The Power of the Mouth

[Catsmeow]

Guessa: I do think it's right and acceptable to have one special friend we can bare our hearts to.

I have a friend who no longer posts here on WBs (*except on rare occasion) and she's one I spill my guts to. If I'm having a bad day or something - I go to them and vent.

Some things I can talk to my husband about but some things I can't talk to him about, (some things only another female can relate to).

There's something to be said for the closeness and intimacy of a friend.

Someone hurt me pretty bad about a year ago. I went to my best friend and spilled my guts. I felt so much better afterwards because my friend was so supportive.

Sometimes we need to hear someone say, "I understand how you feel". There's just something about being "understood" and just knowing that someone cares.

[sagz4Christ]

Guessa: I do think it's right and acceptable to have one special friend we can bare our hearts to.

I have a friend who no longer posts here on WBs (*except on rare occasion) and she's one I spill my guts to. If I'm having a bad day or something - I go to them and vent.

Some things I can talk to my husband about but some things I can't talk to him about, (some things only another female can relate to).

There's something to be said for the closeness and intimacy of a friend.

Someone hurt me pretty bad about a year ago. I went to my best friend and spilled my guts. I felt so much better afterwards because my friend was so supportive.

Sometimes we need to hear someone say, "I understand how you feel". There's just something about being "understood" and just knowing that someone cares.

In so many ways our tongue is controlled not by what we feel or think as to what we hear!! Are we listening as well as we should?

I studied a tad on clear communication once a few years ago. Most of the study stuck with me, but I can't remember any details. One of the biggest things the book stressed in learning clear communication was active LISTENING!! And I am not talking about being quite while the other person is talking.

No, I am refering to listening to understand. Not already having something to say and listening to find a hole in the dialogue to stick your two cents in! (Guilty as charged)!! Anyway, it would do well for us to also study and practice our listening skills as well. Women could always learn more, but it is most important for men!

We tend toward fixing things. Something broke? We fix it! It's what we do. It is the HARDEST thing in the world for a man to sit there and listen to his wife's (or anyone else's) problems only to say at the end, "I understand." Women intuitivly know when to give advice and when to SHUT UP and empathize! Men struggle with that all the time.

This may or may not be one of the key reasons to have a friend outside of your marriage that you can confide in. I pray that both my future wife and myself will have someone like that when we get married.

Just food for thought

~your servant in Christ

[Voice Of God]

Jesus told us that whatsoever we SAY believing, will be given to us by the Father in heaven.  And WHATSOEVER does not exempt ANYTHING.  So that the final effect of our own murmuring and complaining is that we each have defiled ourselves, because God gave us what we said in belief

That is very powerful!

That is the truth!

It also goes along with... WHATSOEVER a man sows, that shall he reap.

[Faith1]

Guessa: I do think it's right and acceptable to have one special friend we can bare our hearts to.

Greetings Cat's

Oh I do absolutely agree with you. The Lord has made us social creatures and it is right for us to desire 'that special friend' like David and Johnathan! Indeed our Father has given us that need and desire for true fellowship.

I think the problem comes when we abuse that in perhaps breaking confidentiality without first checking with the person that has confided in us.

I have a very dear and special friend whom I trust completely. When she says she will pray for me I know she prays for me unceasingly, we support eachother in prayer. I have told her many many things that I really only talk with my Father about, yet I know she will keep my confidentiality and I her's because of the love we share for eachother that is grounded and rooted in Christ. Amen!

Thanks again Cat's for your post!

In Christ

Guessa

[Voice Of God]

Guessa: I do think it's right and acceptable to have one special friend we can bare our hearts to.

Greetings Cat's

Oh I do absolutely agree with you. The Lord has made us social creatures and it is right for us to desire 'that special friend' like David and Johnathan! Indeed our Father has given us that need and desire for true fellowship.

I think the problem comes when we abuse that in perhaps breaking confidentiality without first checking with the person that has confided in us.

I have a very dear and special friend whom I trust completely. When she says she will pray for me I know she prays for me unceasingly, we support eachother in prayer. I have told her many many things that I really only talk with my Father about, yet I know she will keep my confidentiality and I her's because of the love we share for eachother that is grounded and rooted in Christ. Amen!

Thanks again Cat's for your post!

In Christ

Guessa

I too, have a special brother in Christ that I can totally trust and rely on. We call ourselves "accountability partners". We hold ourselves accountable to each other to pray for one another as the Spirit leads, to confess our sins and failures, and also God uses us to sharpen each other as iron sharpens iron.

It is a blessing that you can have someone that you can totally confide in and trust. :t:

I believe that is one of the reasons why Jesus sent the deciples out 2 by 2!

[Anonymous]

Haven't seen ya around for a few days...where've been keeping yourself, Cats?

[Faith1]

Guessa: I do think it's right and acceptable to have one special friend we can bare our hearts to.

Greetings Cat's

Oh I do absolutely agree with you. The Lord has made us social creatures and it is right for us to desire 'that special friend' like David and Johnathan! Indeed our Father has given us that need and desire for true fellowship.

I think the problem comes when we abuse that in perhaps breaking confidentiality without first checking with the person that has confided in us.

I have a very dear and special friend whom I trust completely. When she says she will pray for me I know she prays for me unceasingly, we support eachother in prayer. I have told her many many things that I really only talk with my Father about, yet I know she will keep my confidentiality and I her's because of the love we share for eachother that is grounded and rooted in Christ. Amen!

Thanks again Cat's for your post!

In Christ

Guessa

I too, have a special brother in Christ that I can totally trust and rely on. We call ourselves "accountability partners". We hold ourselves accountable to each other to pray for one another as the Spirit leads, to confess our sins and failures, and also God uses us to sharpen each other as iron sharpens iron.

It is a blessing that you can have someone that you can totally confide in and trust. :t:

I believe that is one of the reasons why Jesus sent the deciples out 2 by 2!

Voice - Amen Are we actually agreeing on some issues?

How wonderful the Lord is, "iron sharpens iron" I love that term from the Bible

Your post above has truly been a blessing to me.

In Christ

Guessa

[JesusisGod2]

  I too, have a special brother in Christ that I can totally trust and rely on. We call ourselves "accountability partners". We hold ourselves accountable to each other to pray for one another as the Spirit leads, to confess our sins and failures, and also God uses us to sharpen each other as iron sharpens iron.

It is a blessing that you can have someone that you can totally confide in and trust.  :t:

I believe that is one of the reasons why Jesus sent the deciples out 2 by 2! 

Hi Voice,

good post, I heard a sermon preached on this very thing of an accountability partner.

The just of it was that in areas of sin that you are having extreme difficulties with a particular problem area of sin to do just what you have done, find a compadre you can trust in.

some areas if not all, can be pretty embaressing and you wouldnt want to just confide in just any one.

like the scriptures say "do not cast your pearls before swine"

There is power in confession of our sins to others, it brings about release, and yet it holds us accountable for our actions to these same people. and makes us aware that it is something we need to turn over to Jesus for complete release of the burden.

it also teaches us to have a heart of forgiveness knowing very well the weaknesses in others also exist in our being.

And it also lets others know they arent the only ones who are going through these trials and it helps to set them free of thier bondage.

My particular best friend beside Jesus who I can tell anything to, is my wife and what a wonderful blessing it is to be able to confide what ever to ones life partner and sister in the Lord.

Of course the ultimate one to confide in is our Lord!

Hey Cats!

where ya been sister? I've missed reading your post.

This one in particular is very powerful.

James says the tongue is like the rudder, it can either guide us to life or lead us to condemnation.

it also says that a gentle answer turns away wrath. the power of the tongue is incredable. I really look forward to reading further results of your study.

[Voice Of God]

[Catsmeow]

where ya been sister? I've missed reading your post.

Still around, brother. Just doing more "listening" than talking...you learn so much more that way.