Offence

[Inusia]

Could you remmember last events, that caused your personal offence?I find it realy cognitive to get acquainted with human's most popular reasons for offence and their deepest feelings about it. I just want all of you to be sincere sharing them in this topic.

[KeilanS]

Hmm, this is kind of a hard question to answer, most people don't really think about why they're offended. For me, I think it's basically when people laugh at me for doing something I want to do, because they think it's not worth it or it's not "right".

For example, when I started photography, some people laughed at me for spending $400 on a camera, they were just like "Why would you do that, you're only 15, you don't need a camera"... It just kind of bugged me because it was my money, and my interest, who are they to tell me I'm wrong?

Another example is my videogame habits. I don't play the violent shoot-em-ups very much, I'm into Mario and Sonic and the games that are often called "kiddy"... I get laughed at for this... so who are these people to make fun of me for what I want to play?

Hopefully that's what you were looking for.

God Bless

[Inusia]

It definitely is!Thank you! You know my offences are similar to yours - I don't like when my close friends laugh at me or tell me what I have to do not leaving me any choice. Personally I don't laugh and criticize other people 'cause I know that everyone should do what he thinks and believes is the best for him.

[kittylover0991]

I remember somewhere saying that we shouldn't get offended... I think that has something to do with "living the Christian life". Honestly, I think the last time I can actually remember being offended(just a little tired this morning), was a little while ago when we had a family friend over. We had gotten into the subject on modest dress, and mind you, I am still learning and at that point, I couldtn' explain very well to someone that close to my heart as to why women are to wear skirts... as I looked at her wearing pants and knowing she wouldnt' understand. That same night, there was an old church family member at the Staples or Michaels we were at, and I went to shake his hand, he tried to give me a hug.. then we went back and forth until we finally settled with the hug. I made a comment later to her because I remembered I had been spoken to one time by two ladies in the church abotu something I was doing that wasn't right, and they made a really small side comment about not hugging older men... I think that had something to do with when we had a VERY special person leaving our church(military) and I gave him a hug... he was like a brother to me in the Lord... Well, with this in mind, the friend of the family gave me this look and I knew she did'nt understand. I triedt o explain it to her, but I just didnt' have the verses. We didnt' say much the rest of that trip.

Then, at home, there was a discussion going on and we got onto drinking wine. No, I wasnt' asking for trouble, but I think someone had brought up "Well, Christians drink wine at communion" and tried to explain why that was wrong. I can't remember what my brother said.. but it got me upset... and then he started cursing me out so I went upstairs. As soon as I got upstairs(my dad had already gone to sleep), that "family friend" starting telling my mom and my brother that she believes I am brainwashed, and that my church is doing the brainwashing. That had me so upset. The fact taht my mom and brother were agreeing then put me in fear that my parents woudl take me out of the church. I stayed upstairs and just listened to the conversation until they changed topics. The next morning, my dad came home from work(he works nights), and noticed that I was upset and I talked to him about it. He told me that my mom has alwasy thougth I was brainwashed, but taht he didnt' believe so. Even though he does go, my dad loves my church and he loves someone there who is currently an assistant to the pastor. He told me that he likes me going to this church because it isn't a cult, and he knows that I am not going to end up like a lot of those teenage girls of the friends he has.

I went on the church bus, and talked to a lady there, actually one of the ones who had told me about the hugging thing.. and I told her what happened. We talked just about the entire bus ride.... Well, after I got back home, taht family friend had been by again.. actually, I think she was there Monday so I had a chance to cool down on Sunday... yeah... but, that Monday night, we were sitting in teh living room because my dad had gone to find something. I finally gave up because it was awkward and I told her that I heard everything that she had said Saturday night. We started talking about it and then it came to the subject of salvation. Turns out, she believes in good works, but she changed the subject. My dad called us in to the table(in other words, he found it finally ) and as we sat there, I told her that I talked to the lady on the church bus and got the verses that back up what we had talked about Saturday.... before I coudl explain any more.. she flipped on me about talking about what goes on in "this house" and "her personal business" to a stranger.. then she said, "I'm sorry I offended you about the skirt".

I have prayed about this, and I continue to do so becuase, as I think you can tell, I still get upset about it when I think about it. So she thinks I'm brainwashed? I only listened to every single one of her problems every time she comes over. Ok, and now in my head I am wondering if she is on these boards and will see this and flip out. whatever, I doubt it. But, she had me so upset for the longest time and in my head, I keep thinking of things I could ahve siad, but the Lord keeps reminding me that it was better not to have said anythign, let her go off, than to ruin that one testimony I have with her. Oh yes, when she was talking that night, she bashed my church because she had been there before and my pastor was doing a sunday school lesson(in depth) abotu only using the KJV.

Why as I offended? I kept saying "SHe said I was brainwashed!!!". That is why I was offended. Not so much that she was talking about my pastor, my church, and ruining what little testimony I actually have with my mom... I was offended that "she said I was brainwashed." Selfish.

However, the Lord has used this. I am a lot more careful in what I say to her, when she talks about religion now, I know she is not saved. And even more than this, the Lord has given me a strong desire to be able to back up what I believe in. For a long time, I believed certain things but coudl never explain them. I am on this strange.. "quest" if you will to have verses memorized to back up everything that I believe so I can explain it to someone. I have friends who can't explain why they believe a certain thing.. they "just do".... and it just about drives me crazy because they are being decieved by men and don't even know that it contridicts what the bible says.

lol, whatever.. my offense? selfish...

wow...great thread! I have never looked at why I was really offended about this situation. Maybe I'll be able to allow the Lord to work better at helping me to forgive

Crystal

[Marnie]

I was in a very large (several thousand) church in California, visiting, and was singled out, hauled up on "stage," a mic thrust in my face and asked to "testify." I was offended because I can't speak, nobody asked me beforehand, they just assumed I would do it and when I didn't they joked about it and gently rebuked me. I, in typical fashion, responded with sign language (not ASL in this case). Sometimes Christians can be very thoughtless.

[Catsmeow]

I'm offended when people sit in a restaurant next to me and talk as loud as they can on their cell phone.

[Catsmeow]

I was in a very large (several thousand) church in California, visiting, and was singled out, hauled up on "stage," a mic thrust in my face and asked to "testify." I was offended because I can't speak, nobody asked me beforehand, they just assumed I would do it and when I didn't they joked about it and gently rebuked me. I, in typical fashion, responded with sign language (not ASL in this case). Sometimes Christians can be very thoughtless.

Marnie, we live in a world of thoughtless, insensitive people. I'm disabled and walk with a cane. People slam doors in my face, barge in front of me because I can't walk as fast...and mow me over at the store.

Dear one, the fact that they "rebuked" you for not doing their bidding reveals their own embarassment and maybe, just maybe they'll think FIRST before they volunteer people first without asking.

[billie]

My husband offends me all the time! I think it's not so much him being offensive as it is me being sensitive, so I ask the Lord to help me forgive and forget. And He does!

[KeilanS]

Ah, I thought of another thing I can't stand. This is probably a common one but it really ticks me off when a guy tries to abuse a girl in any way. Like I have some friends who go on webcam with girls and make little jokes about how they should take off their clothes. It just really ticks me off seeing guys (or girls I guess) dating for popularity or in hopes of getting some physical pleasure out of it or trying to take advantage of people in any way.

[Catsmeow]

I seldom get personally offended as the Lord has blessed me with very thick skin.

The things I find the most offensive are people harming those who are unable to defend themselves such as children and the elderly.

Amen, KatyAnn. My husband is 85 and believe me, I see people ignore or "blow off" the elderly all the time, especially doctors.

I have to take a firm stand and protect him or heaven knows what would become of him. He simply cannot defend himself. He's so overwhelmed....I can see why some are forced into nursing homes. Without a strong family support, they're easy prey by those who'd gladly take advantage of them.