renewal of wedding vows

[RedeemedByHim]

Ok you all..I have two questions for anyone...

Ok..first..when we got married...we rushed into the whole thing. Now i love my husband with all my heart. However, I didn't get to have the wedding of my dreams. I think we meant our vows and all...just not really ready for marriage.

Now I really want to renew our vows...Brandon is like sure whatever ...if you want to...but then each time I mention it, he puts it way off...

Now to go with my first question: Am I being unreasonable? I know some people tell me that we are married now and that is all that matters. We just go from here. What are your thoughts?

ALso, IF we do renew our vows. I need ideas. I would love to have a Jewish wedding since the Jewish wedding is a beautiful picture of our salvation, so if anyone in here is from the Jewish descent, could you maybe give me some ideas? Thanks.

Tina

[Guest LadyC]

you aren't being unreasonable. i can't give you suggestions on a jewish wedding or anything, but i can say that i convinced my hubby to renew our vows because it's the only "gift" i wanted for our anniversary... well, that and the anniversary ring that we'd had made. i wanted him to put the new ring on my finger with a new ceremony. our first one was done in our home, and it was absolutely perfect. but our renewal ceremony was nice, too... had a few friends present, i got to wear a wedding gown that i got for $30 off ebay, mark was dressed up, yada yada. i still cherish the memory of our real wedding over the renewal, but we'd had a very rough year that year, so this one was just as important.

tell him that's what you want for your anniversary

[RedeemedByHim]

you aren't being unreasonable. i can't give you suggestions on a jewish wedding or anything, but i can say that i convinced my hubby to renew our vows because it's the only "gift" i wanted for our anniversary... well, that and the anniversary ring that we'd had made. i wanted him to put the new ring on my finger with a new ceremony. our first one was done in our home, and it was absolutely perfect. but our renewal ceremony was nice, too... had a few friends present, i got to wear a wedding gown that i got for $30 off ebay, mark was dressed up, yada yada. i still cherish the memory of our real wedding over the renewal, but we'd had a very rough year that year, so this one was just as important.

tell him that's what you want for your anniversary

That is really cool...

[Guest Biblicist]

Having the wedding of your dreams is not as important as having the marriage of your dreams.

I understand your desire though and hope you understand that the wedding day is never about the man. So if you want to get your man interested in it, make sure there is food.

When we married, my husband showed up, we got married, had our 2 week honeymoon and then he left for Germany. He say's it was the perfect set up.

How long have you been married?

[Marnie]

First, there is nothing wrong with a renewal of vows. Mike and I are doing that in a couple of months; a "dream wedding," if you will. Brandon is a guy, he'll go along with it but likely won't get excited about it. A wedding is usually the bride's day. The groom just shows up. So, don't let his attitude got all over you.

Second, if you check the Ladies Forum, I'll put up some info about Jewish wedding rites and traditions. It's a little long for here.

[RedeemedByHim]

been married 2 1/2 years

[Guest LadyC]

butero,

it's a woman thing

[RedeemedByHim]

I don't think there is anything wrong with renewing wedding vows, but also don't see the need for it. It is not like the marriage license expires or anything. I know of a lot of couples that had extravagant weddings, only to have their marriage end in short order, and know of others that got married in a small ceremony and remained married. Of course, that is from a guy's perspective. The thing I would hate to see is the two of you having an argument over this. If your husband is uncomfortable with the idea, I wouldn't recommend pushing it. As far as God sees it, the two of you are married, regardless of whether it was by a justice of the peace, or in an extravagant ceremony.

we haven't really argued over it...we just keep talking about it in passing...

[Marnie]

If you don't get what I am saying, don't feel bad. I still have trouble understanding how women think. I'm better than I used to be, but not much.

Give this man a gold star! At least he admits it.

[RedeemedByHim]

If you don't get what I am saying, don't feel bad. I still have trouble understanding how women think. I'm better than I used to be, but not much.

Give this man a gold star! At least he admits it.

I agree...he does deserve a gold star..You think you could talk to my husband????