Encouragement vs. Flattery

[Guest lovinghim4ever]

ENCOURAGEMENT vs. FLATTERY

(from my book)

Always offer encouragement instead of using flattery.

There is a big difference between the two.

Flattery is a crutch one uses when one wants to get something.

Encouragement is a gift one offers when one wants to give something.

So, are you an encourager or a flatterer; a giver or a getter?

[AMK]

ENCOURAGEMENT vs. FLATTERY

(from my book)

Always offer encouragement instead of using flattery.

There is a big difference between the two.

Flattery is a crutch one uses when one wants to get something.

Encouragement is a gift one offers when one wants to give something.

So, are you an encourager or a flatterer; a giver or a getter?

Both!

It is possible to flatter someone by encouraging them or encourage someone by flattering them

[Joshua-777]

hmm, yay!

flattery- increases pride, and brings someone to a point where they don't want to grow, also believe it or not, is concidered a form of manipulation.

encouragement, increases esteem, and keeps a person wanting to keep trying and keep persuing, And lifts a persons spirit up.

Thats how I define the two

I'm for encouragement!

[billie]

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[AMK]

What is the difference between praise and flattery?

Should I just encourage people to go forward without making them feel important?.

See below:

Thankyou for your imput. I do encourage you to continue, But of course I won,t flatter you by telling you that you are so smart in case you get the idea that I am trying to make you do something you don,t want to do

I see what you are all getting at,But its not always the case that someone flatters someone for there own gain or just to get something from someone else

[AMK]

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[Guest lovinghim4ever]

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[billie]

What is the difference between praise and flattery?

Should I just encourage people to go forward without making them feel important?.

See below:

Thankyou for your imput. I do encourage you to continue, But of course I won,t flatter you by telling you that you are so smart in case you get the idea that I am trying to make you do something you don,t want to do

I see what you are all getting at,But its not always the case that someone flatters someone for there own gain or just to get something from someone else

It isn't our job to "make people feel" anything. Everyone is important. If a person doesn't know this, the only person who can communicate this to them is Jesus. He's who we find our true self in. We can teel people they're important. That's great. We should, but the only way this truth will ever really be able to hit home is when it comes from the Lord.

[billie]

So flatery can be excessive praise. Thats funny because I love it when people overpraise me about my skills. I,ll even let them kiss my feet if they want One of the good points of my work is that my customers see the results. There is such a great reward in praise as feedback. Actualy knowing that the customer is overwhelmingly pleased as apposed to not knowing. Of course when it comes to mission work with people the reward is not so much in what the customer see,s but what God see,s

Don't you find it insulting when people are obviously stretching the truth in regards to your skills? If I believe I've lived up to what they're saying about me, I do like it, but when someone's going way past reality with their "flattery", I know there's going to be a pricetag up ahead.

Praise, when it's earned, is great, but not if it's insincere, and if it's excessive, that means it's disproportionate to the goal that's been reached. This is where it goes beyond praise or encouragemnet, and into flattery.

It sounds like what you're talking about doing is praise or encouragement, not flattery, anyway.

[Guest lovinghim4ever]

Don't you find it insulting when people are obviously stretching the truth in regards to your skills? If I believe I've lived up to what they're saying about me, I do like it, but when someone's going way past reality with their "flattery", I know there's going to be a pricetag up ahead.

Praise, when it's earned, is great, but not if it's insincere, and if it's excessive, that means it's disproportionate to the goal that's been reached. This is where it goes beyond praise or encouragemnet, and into flattery.

It sounds like what you're talking about doing is praise or encouragement, not flattery, anyway.

Very well said Billie! Thanks again!