trying not to disapoint my Jesus

[changinglives4christ]

Is there anyone that is married and you have found out that your husband is not attracted to you. Can anyone tell me what do you do when you fight every day to stay faithful to a man that doesn't notice you. you desire for him to hold and hug you but in return he tells you that sex or anything accociated with touching is not important. Please tell me what do you do. He is attracted to the type of women that you won't want to be seen with in public you know the type of women that you find on the XXX sights and I fight and I fight. I love Jesus so much and i don't want to disapoint him in any kind of way. Please help me!!!!!!!! we have a computer at home and I just hate it and I go some where else when I can to get on the computer . I don't want to fail but I am so tired. I am medium size and if a man don't desire a man such as my self why don't you let me go so I can be happy and romantic with someone that loves God as much as I do. What do I do?

[Bolts]

Greetings Sister in Jesus Precious Name.

Harlotry is a spirit of the world, which your husband is entangled in. The bible tells us that we do not wrestle against flesh and blood but against principalities and powers in high places -

Ehpesians 6:12.

It goes on to say in Colosians 2:15 that at the cross Our Lord and Saviour defeated them. Your battle is spiritual and is won in the spirit. Pray that the spirit of the Lord will show you what to pray and how to deal with the situation. It is the spirit of harlotry doing the damage. Your husband is covered by your faith in the Lord. If he chooses to leave he will also be leaving this holy covering. There are blessing in your household, answered prayer and many other things that are evidence of Gods presence with you. God loves you with an everlasting love. He will not force your husband or anyone else into a relationship with him, but he will make himself evident and give people the choice. You have chosen wisely

[Guest Ms.LiLi]

I am not married but I find that in life in general when you stop looking for things, that is when what you want will happen. Focus on God, get involved in the church more (though you do not want to neglect your husband in the process.) Ask him what his needs are. See if there is something you can do for him just as long as you are honoring God. Go to therapy that way you have some way to let your feelings out and have someone who is objective listen to you. Seek marital counseling to see if things can be worked out. Also, make sure you pray and ask God to bring him closer to you.

[SavedOne]

Only a few short years ago I fit the Description of your husband with regards to my wife. I guess you should know that my attitude had not taken me to the point of cheating on her with my Body, but God knows my heart and eyes cheated on here almost constantly and to my incredible embarassment later I actually rubbed it in here face,(I made sure she knew I was) . I finally came to the Point that I said to God..." I have to get out of this mess and unhappy marriage". So at least I Got one thing right I asked the right Authority.

Anyway I actually did start to move out... but I couldn't ... it meant I was moving out on my children as well!!!! You will notice later that this was only the reason I told myself I wasn't leaving, not the real reason. God immediately started to ask me questions.... not trying to be funny but the first thing that came to my head was "WWJD", What would Jesus do? Again through the Grace of God I already knew what Jesus would do from reading the Gospels many, many times since childhood. So you think this never happens to those who believe ... I was saved at this time and was actually doing Missionary and Evangelist work at least half of every year..

So the next Question God asked me was, " Is your wife Ugly in my eyes", I had to say ofcourse not in your eyes and hey " Yah know God she really isn't in my eyes either... I can still see the woman I married some 20+ years ago... God's Next Question was " Is she Loveable in My eyes?" Well of cource God you Love every body was my answer.... and wait a second I never said I didn't love here. Ooops " and the Greatest of thes is Love", came immediately to mind and I realized I was a liar. too. Nobody could be so hurting to another human being and and claim they Loved them right..??????? \\\\\\\\

So what was going on.... #1 I didn't Love myself and Frankly it was much easier for me to love a complete stranger than someone close to me...#2 I have absolutely no doubt the devil and the world was egging me on, (no excuse just obvious in hindsight) , and #3 I was judging my wife on the gifts God had blessed me with instead of with the gifts he had blessed here with. Love, Service to her Family, loyalty to her freinds and me, personal modesty, and above all else the ability to still keep trying when I had already given up on our relationship.

Anyway to make a long story short... I now look forward to spending the rest of my life beside here and you know what.... now that I actually "practice What I Preach" she out worships me and out witnesses me everyday... which ofcourse she always did... but not just the way I in my ultimate all knowingness knew she was supposed to????? YA RIGHT. My only point here is it can happen... two married people can fall apart and then fall back together.... and as you can see it wasn't her fault any of the time. I beg you to Pray constantly for God's will to be dome in this situation.

IN THE END IT WAS MY WIFES COMMITMENT TO ME AND HER CONSTANT PRAYERS TO GOD THAT WOKE ME UP .... NEEDLESS TO SAY MY WORK FOR GOD IS MANY TIMES MORE FRUITFULL NOW, TOO.....AND YOU KNOW WHAT GOD NEVER GAVE UP ON ME EITHER... A WIFE THAT SEEMED TO BE A BURDEN, BECAME A BLESSING.... WHEN I CHOSE TO SEE THINGS THROUGH GOD'S EYES, INSTEAD OF THE devil's. AND THEN THE SCALES FELL OF MY EYES AND I SAW THE WIFE I HAD MARRIED, AND ALL OF THE REASONS I HAD LOVED HERE ENOUGH TO MARRY HERE SOON BECAME CLEAR AGAIN, TOO.

[Matthitjah]

Wow!

SavedOne,

I can hear the Love of God dripping out of your post.

The Lord Bless you brother.

Never stop praying, never. Jeremiah 33:3

Peace,

Dave