marriage advice Just got married. Need advice over something bothering me

[SleeplessSerenade]

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Edited December 30, 2023 by SleeplessSerenade
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[enoob57]

Many times we are motivated toward mistrust to protect self from the possible heartbreak... 'all we like sheep' is a difficult willingness to give others the benefit of doubt and not try to protect oneself from being blindsided... 

[Know Jah]

That's imperfection in us we first think the worst. I'm not tech savvy however hackers can hack anything. But If you have addressed the situation with your hubby and he denies it with explanation. Everyone is innocent until proven guilty. 

[farouk]

3 hours ago, SleeplessSerenade said:

So my husband and I got married this past Saturday and I feel elated. While I feel elated and happy, I also feel troubled over something I came across on his Facebook account. 
 

It was on the Facebook mobile app on his phone and below was a notification on the video tab. I clicked it and it showed borderline anime suggestive content and chests and stuff. Curious, I went to his watched videos section and I saw some videos but not many, of what looked like perverted videos that were watched. 
 

I asked why it was there and he said he was hacked not long ago and I remember a few weeks back he said someone from Canada got into his account. He started tearing up and he said he hates seeing that kind of stuff on his profile. 
 

he seemed genuine and I have never caught him in a lie and each single time I started suspecting something or something looked weird, I was proven wrong. Could a hacker could have watched stuff on his profile or somehow logged it as “watched” when he skipped the videos? 
 

I am trying to get over it and our marriage has felt strong ever since this past Saturday. He seems very caring and loving and I’m lucky to have someone that does the stuff that he does. I have been extensively praying about it and moving on. He gave me his Facebook profile log in on his own free will as well to ease my mind I guess. He is an anime watcher but he was into it way more frequently back then than he is now. 
 

We’re very faithful to each other so I would also doubt he watches that stuff. Should I ease my mind? I’m not sure if the devil is trying to mess my marriage up or what. I saw a video not long ago where a preacher said the devil hates marriages and family and tries to break it up somehow

Hi @SleeplessSerenade God bless you guys; congrats. indeed on your marriage!

You can do your part also: make sure he stays really interested in you!!

[believeinHim]

I have the same stuff coming up on my social media. The first person to ever send me inappropriate content to my inbox was a woman.

I clicked on a link on accident in this guys' email. It took me to a site. I still email him, at the same email. Sometimes. Because I miss him.

I don't know if it's hacked, or if I'm hacked, but the guys have hacked each other's profiles as pranks. It was pretty heartbreaking. But, also the content was funny, if I'm being genuine. It was a funny prank. Just being honest.

The other day some emojis popped up under a comment I posted on some site, that I don't remember posting after my comment. I was wondering if one of the guys' was in my account.

Try not to be too judgemental, or too heartbroken, I know it can break your heart, but his ring is the one on your finger, which is all that matters in the long run.

My accounts are probably hacked, too, or someone just has that stuff on theirs.

And actually, the first person to ever privately and directly send me inappropriate content to my inbox was a woman. A woman sent me the first inappropriate content to my inbox. 

Edited December 20, 2023 by believeinHim

[The_Patriot21]

Hackers can wreck all kinds of havoc. It seems to me that his history that you've witnessed backs up his side of the story, in addition, he gave you his Facebook login information. This is something my wife doesn't even have, and I have a history of porn addiction.

From what little information you've given us I'd say he's not exhibiting red flags in this area. It's natural to feel jealous, but don't let it consume you. You need to learn to trust him. Without trust your marriage will never last.

Furthermore you need to make sure you know how to forgive. Because what a lot of young couples don't realize is that sooner or later their partner will do something to hurt them and vise versa. It's not a matter of "if" but when. The ones that last learn how to work through this-they learn how to accept responsibility for their mistakes, and how to forgive each other and work past them.