is 19 too young to get married?

[>> Hannah <<]

Thank you, what you said is really helpful. some times i just sit and look at ash, without him knowing or he gets paranoid lol and i scream inside n thank god for him. n i am overcome with such love and thanks for him. the problem i have is my mood fluctuates so much its very difficult to cope with. Me n ash cope with things very differently.i dont even know what to put. Theres no doubt in my mind that i love him. but from the aray of posts i have had bak, i dont know what direction to go in. only i can know feel whatever the word is whether or not i feel gods will to marry ash this year. this is just tearing me apart.

[Constant]

Thank you, what you said is really helpful. some times i just sit and look at ash, without him knowing or he gets paranoid lol and i scream inside n thank god for him. n i am overcome with such love and thanks for him. the problem i have is my mood fluctuates so much its very difficult to cope with. Me n ash cope with things very differently.i dont even know what to put. Theres no doubt in my mind that i love him. but from the aray of posts i have had bak, i dont know what direction to go in. only i can know feel whatever the word is whether or not i feel gods will to marry ash this year. this is just tearing me apart.

Maybe you two should wait a while longer to get married. There should be no doubt that is what you want to do when you do it but, it sounds like you are confused about it. If you two are meant for each other, wait a little while longer until you are about to jump for joy and nothing else matters besides your wedding day!

[>> Hannah <<]

thats the problem i have constant cos some days there is no doubt at all and i am about to jump for joy and nothing else does matters besides my wedding day!my doubts arent that ash hasnt been put into my life by god for a reason. my doubts arent that we dont love each ohter enough.and my doubts arent that i cant see myself spending the rest of my life with him. my doubts are that i dont get why ash loves me. and how we are going to cope! x

[Iryssa]

i can imagine ash writing something similar to that post in a few years Ronald, im not 100% clear why were doing it now, i do love him. there is no rush. just hard to back out n stop plans now wen its in 4 n a bit months

It's not as hard to cancel a wedding as it seems...believe me, I've done it.

hey Iryssa, how did you go about it? what did you say? how did he feel? x

I simply told him "we're not ready for this, as a couple." He actually agreed, though I'm sure he wasn't thrilled...he was, in a way, relieved. It was actually easier telling him than it was my family, but it was still just really simple, with a tone of finality, like "no, I'm not going to waffle on this decision." Of course, it was hard to actually get it out, but once it was out there, it was actually quite relieving. The only thing that worried me after that part was cancelling the hall (we got part of the deposit back because we gave them enough time to re-book it, but we did lose part of it...but I definitely don't regret it).

[Guest NewTroublegrim]

If your only question is "Why does he love me?" then you have no reason to feel so confused. The simple fact is that he does. Iwonder daily the same think about God and yet he loves me enough that he gave up his own flesh for me. And though I dont understand why he would love me, the fact that he does is what drives me on in my faith and enables me to serve him with a grateful heart and trust him with all that I am

[Constant]

If your only question is "Why does he love me?" then you have no reason to feel so confused. The simple fact is that he does. Iwonder daily the same think about God and yet he loves me enough that he gave up his own flesh for me. And though I dont understand why he would love me, the fact that he does is what drives me on in my faith and enables me to serve him with a grateful heart and trust him with all that I am

Yep!

[>> Hannah <<]

i aired a few of my concerns to ash tonight. his response was, "its all gonna be alright"

[>> Hannah <<]

Is it wrong for me to have any doubts or is it natural? surely i should give them to god. yet i still worry about stuff then. its a mad situation i am finding myself in, yet i am feeling more at peace with it, since i started this post. xx

[sheya joie]

Is it wrong for me to have any doubts or is it natural? surely i should give them to god. yet i still worry about stuff then. its a mad situation i am finding myself in, yet i am feeling more at peace with it, since i started this post. xx

Of course it's normal to have doubts before the wedding. This is one of the biggest decision of your life - and affects all the rest of your life - so it's normal to wonder are you doing the right thing, or about to mess up everything.

Before I got married, I wondered a lot about whether Larry was the right man for me. I spent months in prayer, reading my Bible, trying to be sure this was what the LORD wanted for me (and for Larry). But I also looked over how Larry and I met, and how it was absolutely the LORD who put us together.

Now I have a question for you: Have the two of you talked together about what you each expect from your lives together? Things such as when and whether you plan/hope to have children, and whether you expect to work or stay home after you have children. If there is something major the two of you fundamentally disagree on, and one of you would have to compromise, and you see that compromising on it would drive you crazy - better to figure that out now, and cancel the wedding if you need to.

[>> Hannah <<]

Is it wrong for me to have any doubts or is it natural? surely i should give them to god. yet i still worry about stuff then. its a mad situation i am finding myself in, yet i am feeling more at peace with it, since i started this post. xx

Of course it's normal to have doubts before the wedding. This is one of the biggest decision of your life - and affects all the rest of your life - so it's normal to wonder are you doing the right thing, or about to mess up everything.

Before I got married, I wondered a lot about whether Larry was the right man for me. I spent months in prayer, reading my Bible, trying to be sure this was what the LORD wanted for me (and for Larry). But I also looked over how Larry and I met, and how it was absolutely the LORD who put us together.

Now I have a question for you: Have the two of you talked together about what you each expect from your lives together? Things such as when and whether you plan/hope to have children, and whether you expect to work or stay home after you have children. If there is something major the two of you fundamentally disagree on, and one of you would have to compromise, and you see that compromising on it would drive you crazy - better to figure that out now, and cancel the wedding if you need to.

Yeh we have talked about all that. children, plans everything, the only thing we disagree on really is garlic. erm, i know what you mean about the lord absolutely putting u together. i feel that way too. my main concerns are how ash feels baout ti all and whether he feels the same? he is so laid bak about everything he is horizontal. whereas i get stressed about everything. really i shud follow his example to an extent. but i wonder whether he is just marrying me cos its convinient and not cos i am the love of his life and he couldnt imagine being without someone else ! none of this really makes sense,its basically just everything thats flying around in my head xx