not a good time

[cutiepie1497]

I haven't been to church since April 30th. I doubt I will go back Sunday because my back is killing me. I do not want to go back the following Wednesday because I don't want all the excitement of me coming back, it always ahppens and I do not like that. I do not feel accepted by the girls in my youth group, never really have at all. I moved and went to this church in 8th grade, I'm going into the 11th and don't have 1 strong friendship there. They have all known each other since pre-k so they all have their cliques, well I of course just showed up a few years ago. I love my church and its people to death, don't get me wrong, I just don't feel accepted in the youth group, at all. It's slowly killing me, and I do not trust anyone, so I have no one to confide in, and I really need that. I live for friendships and now that school is out for the summer I don't have that. It would help if I trusted just 1 person in the youth group, but I don't. Now that I haven't been to church I have nothing to live for.

[Guest ram_Jesus_is_Salvation]

First of all, you have to stop worrying. "Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known utno God." - Phillipians 4:6. "Be careful for nothing" means don't worry. We all have worries on the job, in our homes, at school, but Paul's advice is to turn your worries into prayers. Worry less! Pray more! Whenever you start to worry, stop and pray.

When we go to church, we do not go to be with our friends or to feel accepted, we go to worship our Lord Jesus Christ, do not lose your reason for going to church.

How can you say that now that you don't go to church you have nothing to live for!!! We live because of what Jesus Christ did for us.

[elkieDannsa' Air An Drochaid]

Dear cutie pie,

Our reason for living is our Living GOd Who made us and loves us and can bring us into relationship with HIm and an abundant life and future eternal in HIm and with HIm in the Family Of GOd. Jesus is JOY for you and LIFE!

Please look to JESUS , not people, not imperfect man, we have all been hurt ot even hurt someone. But that is not God , that is only man imperfect as we are.

Seek GOd and let HIm lead you to the church where you will have the friendships with other believers who are trustfull. TRUST JESUS< IF YOU CANT TRUST JESUS WHO CAN YOU TRUST... Ask Jesus to help you to trust HIm too. Go to church for God and to learn about the Lord and grow.. The friendships will come. Can't let your focus off Christ to the kids or whatever or you will play into the devils game of discouragement to live!

Keep your eyes on Christ!

FIrst of all trust GOd and lean not to your understanding nor make your relationship conditional with God over other people.

They are not God, never turn for the one who loves you and can help you!

http://www.fatherloveletter.com

Praying for you.

elkie

[InternalFlame]

I can understand where you are coming from by feeling like the odd one out - I've been that my entire life. I was always shy, so that never helped, and people would often just ridicule me rather than accept me.

But it doesn't matter what some humans think! All that matters is what God thinks, and we must let Him shape us, and not others. Don't let these people define who you are by their non-acceptance - you don't need it. Accept them, and accept God, and good things will come to you.

I will be your friend . Even if we can't hang out, it's still fun to talk online.

[darkest_red]

But it doesn't matter what some humans think! All that matters is what God thinks, and we .

Unfortunately, it isn't always that easy.

I have been in a similar position at you, except I was at college and everyone had their little cliques and, for whatever reason, I wasn't in any of them. I'm not really sure what advice to give you except don't run away from it, like I did. The course I was doing I absolutely loved but I couldn't take the whole not fitting in thing so I walked out. I regret that so much.

Have you tried sitting down with one of the groups and seeing how much you have in common?? Burst into one of these cliques and give it a go.

[cutiepie1497]

I wish I could just join in, but its not part of me, I jsut cannot do something like that. And yes, what people think does matter to me, I'm 16 and I NEED friendships.....

[darkest_red]

I wish I could just join in, but its not part of me, I jsut cannot do something like that. And yes, what people think does matter to me, I'm 16 and I NEED friendships.....

I totally understand where you're coming from.

Maybe you could try talking to one of them by themselves (if you ever get the opportunity) and take it from there??

[LadyRaven]

I haven't been to church since April 30th. I doubt I will go back Sunday because my back is killing me. I do not want to go back the following Wednesday because I don't want all the excitement of me coming back, it always ahppens and I do not like that. I do not feel accepted by the girls in my youth group, never really have at all. I moved and went to this church in 8th grade, I'm going into the 11th and don't have 1 strong friendship there. They have all known each other since pre-k so they all have their cliques, well I of course just showed up a few years ago. I love my church and its people to death, don't get me wrong, I just don't feel accepted in the youth group, at all. It's slowly killing me, and I do not trust anyone, so I have no one to confide in, and I really need that. I live for friendships and now that school is out for the summer I don't have that. It would help if I trusted just 1 person in the youth group, but I don't. Now that I haven't been to church I have nothing to live for.

Fellowship does not have to be with people your own age. You are practically an adult. I'm sure if you wanted to sit in on the adult sunday school and get closer with some of the older women you would feel better. Remember to keep your focus, sometimes we go through times when we are alone. We need to learn to lean on Christ during those times and not worry so much about the social things. If you don't feel comfortable with the youth group, why not instead try to serve your church, maybe help in the nursery or sing in the choir or get in ont he visitation team or something. You would still have fellowship but not necessarily with those girls/guys.

And don't forget to worship when at church rather than worry about who likes you. That isn't the reason to go.