Offence

[Iryssa]

Yeah, I'm far more sensitive to people I love being hurt than I am myself. I honestly don't care what most people think of me.

One thing that really offends me, actually, is seeing people being rude to customer sevice people...I try to speak up about it whenever I can, because when you're in a customer service position, it's almost impossible to defend youself (stupid "the customer is always right" policy...people seem to think the customer is even right when they're being abusive).

[Inusia]

Wow! Thank you all for your sincere answers - I was excited reading 'em.

I have another question about personal offences. Do we always have to tell our offenders about what we feel or such straightforwardness should have some borders?

I have only 4 people in my life, who can easily offend me - 'cause I am very sensitive to offensive actions and words of people I treasure. Other people opinions and actions can't affect me. And I always try to clarify the situation. I believe that there is no use to hide your feelings if something hurts you, that's why I prefer to discuss, not to ignore.

It would be great to get your opinions!

[KeilanS]

Wow! Thank you all for your sincere answers - I was excited reading 'em.

I have another question about personal offences. Do we always have to tell our offenders about what we feel or such straightforwardness should have some borders?

I have only 4 people in my life, who can easily offend me - 'cause I am very sensitive to offensive actions and words of people I treasure. Other people opinions and actions can't affect me. And I always try to clarify the situation. I believe that there is no use to hide your feelings if something hurts you, that's why I prefer to discuss, not to ignore.

It would be great to get your opinions!

I believe that sometimes and only sometimes should you confront them about it. For example say you're getting bullied at school. Going out and saying it really bugs you will do nothing but make them bother you more. It's just not worth the effort, better to turn and walk away without a word. But if it's a friend or family member doing it, either knowingly or without knowing, then it is best to confront them.

[Brandli5]

I take Offence when someone I am talking to lies to me.

I also take offence even if I am not suppose to or not when someone makes fun of God. You know those cartoons, or mean sayings people will come up with. Those Get my heart hurting. I think its because I know the judgement that comes along with such garbage.

[billie]

I get offended when people say,"Oh my God!"

I get offended when people try to manipulate me.

[passiondaze]

I get offended when I am in a store and the clerk just acts like I am inconviencing them because they have to ring my stuff up, or they are talking to another clerk about what their going to do after work; like I'm not even there. They don't even count the change back, they just put it in your hand and don't say have a nice day or anything. I still tell them thank you very much and have a blessed day, sometimes it is hard to for me to say it, but I still do.

I don't confront them with the fact they offended me. I just pray for understanding and patience then try to let it go.

[kittylover0991]

Ok.. I thought of a few more while reading this...

Honestly, I think what offends me the most, is not so much the people that make fun of my God... it is the people that claim "tolerance" and shove "tolerance" down other people's throat(including my own) and then turn around and bash someone's belief in their face

lol, this happened just a few months ago for me

There is a boy, a unitarian universalist that I have talked about enough times on here(mostly about how to talk to him abotu Christ), and he was ALWAYS telling me I need to be tolerant.. he was even talking abotu doing a tolerance workshop for the program that I am in.. he even dragged me upstairs with him to director's office of the program to discuss it with her.. lol

Well, later.. I would say a few weeks later... We were going into AP Euro class and there was an idiot boy in the class... we know him well... very foul mouth dealing with curse words, very nasty talk, and does'nt really care about anybody else. His old girlfriend said he became a jerk over the summer... But, that's beside the point... He was saying that he finally got "the whole thing with Mary" that "god had sex with mary" *shudder*

As I said, he really is a "jerk" so I tried not to let it bother me too much... but.. then.. the boy I was tlaking about, the unitarian universalist say, "Oh no, I got it! Jesus was a female".. based off the scientific "A sexual reproduction" in which one animal can have children without another animal .. just the offspring would have to be female...

I didn't hear him the first time.. and a friend said it me, "Hey Crystal, did you hear what __ said? Come on ___, repeat it, she didn't heart". I didn't hear the second time. I asked him what he said again, and then he said that Jesus must have been female. I was upset with him that entire day and I coudlnt' believe him.

This boy had become very dear to my heart in the sense that he is on his way to hell, and he is a dear friend to me. I finally gave up and that night, i wrote him a wonderful little email abotu tolerance lol That was the "last straw" for that day lol I wrote him an email asking what tolernace was.. I told him what the program says tolerance is "accpeting that everyone else's belief is as right as your own".. and what tolerance really is: "Accepting that others may have different beliefs than you, but still being able to get along with them, and be able to work with them"..

I went on to tell him how others have shoved tolerance down my throat. Then I told him how I didnt' appreciate what he had said that day... how with the other boy, I was used to his ignorance, but with "you"... I basically told him that if he ever said anythign like that to me again.. I would go to the wonderful director of the program and tell her how he has been intolerant of MY beliefs.. considering... that is who he always talks to baout tolerance..

okay yeah.. I was upset and maybe I didn't handle it right.. but you know? That one person and I are closer now... we no longer have that thing of "tolerance" keepign us apart.. He knows that I can't stand it when people talk abotu my God... I explained that in the email... lol We discuss things from time to time.. and emailign has been a way now of getting out the gospel to him because I freeze up when I try and talk to people And.. just the other day.. I was able to tell him all about what Jesus did and I know he read it .. he said.. "You have the greatest faith that I have ever seen; it will carry you far". We went from there and so on.. but what a blessing, although I was offended, stood up and said it wasn't right.. and now we have another open door for talking abotu salvation

Crystal

[Guest takuma]

Hey, people.

The topic is quite interesting. I don

[LadyRaven]

Could you remmember last events, that caused your personal offence?I find it realy cognitive to get acquainted with human's most popular reasons for offence and their deepest feelings about it. I just want all of you to be sincere sharing them in this topic.

The last time I was offended it was because I felt taken advantage of by someone and then they asked me for something else...

[buckthesystem]

I get really offended when people tell me about something dishonest they they did, something they stole or some dishonesty they would want to do in a particular situation and then say "but you'd do it too, of course, wouldn't you", or "I'd be a fool not to, don't you think?"

I don't like people assuming anything about me, particularly that as I only work in a factory that I am not very bright, or that I am dishonest. It is as if they are trying to justify their own behaviour by association.

I think life would be a lot easier if we could all be more trusting of each other, and people would say plainly if you someone has offended them.

The most offensive thing of all is when people are in superior postion to me (which is just about everybody I know now) and they say something that is obviously erroneous and expect me to believe it.

Still, despite this, I believe that people are generally good and if they have a genuine love of God, he will take care of those things.