toxic relatonship

[journey003]

im having a really hard time getting over a very controlling relationship of seven years,if anyone has any advice,and encouragement,it would be apprieciated,thanks,i just cant get this man out of my mind,no matter what i do,i know our relationship was toxic,but he had some good things about him for one thing he took care of me,now im all on ,my on please help,if you can,journey

[OneLight]

im having a really hard time getting over a very controlling relationship of seven years,if anyone has any advice,and encouragement,it would be apprieciated,thanks,i just cant get this man out of my mind,no matter what i do,i know our relationship was toxic,but he had some good things about him for one thing he took care of me,now im all on ,my on please help,if you can,journey

First, you are not on your own. God is always with you.

You say the relationship was toxic. He was controlling. Yet, because you now have to care for yourself, you are questioning yourself and the old relationship, wondering if you made the right choice? If I am wrong in how I read your post, then forgive me, but this is how it sounds to me. You need to have a very serious talk with God. Allow the Holy Spirit to work in your heart, changing you to be more what God wants you to be. Give up what is wrong in your life and allow God to replace it with what He has for you.

If anyone has the right to control you, it is God, and if He will not do it, then nobody else should.

Your Brother In Christ,

OneLight

[desi2007]

hello journey,

...don't let fear take you back into a toxic relationship, if you want to look at it another way try thinking that struggles can give you strength when your situation looks bleak and sometimes we need to have time to heal in order to bring new direction in your life.

Matthew 19:26 "with God all things are possible".

Psalm 119:105 "The Word will be a lamp to your feet and a light to your path.

Whatever struggles you have in life, ask yourself honestly if you are putting your faith in God and believing that His grace will meet the need or if you are relying on your own abilities and leaving God out of the loop? This is how we grow in our faith in God by learning to trust God by practicing and receiving Gods Grace even if the situations are impossible or difficult for us.

Praying for you,

desi

[Rest is a weapon]

Al anon is a good support group you can be a part of. Like AA they focus on 12 steps to recovery but apply it to what ever the situation is that you bring to the table. Most persons come because they are married to alcoholic spouses. But many come because of other life situations that create a codependent person, like yourself. Codependent, if your not clear on it is, for me, summed up in the title of a book (I haven't read but the title says it all) "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me". Just look up or Google Al anon for your area. There will be lots of meetings all over so go to different ones until you find one that fits you. The spiritual tenants are kept generic to accommodate all faiths (they say "God as you know him") but if you focus on Jesus it is a good place to see and hear others like yourself who have found strength through coming together for support.

[Trusting Jesus]

Are you involved with your church? Many churches have singles groups that you might be able to get involved with. Also study your Bible. God wants to be first in our lives. Fall in love with Jesus.

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Nathele