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[cutiepie1497]

tonight i gave my youth pastor his bday gift.....4 cd's I spent $50 on them (they were on sale). He was really grateful for them but then like everyone ignored me for the entire night.....its like this every sunday and wednesday. I dont want to say anything about it, but its killing me inside. I'm on the verge of tears whenever im at youth group. Like i was going to leave and i was going to hug him and he walked by i guess paying no attention and then he turned around and hugged me real quick and then acted distracted. I dont know anymore....i try and try....yet im always the one teen who is left out in the cold, and it hurts. So bad. I guess this is just a vent.

[InternalFlame]

I know it's tough feeling like the only one being left out - I should know, I spent most of my life being the outcast in school. The cause of the situation could be a couple things. Are you shy? Do you feel like it's hard to get your comments in on the discussions because people overpower you? Because if this is the case it may not be that they are ignoring you, only that they are not used to people not interjecting when they have something to say...so they just continue talking, assumeing that if you had something to say you would interject something. It almost always is not the case that people will go out of their way to ignore someone, it's more likely that they just don't notice you. I know the case with me is that because I'm kind of shy I'm very easily overlooked...it may be the same with you. Try to be more outgoing, show you're happy to be there and be interested in everyone...it's hard not to notice someone who is a very nice person . Whatever you do don't despair over this, because more than likely your mind is blowing it out of proportion - I do this ALL the time....say my friend says she doesn't want to see me, and my head jumps to "She doesn't like to see me!" when the truth is my friend only got two hours of sleep the last night and is too tired to do anything. Put things in perspective, and perhaps talk to your youth leader about it - I bet he will tell you that he wasn't ignoreing you, or snubbing you!

Good luck with this...I will pray for you

[heavenlyfavoured]

tonight i gave my youth pastor his bday gift.....4 cd's I spent $50 on them (they were on sale). He was really grateful for them but then like everyone ignored me for the entire night.....its like this every sunday and wednesday. I dont want to say anything about it, but its killing me inside. I'm on the verge of tears whenever im at youth group. Like i was going to leave and i was going to hug him and he walked by i guess paying no attention and then he turned around and hugged me real quick and then acted distracted. I dont know anymore....i try and try....yet im always the one teen who is left out in the cold, and it hurts. So bad. I guess this is just a vent.

Hi,

I know how u feel, i can definately relate 2 that. I was and still am the shy type and always feel out of place.

You know what, u r unique thats why u feel different. I know a song that goes:-

'Some times u feel, like u dont fit in,

coz u dont look like, all ur other friends.

U got ur own thing going on, girl ur so unique,

u r just the way that God intended 4 u to b.'

'Little girl, little girl wonder r u listening,

little girl, little girl struggling with ur confidence,

little girl, little girl God made u so beautiful,

little girl, little girl I just thought that u should know'

The kids in ur youth and the pastor definately love u. They mayb think ur just the quiet type coz u dont talk much so they like dont wanna crowd u. They also find u sweet and r actually shying away from u. Like the pastor seemed to shy off thats why he gave a quick hug, he was so touched by ur gift and didn't know how 2 react. U will definately feel at home some day and dont stop doing good deeds 2 others, what u do doesn't go unnoticed, people and God do notice and ur reward will b great.

So "cutiepie1497" continue going 2 church and b happy. Someday u shall b a great woman of God.

God bless!!!

[cutiepie1497]

yeah, im not the loudest person in the group, i dont talk much. but still, you know? it just hurts. i feel so weird around them, and they completely ignore me, which is rude i think personally. i dont know anymore. i give up on caring about people

[heavenlyfavoured]

yeah, im not the loudest person in the group, i dont talk much. but still, you know? it just hurts. i feel so weird around them, and they completely ignore me, which is rude i think personally. i dont know anymore. i give up on caring about people

honey, did u read what we just posted?

U cant give up now, Gods with u.

God bless!!!

[cutiepie1497]

yes, I read it. I don't know though...I play an active part in the youth group and participate in about 95% of all trips and activities....I love them to death and all but this is getting old, being ignored. They used to not ignore me but now they do, Im not exactly sure what happened there. Anyways.....I can tell today is going to be a bad day because of last night.

P.S.....I get midterms today and have a C in spanish.....I need to have it up to a B by report cards in like 4 weeks........please pray that I can bring it up. God has helped me many times with academics and I know he can do it again, I just have to do my part.....thanks

[heavenlyfavoured]

yes, I read it. I don't know though...I play an active part in the youth group and participate in about 95% of all trips and activities....I love them to death and all but this is getting old, being ignored. They used to not ignore me but now they do, Im not exactly sure what happened there. Anyways.....I can tell today is going to be a bad day because of last night.

P.S.....I get midterms today and have a C in spanish.....I need to have it up to a B by report cards in like 4 weeks........please pray that I can bring it up. God has helped me many times with academics and I know he can do it again, I just have to do my part.....thanks

Hi,

You'll surely b a great woman of God becoz u love 2 do good and participate 95% , this already 2 God shows how much u love him and want 2 work 4 him.

Am going thru something similar, at my church, we have 2 do cleaning up and most people rarely do it, but u know what i asked myself ; Am i doing it 4 man or Gods' glory? Remember only God shall reward u not man. If the other kids just seem 2 ignore u now means that ur definately been noticed. Sorry but 4get people and stop trying 2 please anybody. Just do whats right, u'll always b lifted up.

"The proud shall b humbled, but the humble shall b made proud"

I have no doubt u will get a good grade. Just trust the lord 2 open ur mind to read and understand everything in ur studies. I' ll definately pray 4 u.

God bless!!!

[cutiepie1497]

97- afjrotc

96- biology

92- literature

91- advanced economics

geometry- it was 77 but he gave me 2 zeros that he is fixing so it should be a high B low A

Spanish- 73C......uuuuuuuggggghhhhhhh i am going to have a C on my report card, there is no way i can bring it up 7 points in 4 weeks!

Ugh, i still i hate being ignored....especially since i love them all so much, i do not think they feel the same way about me anymore

[cutiepie1497]

let me rephrase that, i dont think they ever really cared. i have some of the teens in classes throughout the day and none of them say anything to me, even when i talk to them first. ugh, i hate this

[heavenlyfavoured]

hi "cutiepie1497",

I hope today was and will b a better day 4 u than yesterday. It seems ur still feeling bad about the feelings. Pliz stop concentrating on how bad u feel, coz it will just get u feeling worse.

Look at the positive side of life, or should i say the sunny side of life. Jesus lives in u and luvs u no matter what. I know its hard since the kids really r ignoring u even when u talk 2 them, I kind of dont get it. Could there b that something happened b4 or?

I really think u have 2 talk 2 God about it. I also suggest the youth Pastor 2. He might encourage u on this matter better since he knows the other kids. Try this and lets c what happens. O.K.

Pliz read the book of 1John. Read the whole of it, its pretty short. I read it last night and i woke up today feeling much better, am really praying and working on my emotions. 1John showed me alot of stuff that makes life much more easier. Hope u read and give a testimony soon.

God bless!!!