What to do...?/Vent/ ..

[RdJ]

2 hours ago, Grace j said:

 

Well i would say that he does sometimes put them to bed with prayers and lots of talks but usually he would be feel very tired, and would like to just put them to bed as soon as possible and he would just go to bed too. 

How much does he work?

[Gracejj]

13 hours ago, RdJ said:

How much does he work?

8:30 am to 4:30pm. 1 hour 30 mins. extra for commute back n forth. Am I expecting too much? If I am then I am willing to change and I won't expect too much from him i guess. 

 

[RdJ]

7 hours ago, Grace j said:

8:30 am to 4:30pm. 1 hour 30 mins. extra for commute back n forth. Am I expecting too much? If I am then I am willing to change and I won't expect too much from him i guess. 

I don't know, but if he is so tired that he falls asleep in no time I think so yes. It would be different if he was playing computer games until 12 and let you do it all alone.

I never had a guy who went to work for me to make money. My ex worked for church but they didn't pay him. Well hardly.

My mom thought it was standard and normal that my dad always worked so much. I told her that she should be grateful that he did all that. She thought that was very weird. And then she said: You're right and she told him how great he was. Was a few years ago. It was cute.

It was a horrible job. He was a teacher. And my sister has videos from him in which he runs after her kids when they were small. I didn't know that he was so playful. I expected my mom to do that. He really enjoyed it. And I was like: awwww he just always worked because he felt he had to and he provided for us all. Even for my kids now. If it weren't for him we could have never done anything fun and would have lived in poverty.

But women who have a man who works 40 or more hours a week and then takes over at home and vacuums everything think that is just standard.

I saw a Norwegian woman on Facebook. She got a year paid parental leave. He got it too. They first stayed home together with the kid and he did a lot. She said: It would have been way too much if I had to do that alone. Then he started to work and she stayed home and then she worked full time and he stayed home. She said: I now know how it is for him to have worked all day.

[RdJ]

I'm a spoiled Dutch part time princess. One year of my life I worked 40 hours a week and it was a 10 minute bike to work. Poehoe. I was exhausted. So then I went to 36 and then to 32 until I got kids. Then first 2 days a week with paid parental leave and now 3.

There was a young guy at work. Here dads get a daddy day: a paid day off to take care of your kids. So almost nobody at my office works full time. But this young guy said he worked 40 hours a week and I said: Oh no! How horrible! Isn't that way too much? He looked at me like I was nuts. 🤣

[Gracejj]

17 hours ago, RdJ said:

I don't know, but if he is so tired that he falls asleep in no time I think so yes. It would be different if he was playing computer games until 12 and let you do it all alone.

I never had a guy who went to work for me to make money. My ex worked for church but they didn't pay him. Well hardly.

My mom thought it was standard and normal that my dad always worked so much. I told her that she should be grateful that he did all that. She thought that was very weird. And then she said: You're right and she told him how great he was. Was a few years ago. It was cute.

It was a horrible job. He was a teacher. And my sister has videos from him in which he runs after her kids when they were small. I didn't know that he was so playful. I expected my mom to do that. He really enjoyed it. And I was like: awwww he just always worked because he felt he had to and he provided for us all. Even for my kids now. If it weren't for him we could have never done anything fun and would have lived in poverty.

But women who have a man who works 40 or more hours a week and then takes over at home and vacuums everything think that is just standard.

I saw a Norwegian woman on Facebook. She got a year paid parental leave. He got it too. They first stayed home together with the kid and he did a lot. She said: It would have been way too much if I had to do that alone. Then he started to work and she stayed home and then she worked full time and he stayed home. She said: I now know how it is for him to have worked all day.

Thank you for sharing your experience. :)