the forgiveness. First speak with your pastor, lay it all out, everything, including how you feel and your fears. But also know this, you will need to also confess to your husband. Let your pastor guide you in the timing. God will heal your marriage but only if you bring everything to the light. Satan

Edited October 19, 2005 by carant2000_2001

[lisa lollipop]

to all the beautiful people who have offered advice and also to those who have become ANGRY (mark malone), god bless you for your compassion and friendship.

To mark, i had an affair BEFORE i became a christian and whilst i appreciate your remarks, god is the only one who has the right to be angry with me, and i want you to know that i forgive you for your anger towards me.

I have battled with this issue for a long time but am at peace with myself now, and just want to leave it that way.

I cannot change my past, but I sure can change my future, with my new found faith and knowledge that god is with me in all that i do and say from now on.

you are all so lovely and i praise god for your words and mostly non judgemental attitude.

love and blessings.

lisa

xxxxx

[kamusat]

God Bless you Lisa, Lollipop. Keep praying and God will lead the way. Your refusal to be upset over the "angry" remarks by some show much Christian maturity. You are right!! Only God has the right to be angry with you!!

Blessings, kamusat