My daughter's school mate is mean to her!

[Guest LadyC]

i dont understand why people are suggesting that there BE a compromise. maybe what i suggested earlier isn't far off from a compromise, but it was on the mother's shoulders, not on the child. the child should not be required to compromise. if she isn't friends with the girl, if she isn't comfortable being around her, she shouldn't be made to invite her to ANYthing.

however, there's no reason why the mother can't invite the bully's family to a church outing, and arrange circumstances so that the other girl and her daughter might forge a friendship of their own accord.

[FreedbyHim]

This is exactly what happened to my little sister, she is also in grade 5. And this one girl is exceptionally cruel and mean to her (she makes jokes and snide comments about my sister's weight). My first instincts were probably very much like yours. Despite the arguements my sister and I get into I love her and want to protect her from everything. Pray about it and go with your gut feeling, if your gut says that you should not allow this girl into your house then don't. But also take into consideration that she may be putting on a tough kid act because she is the new kid at school and is scared and confused about a change in her environment. I personally was isolated from the other kids at school, no one wanted to be my friend and I know I put on a whole tough kid act and pretended I didn't care when really all I wanted was someone to invite me to their party and be my friend. Maybe tell Marley that this girl may be hurting inside and she should try to make her feel wanted. Maybe try iniviting her over afterschool one day for a play date type thing

[Mamato3]

I'm thinking a play date would work. I will try and find out the girl's name because my daughter can't remember her last name! Thanks for all the advice everyone.

I am really trying to teach my daughter to treat others the way she wants to be treated and she realy does a god job of it. It makes it hard when other people aren't showing her the same respect.

[odditblue]

I'm adding my prayers to the situation.

It's a very tough call.

Praying He will lead, guide and direct you both in the ultimate decision.

And praying this young lady will come to know Love.

I can remember some girls being mean to me as a kid.

When I saw them later in life, they had a lot of sadness and broken-ness in their lives that caused them to be this way.

Never had any idea of the horrors they were facing at home in their own lives.

Keeping you all in prayer.

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[kat8585]

My daughter also told me sometimes the girl doesn't have lunch or anything to eat

I would somehow try to find out more about this, and see if there is some way you can help.

[Mamato3]

My daughter also told me sometimes the girl doesn't have lunch or anything to eat

I would somehow try to find out more about this, and see if there is some way you can help.

I was concerned about this and my daughter told me the lunch monitor always makes sure she gets a lunch. Thank you for your advice and prayers everyone!