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Maybe you are right maybe not, but personally a book on Christians and divorce may be a good thing. I would love a book like that. I just had my husband abandon me a few months ago and completely cut me out of his life. THis has been the hardest thing I have ever encountered and because my husband said he loved God, I often question God's love for me and how this could happen. I also was in an abusive marriage. I agree on the publicity thing, but I also side with Bynum that she shouldn't have to live with abuse. I totally understand her wanting to be done.

I will be praying for you. I don't have the words to say and as I am posting I have tears in my eyes...My husband did not love me. For three and a half years he called me horrible names and put me down constantly and I put up with it cause I thought I deserved it. Two months ago I came out east to visit my sick grandma who I had not seen since I was sixteen. My husband called me the night before I was to return home and told me he no longer wanted to be married and then changed his phone numbers. This is one of the most painful things I have ever experienced. But I don't want to talk about me cause this is about you, but I will be praying for you.

Sister, you do not have to wait for your husband to act to get on with your life. Start now! Seek the guidance of His Spirit and His leading as to where you are to go from here. The mail will come, and the day will come and go, but this should never be the reason not to seek what He has for you at this moment. If you turn it all over to Him, and not take it back, He will give you the peace you seek. Put all this aside and know that He will lead you in His love. Remember, when we have our eyes on Him, then his fruits will flourish in us. When we take our eyes off of Him, then our flesh will flourish. I understand how this is hard, for I have been through two divorces in the past and my present wife is starting another. The first was easy on me, for I was just a kid and there was no love at all. The second dragged on for years, because I did not want to let go and she did not want to file for I had the kids. Yet, during these two, I was not following God. This one is harder on me, for I am now following the Lord and will not file myself. I don't want this marriage to end either, but if it be because my wife no longer loves me, there is nothing that I can do but to give it to God and move on. I encourage you strongly to seek His will for you now, not later, and leave your broken heart at the cross. In His Love, Alan Thanks...I just got really down last night and that post was in a desperate cry for help. I did not marry for love, but at the same time, I was willing to make my marriage work. Yesterday was just an especially difficult day.

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Going through this is so much harder than I would have imagined. Here I am waiting on the papers to come in the mail for our separation. (In Minnesota I guess you have to be separated first) But anyhow, my husband has completely cut me out of his life. There is no way that I can get a hold of him. I cry at the oddest times and then can't stop. I am filled with so many emotions right now. I am angry, hurt, sad, confused, in shock. I just want the pain to be gone and all of this to be over with so I can get on with my life.

Thank you all for the prayers. Right now I am just leaning on Jesus. I am living with my aunt and uncle and going to church with them. Their church has already shown me so much love. Even the ones who know all of the background. (My aunt works in the church office) Two couples have given me money for clothes which was unexpected. But today I am going to go get my hair cut. The hardest thing to imagine is how Brandon would just cut me out of his life as if the last three and a half years mean nothing to him. But you all are right. It was not a good "church" and I had tried before to leave cause I was seeing stuff that didn't line up with the Word of God. But each time, I just wanted to be with my husband so I ended up staying with the church. Even though our marriage was not a good one, i have never been single in my life. This is the first time for me. And so like I told my Aunt, Jesus is the only man in my life right now and He will be for a long time.

I honestly don't know what to say either. I can't at this time go into a lot of detail because of how emotional it is for me still. But I have been in a very controlling and abusive church. almost cult like from what others have told me. Although I won't go that far. So, I decided to leave. When I came out here to visit family my husband was spending alot of time with his pastors. He called me the night before and told me our marriage was over with and not to bother coming home. Since then, he has taken my name off of everything, cleaned out my bank account, changed his home and cell phone numbers, and not responded to any of my emails. It is very hurtful to think that a person can just up and throw away three years. On top of all this, all through our marriage he has called me horrible names that are not appropriate for me to say on here. I thought I deserved it. This is something I never thought I would encounter but I had no option. I appreciate the prayers. I know some in here are against divorce as I am too, but especially after this week, I have decided to not fight it. I want this over with as quickly as possible. The last thing he said to me was that he doesn't want to speak to me again. This is all I can say for now as I am already in tears.

Hey all, My husband has decided to leave me. So I am now living in West Virginia so if I am not on much, that is why. Miss you all. Tina

thank you so much for sharing

I am right there with you right now...

Shalom Anne, Don't let anyone condemn you Sister. The L-rd is your strength, rest in Him and let Him take control of this area. Please know that Jesus understands the struggle that you go through and He can help you overcome it. I pray that the L-rd will intervene! I try not to...but I get alot of condemnation from people in my church...again thanks for prayers.. Tina

I really respect your decision and it is one that you will be blessed with.

THanks Vickilynn for the prayers...It has been an up and down battle cause I know my body is the temple of God, yet I will do good for a while just to fall right back into it...

Either the same as you or I would even go back to the late 1800s

I am going to be upfront here..I have struggled with an eating disorder on and off for several months now. I have lost my best friend due to it and I have had the question thrown at me that if I really loved God and was secure in my faith, I wouldn't struggle with this...well guess what? I do love God and I am thankful for what He has done in my life, but yes I still struggle with this. Today I ate the first actual meal in about two and a half weeks. and God has sent a wonderful person in my life to help me who has been through this and she is a Christian. So yes, in answer to your question, we need to love them as Christ would.

I totally agree. My sister got pregnant in high and it was her first time ever. But Kaylee (her daughter, my niece) is the biggest blessing to our family. And even though the father took off, my sister's best friend stepped up to the plate, married her, and adopted Kaylee. They now have a son that was born 11 months after Kaylee and have another one on the way. God has taken that situation and truly turned it around for good. I wanted to add however, if she doesn't feel it is a sin, she is setting a bad example for her children to where they will think premarital sex is ok. I personally have seen the damage that premarital sex and adultery does to you. My husband was the first man I did not sleep with until we were married. I am so thankful for that. We have to call sin for what it is and stop beating around the bush. I have been guilty of doing this myself. I do agree that she may still have trials, but that child is NOT a mistake. God has a plan and destiny for those children.

Hi Damo, While I agree with you to an extent...we are going to disagree at times. Yes we must disagree in love. However, with all the denominations we will not be in perfect unity until Heaven. I think the important thing is to just love each other that God wishes we would do. Even with our differences, we can still make a difference in the world. I hope you have a merry Christmas.

I couldn't even read the whole thing. It made me sick to my stomach to see how bad this is..I will never watch Oprah again.

It is in the teens here right now

I didnt like that at all..I like McCain, Huckabee, and thompson!!! i may disagree with republicans on certain issues and some I don't know anything about..but I am against abortion and marriage is between a man and woman only and that is why I vote republican...don't want a mormon in office and I don't want a democrat that is dressed up as a republican in office...these are just my thoughts...don't mean to start anything...so please just respect my wishes

Shalom Thoughtful, May I ask in all sincerity, are you serious about this? I am 110% serious about this. God made us in his image. This does not mean only in the physical sense. I'm sure God has a sense of humor, an ability to shrug stuff off, an ability to laugh, to feel anger, to be indifferent. God gave us free will, which means he promised, in giving us free will, to allow us to do certain things. If he were just a fraction as offended as some Christians are by the mockery on TV, he would probably do something to stop us. But he wont. Im sure God could laugh at things like Bruce Almighty, or feel indifferent to things like Sarah Silverman. But he probably doesnt. Why? Because he doesnt care. God is not watching every person on this earth for the sole purpose of seeing whether they're "bad or good". He's not marking down that Sarah Silverman made some awful joke about him. And he's not counting the people who laughed. He Dosent Care. And why should he? He's God. Do you think that he puts in as much concern for televised entertainment as he does for third world issues? No. If some Christians get offended, then they shouldn't watch it. If some don't, then the one's who are offended shouldn't judge them for it. Alas, some Christians wouldn't be able to go on breathing if they couldnt judge SOMEONE for SOMETHING, whatever those two may be. Shalom Thoughtful, I am sorry, but these statements are not Scriptural. Please prove that G-d doesn't CARE about what is said about Him. I believe the Scriptures indicate that G-d hears every word, thought and cares very much what we think about and say about Him. He is HOLY. He isn't a joke. Even His Name is Holy! How dare we, or anyone, treat the Almighty as a joke and think it's OK? Exodus 20 You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain, for the LORD will not hold him guiltless who takes his name in vain. 1 Peter 1 4 As obedient children, do not be conformed to the passions of your former ignorance, 15but as he who called you is holy, you also be holy in all your conduct, 16since it is written, "You shall be holy, for I am holy." Thank you..amen I also wanted to add that the reason God does not change it is because then He would be violating our free will...I agree with Vickilynn that this is mockery of our Lord and Savior.

I want to ride on a dinosoar!!! hmmm...

I feel blessed..my birthday is halfway through the year...July 25...well almost...7 months after christmas and 5 months before....lol

I am going to have a long talk with first Jesus and tell Him that I am so thankful for HIs love even though I dont deserve it..then I am going to seek out Apostle Paul and tell him that I think I was the chief of sinners...lol

I liked that movie too!!!