Nephew in trouble needs prayer

[hope47]

I need some advice here.I have a nephew that I believe is back on drugs.He has stolen from me and my mother.I feel sorry for him because his mother,my sister, passed away 3 years in May.He never has had much of a relationship with his father,and I don't know what to do.My mother has been living with me for a while now maybe 3 months,after the first month,which had been great,my nephew got out of jail and didn't have anywhere to go,so I let him come here.First I caught him in my mothers purse,he wasn't able to get anything so I just fussed a little and let it go. The very next day I missed things from my purse,so I made him leave,he went to my mothers house where no one was staying,but all her things were there.I thought well he will have to buy his own food,gas etc.maybe this was what he needed.Yesterday a friend of mine was shopping and saw him go into a pawn shop and she called me to see if everything was okay.I didn't know my mother had gave him permission to charge a few things at ace hardware and when she heard my conversation with my friend she called them to make sure he had only charged the things he was gave permission to charge,well he had also charged a drill that he then turned right around and took to pawn.At this point my mother wanted me to take her to her house to check on it.When we got there her T.V."s were gone and he had taken all her things out of her bedroom and dumped them in another room,and had moved all his things into her bedroom.Why he did this I don't understand he had a room of his own there.My mother has a really nice home,better than the one I live in,but I din't want to leave my home that is why she had been staying with me.My older sister had planed to move in after the first of the year so Mom could stay in her own home if she wanted to, or stay with me some of the time.The only reason she hadn't moved yet was because he was there and she was afraid of what he might steal from her.So now it has reached a point of what do you do with him? While we were at my mothers I found some of his supplies he uses to use his drugs,so I am sure he has started that again.I know if I call the police he will go to the pen,the big house,not just jail,because he is on probation now.Also if I just throw him out he can still steal, and do his drugs.If we were to find him dead I feel it would be my fault because at least in the pen he is alive.My mother has always protected him and financed him with money so he has never really had to work,but she is no longer in a position to do this.What would you all do in a case like this,because at this point I am ready for a nervous breakdown.Please pray for him and me and the whole family because this is affecting us all.Any advice will help.Thank-You All for being here.God Bless You.

[ted]

Hi Hope,

I know this is a difficult time for you, but there comes a time when you have to enforce what you know to be true. What is true is that he cannot continue to treat you or your family like this for much longer.

Somehow, he has to be shown that what he is doing will no longer be tolerated. He already knows that his actions are wrong, so what needs to be done now is for someone to show him that there are only a limited number of wrongs which he can get away with.

Before I go much further, would you be comfortable with sharing some basic information with me about him?

Namely:

His age, his status concerning salvation or a relationship with God, his actual addictions (crack, heroin, meth, etc...), his number of prior offences with related drugs and stuff, and any disabilities if pertenant to the situation.

Thanks, and may the Lord comfort you and your family during this time. It's surely a storm, but one that can be weathered.

Peace,

t.

[billie]

[hope47]

Hi Hope,

I know this is a difficult time for you, but there comes a time when you have to enforce what you know to be true. What is true is that he cannot continue to treat you or your family like this for much longer.

Somehow, he has to be shown that what he is doing will no longer be tolerated. He already knows that his actions are wrong, so what needs to be done now is for someone to show him that there are only a limited number of wrongs which he can get away with.

Before I go much further, would you be comfortable with sharing some basic information with me about him?

Namely:

His age, his status concerning salvation or a relationship with God, his actual addictions (crack, heroin, meth, etc...), his number of prior offences with related drugs and stuff, and any disabilities if pertenant to the situation.

Thanks, and may the Lord comfort you and your family during this time. It's surely a storm, but one that can be weathered.

Peace,

t.

He is 22 years old,He was saved at the age of 12 during bible school.He is addicted to several different drugs but I would say the worse if there is such a thing would be his cocaine intravenous use.That is when he steals.He has had 3 DUI's,but all of these happened in a few short months after his mother died.He doesn't really have any disabilities but he is kind of slow in his thinking.Nothing on paper but I think it is there or it could just be the drugs.Thank you so much for your time and concern.God Bless You Hope 47

[stafy]

Hi Hope,

I know this is a difficult time for you, but there comes a time when you have to enforce what you know to be true. What is true is that he cannot continue to treat you or your family like this for much longer.

Somehow, he has to be shown that what he is doing will no longer be tolerated. He already knows that his actions are wrong, so what needs to be done now is for someone to show him that there are only a limited number of wrongs which he can get away with.

Before I go much further, would you be comfortable with sharing some basic information with me about him?

Namely:

His age, his status concerning salvation or a relationship with God, his actual addictions (crack, heroin, meth, etc...), his number of prior offences with related drugs and stuff, and any disabilities if pertenant to the situation.

Thanks, and may the Lord comfort you and your family during this time. It's surely a storm, but one that can be weathered.

Peace,

t.

He is 22 years old,He was saved at the age of 12 during bible school.He is addicted to several different drugs but I would say the worse if there is such a thing would be his cocaine intravenous use.That is when he steals.He has had 3 DUI's,but all of these happened in a few short months after his mother died.He doesn't really have any disabilities but he is kind of slow in his thinking.Nothing on paper but I think it is there or it could just be the drugs.Thank you so much for your time and concern.God Bless You Hope 47

Saved at 12yrs means, he was still under his mothers spiritual umbrella, he's not gone on to baptism, so it's safe to say you are basically dealing with a non beleiver. The drugs :

1. kill of brain cells hence perhaps the reason for a little slow

drugs always open a demonic doorway.

you are dealing with some serious stuff here and are going to need professional help.

Here is the starting piont apart from prayer of course, He has got to want to either get off drugs and or want to come to the lord. If this is not going to happen then I sorry but it is time to protect your mum and sister and you. As a guy I can easily say this but the working out of the reality will be quite difficult, TIME TO CUT HIM LOSE. You are not responcibly for the decissions of another adult, when that adult knows better. but if you continue to protect him, he will never be confronted with the consecences of his own actions. And as an adult he needs to be confronted with the realities of the consecences of his actions and life stlye.

[Leonard]

I would report it to the police, and have this little moron thrown in jail. Right now jail is the best place for this delinquent.

Toss him out of your lives until such time as he is ready to behave like a civilized person with a sense of gratitude for your kindnesses.

[ted]

Hi Hope!

I hope (no pun intended) that you got my PM. I'll be back on tomorrow night and will get back with you then (Fri evening).

Prayers until then.

t.

[sotphmfm]

I sent you a pm and will pray for you to have guidance by the Lord.