What is going on with our youth???!

[Willow325]

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Edited September 30, 2008 by Willow325

[Willow325]

Okay I recently saw some picture of my sixteen year old cousin on facebook. She was with her friends and they were all drinking, in very age-innappropriate clothing, and obviously drunk! There were boys and girls together, and no adults to be seen anywhere.

When I talked to her about it she couldn't understand why I was so upset. She said her mom knew and was okay with it as long as she doesn't drive. I couldn't believe that but when I talked to her mom (my aunt) she said the same thing! She feels that they're going to do it anyway, so you may as well be aware of it so that you can control it.

I asked her how she could control it if there was no adult supervision and she just shrugged her shoulders and walked away!

Is this seriously how parents are raising their kids today??! I would be EMBARRASSED if my child was doing what my cousin is doing, nevermind taking pictures and practically gloating about doing it!

How do we approach this?? I know that she isn't my child, but she is my family, and somehow this just doesn't seem right.

I am a social worker on a first nations reserve and if I got a referral of a similar situation, it is likely the teenager would be coming into care because the parent is failing to provide adequate care. I almost want to call CFS in that area and let them know because that is a child protection issue- the mother knows whats going on and either doesn't care enough to deal with it, or is truly allowing this VERY unsafe behaviour!

What are your thoughts? Am I overreacting or???

I think this is the result of our attitude, as a society, toward morality.

It's very sad but our society is responsible for it.

Willow325

Edited August 11, 2008 by Willow325

[Willow325]

Okay I recently saw some picture of my sixteen year old cousin on facebook. She was with her friends and they were all drinking, in very age-innappropriate clothing, and obviously drunk! There were boys and girls together, and no adults to be seen anywhere.

When I talked to her about it she couldn't understand why I was so upset. She said her mom knew and was okay with it as long as she doesn't drive. I couldn't believe that but when I talked to her mom (my aunt) she said the same thing! She feels that they're going to do it anyway, so you may as well be aware of it so that you can control it.

I asked her how she could control it if there was no adult supervision and she just shrugged her shoulders and walked away!

Is this seriously how parents are raising their kids today??! I would be EMBARRASSED if my child was doing what my cousin is doing, nevermind taking pictures and practically gloating about doing it!

How do we approach this?? I know that she isn't my child, but she is my family, and somehow this just doesn't seem right.

I am a social worker on a first nations reserve and if I got a referral of a similar situation, it is likely the teenager would be coming into care because the parent is failing to provide adequate care. I almost want to call CFS in that area and let them know because that is a child protection issue- the mother knows whats going on and either doesn't care enough to deal with it, or is truly allowing this VERY unsafe behaviour!

What are your thoughts? Am I overreacting or???

As for the drinking, it is still illegal in America for a minor to drink alcohol and for an adult or parent to give a minor child alcohol. it's called Imparing the Morals of a Minor. And any parents who allow their kids to drink in their own home are also breaking the law and could find themselves in jail.

Willow325

[gangs to god]

Great ideas Victor, but don't be mistaken, I didn't just sit down and pray when my daughter went wild. We fought it for four long years, tried to get her involved in sports, tried to let her take it out in kickboxing...bought her a snowmobile hoping she'd come out skidooing with us, she never did...bought her a seadoo hoping she'd enjoy the lake with us...she used it twice...once to go across the lake to find a party and once to kind of hang with us, but not really...

Problem is they don't want anything to do with ANYTHING church...no matter how fun it might be. We tried that too...and I know exactly where she is coming from on the church thing...I was a preachers kid and church was the last thing I wanted to do at 15. I went wild too:>) Church could have had a party with all the free alcohol in the world there to tempt me and I would have NOT gone because I knew that at some point someone was going to preach on me:>) Yes, I had attitude. God had to change that attitude in His time...my parents couldn't do a thing with me.

It's not that I don't understand her...I do...very much...to much. I WISH she didn't have to do it the way I did...but she is genetically predisposed to do so...so was my dad...yup, the preacher...at that age. God will bring her back around, and I KNOW that too because His word does not return to him void:>) So I pray, and I praise her when she does the right things.

when you gave it to god did you go back medling ? because once we give it to the lord thats where it should stay but im not telling you anything dont know as you are a preachers daughter and im not coming down at you either as i truly care about you and your childs well being ! but i do know when i have put all my faith in the lord and i give something to him and allow him god room he has never let me down ! i also know thiers no child to impossible for god but it takes a tru move of god and when he moves its amazing ! I dont have all the answers but i do know thier are alot of people who are doing nothing and like i said when the lord moves cant nothing stop him nothing is to impossible for my god i have full faith that the most rebelious teen can be delivered by our lord because i have seen it first hand on the streets in the jails and in the gangs .

maybe you have tried everything you can do ! but i urge you to give our lord one more try ! I will be praying for all the youth in the world tonight ! i wont post anymore on this topic as i see it has the potential to hit nerves and im not here for that ! God Bless

Gangs To God

Victor

Edited July 28, 2008 by gangs to god

[BFP]

Great ideas Victor, but don't be mistaken, I didn't just sit down and pray when my daughter went wild. We fought it for four long years, tried to get her involved in sports, tried to let her take it out in kickboxing...bought her a snowmobile hoping she'd come out skidooing with us, she never did...bought her a seadoo hoping she'd enjoy the lake with us...she used it twice...once to go across the lake to find a party and once to kind of hang with us, but not really...

Problem is they don't want anything to do with ANYTHING church...no matter how fun it might be. We tried that too...and I know exactly where she is coming from on the church thing...I was a preachers kid and church was the last thing I wanted to do at 15. I went wild too:>) Church could have had a party with all the free alcohol in the world there to tempt me and I would have NOT gone because I knew that at some point someone was going to preach on me:>) Yes, I had attitude. God had to change that attitude in His time...my parents couldn't do a thing with me.

It's not that I don't understand her...I do...very much...to much. I WISH she didn't have to do it the way I did...but she is genetically predisposed to do so...so was my dad...yup, the preacher...at that age. God will bring her back around, and I KNOW that too because His word does not return to him void:>) So I pray, and I praise her when she does the right things.

when you gave it to god did you go back medling ? because once we give it to the lord thats where it should stay but im not telling you anything dont know as you are a preachers daughter and im not coming down at you either as i truly care about you and your childs well being ! but i do know when i have put all my faith in the lord and i give something to him and allow him god room he has never let me down ! i also know thiers no child to impossible for god but it takes a tru move of god and when he moves its amazing ! I dont have all the answers but i do know thier are alot of people who are doing nothing and like i said when the lord moves cant nothing stop him nothing is to impossible for my god i have full faith that the most rebelious teen can be delivered by our lord because i have seen it first hand on the streets in the jails and in the gangs .

maybe you have tried everything you can do ! but i urge you to give our lord one more try ! I will be praying for all the youth in the world tonight ! i wont post anymore on this topic as i see it has the potential to hit nerves and im not here for that ! God Bless

Gangs To God

Victor

She's 18 now, and on her own, not even in the same part of the country...yes, I have definitely given her to God:>) After all, she was His before she was mine, and He is in control, not me. So yes, now I just sit back and pray that she comes back to God, and she will one day.

I learned alot raising my oldest ...a son, who I had to give to God at 14...He is now 21, and I have absolutely no contact with him anymore. He is a difficult one to explain, but I have my reasons for this move:>) I do know how to give it to God and not meddle:>) My daughter is a different story, she is a wonderful heart and will do okay once she gets through the rebellion. Love doesn't work with my oldest...he exploits it and doesn't understand the emotion at all.

[Khristeeanos]

Many of our social problems are because our government is indoctrinating our children from the time they enter kindergarten that there is no God and they evolved from an accident.

Yes, I blame evolution!

If you think about it - you will probably agree.

[Iryssa]

Many of our social problems are because our government is indoctrinating our children from the time they enter kindergarten that there is no God and they evolved from an accident.

Yes, I blame evolution!

If you think about it - you will probably agree.

I don't actually know a whole lot of people my age who ever REALLY believed in Evolution. There was always a minority of those who did, but for the most part my classmates just sorta had this attitude of "whatever, I don't think there's enough proof. Maybe we'll never know. I don't care." So I don't know if I would say Evolution was their problem so much as apathy about the whole thing...creation/evolution, God/no God/many gods, etc. Personally, I went my whole life through the Public system and never once doubted that there was a Creator. I went through several different phases of who I said I thought that Creator was and what He should mean to me...but even during my worst rebellion I couldn't shake that deep-set knowledge of who God is that my parents had instilled in me from childhood. I lied to myself and others, but never FULLY believed myself. I have a feeling that's where most rebellious kids who have any Christian background at all end up...maybe they get more rebellious an drink more in the hopes that they'll forget, but I think deep down, they still know.

[georgesbluegirl]

Wait, seriously? Teenagers drink because of evolution?

[Khristeeanos]

Wait, seriously? Teenagers drink because of evolution?

Wait! Yes!

Think about it.

Most of our kids go to public (government) schools where the agenda is harshly liberal and they spend over 40 hours being indoctrinated with evolution (which they of course never mention God).

They hear that we are only a cosmic burp of an accident.

Life evolved by accident and we are actually part of the problem with the planet because of the so-called global warming.

They have a lesser view of themselves and other humans.

So it naturally follows that they have no respect for rules because they are only human thoughts brought out by society.

Understand my thoughts here?

[Guest]