humbleseeker Posted October 8, 2009 Group: Senior Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 6 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 519 Content Per Day: 0.10 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/11/2009 Status: Offline Birthday: 04/28/1980 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Wow, what a discussion. I wouldnt know the answer to that one. as far as positions go I dont think there is anything wrong with having many options. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pokemaughan Posted October 8, 2009 Group: Senior Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 74 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 630 Content Per Day: 0.11 Reputation: 12 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/19/2008 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/09/1990 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Sex is the most passionate way man and wife can express selfless and spiritual love together in one 'sitting', as Christ did for His church. Take sex and multiply it by infinite (is that possible? with God it is...) and that's how God feels about His church. Pretty intense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
humbleseeker Posted October 8, 2009 Group: Senior Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 6 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 519 Content Per Day: 0.10 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/11/2009 Status: Offline Birthday: 04/28/1980 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Thats a neet way of looking at it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pokemaughan Posted October 8, 2009 Group: Senior Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 74 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 630 Content Per Day: 0.11 Reputation: 12 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/19/2008 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/09/1990 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Ascretchord, I cannot say for certain, but I feel that this is a gray area. The goal for sex (one, at least) is to selflessly serve your spouse, as Christ does us. In my understanding, focusing too much on the physical act becomes selfish and lustful. You focus on the image and the feeling more than what it is you're doing- worshiping God by portraying His love. But again, this is something that some may be able to serve God with, and others may stumble over lust and self-centeredness. It would be my encouragement to you to focus not on how the pieces go together, but on the fact that you and your spouse (or future spouse) are uniting in one flesh, one mind, one spirit. Here is the criteria for God-honoring sex: -Selfless -Loving (caring, cherishing, protective, sacrificial, seeking other's best) -Centered on worship of God/bringing Him glory by representing Christ and the Church -Humble -Doesn't cause your spouse to stumble -Doesn't cause conviction or an unsure conscience (be convinced that what you're doing is God-honoring) Those are the big ones. If your desires pass that test, and pass your spouse's test, then go for it, I say. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~Shalhevet~ Posted October 8, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 334 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 2,049 Content Per Day: 0.38 Reputation: 120 Days Won: 4 Joined: 08/13/2009 Status: Offline Share Posted October 8, 2009 I should have added: I DO NOT PRACTICE THESE THINGS WITH MY HUSBAND. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
artsylady Posted October 8, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 171 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 4,813 Content Per Day: 0.64 Reputation: 150 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/26/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted October 8, 2009 Hebrews 13:4 4Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. Some take this to mean that certain things should not be done in the marriage bed. Others believe it means that no matter what you do, because you are in a marriage, your marriage bed is not defiled. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Smalcald Posted October 8, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 32 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 5,258 Content Per Day: 0.76 Reputation: 42 Days Won: 3 Joined: 06/16/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/22/1960 Share Posted October 8, 2009 Anything that objectifies the other would be a problem. The first reason that God created sex was for children, the second reason was to bond a husband and wife as one. There are indeed certain things which do neither of these, the use of porn in a marriage for example is sinful, all porn is sinful regardless of how it used, certain other practices are perversions of how God designed sex, I don't want to get to graphic, but simply go back to how we were designed, how God made our sexual organs. The man and women are designed by God to compliment each other sexually, anything outside of that context would be a problem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~candice~ Posted October 8, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 955 Topics Per Day: 0.16 Content Count: 11,318 Content Per Day: 1.89 Reputation: 448 Days Won: 33 Joined: 12/16/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted October 8, 2009 Anything that objectifies the other would be a problem. The first reason that God created sex was for children, the second reason was to bond a husband and wife as one. There are indeed certain things which do neither of these, the use of porn in a marriage for example is sinful, all porn is sinful regardless of how it used, certain other practices are perversions of how God designed sex, I don't want to get to graphic, but simply go back to how we were designed, how God made our sexual organs. The man and women are designed by God to compliment each other sexually, anything outside of that context would be a problem. Where does it say that it is primarily for children? Paul told us not to abstain... not that he wanted us to have extremely large families, but so that the devil wouldn't get a foothold. Read song of songs lately? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneLight Posted October 8, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 22 Topic Count: 1,294 Topics Per Day: 0.21 Content Count: 31,762 Content Per Day: 5.23 Reputation: 9,762 Days Won: 115 Joined: 09/14/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted October 8, 2009 I really can't believe that this is allowed to continue, but since it has been, I will give what I feel is an appropriate answer. Making love with your spouse and fulfilling lustful sexual desires are worlds apart. The first is of God and the latter from the sinful desires of the flesh. Colossians 2:11-12 In Him you were also circumcised with the circumcision made without hands, by putting off the body of the sins of the flesh, by the circumcision of Christ, buried with Him in baptism, in which you also were raised with Him through faith in the working of God, who raised Him from the dead. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
~candice~ Posted October 8, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 955 Topics Per Day: 0.16 Content Count: 11,318 Content Per Day: 1.89 Reputation: 448 Days Won: 33 Joined: 12/16/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted October 8, 2009 I really can't believe that this is allowed to continue... Agreed Do we really need to talk about what happens between a man and a wife? Part of the honouring of the marriage to me is that these things are kept private. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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