MENS LOUNGE IS IMPORTANT

[GymRose]

A thread was started as a joke around in Fellowship hall but I think it is far too an important issue to go unnoticed

I'm now on a misson here for you guys cause I know for a fact my Hubby is looking for honest to goodness down to earth serious topics where men can be real with one another.

He continually complains about the fact he can not get into a serious conversation or a thread that doesn't turn into a free for all payout, pie throwing contest.

It doesn't even have to be serious but not turning everything into a joke.

OK you guys here have proved some of you want the same as him.................. Sooooooooooo are you all just ganna sit back and complain and say well just shut the thing down cause we can't get it to work.

COME ON GUYS get it together, what about the guys who NEED to talk about

~~ Divorce

~~ Marital Problems

~~ Custody Issues

~~ Rights and Wrongs as Christians

~~ Abuse

~~ Teenage and Young Adult Issues

then the light hearted issues

~~ Meeting The Right Girl

~~ How to Know She is The One

~~ The Best Razors to Use

~~ Did You Learn from Your Mischieveous Ways

Need I go on.

Ours works because we are open and honest without turning it in to a total joke and put down session because the issue maybe somewhat embarressing or shocking.

You older guys need to be a shoulder and an example for the younger ones by using your life experience to help, strengthen and encourage. Those who have been through divorce and custody issues should help those going through it. Those in strong loving marraiges should be an example to those struggling. Likewise the younger can also encourage and teach the older ones of the issues the young ones face and how to be a strength for the younger ones. Then of the practicle issues...... deoderants, shaving, cars, fitness.............. even guys have eating disorders and some may not be comfortable discussing it for women to see.

COME ON GUYS THIS FORUM

IS EXTREEMLY IMPORTANT AND

NEEDS TO BE USED

[GymRose]

http://www.worthyboards.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=8945

This is the original thread and what the guys are saying.

[JP1]

Well, I can say that it is not unique to Worthy. Men just don't seem to be comfortable being "touchy feely". I think that humor is a wall that is put up to keep things from getting that way. I know when I first started my web site I searched through a lot of web sites to see what was already out there. Almost every personal Christian web site that I go to seems to be run by a female. I'm not saying every one of them, but a very large percentage. I have been to web sites that cater specifically to female Christians (there are plenty), and they seem pretty lively. I have found perhaps 2 that cater specifically to men, and frankly, there was very little participation. For instance, there is a very well done, very professional web site called "Brothers for Christ" - http://www.brothersforchrist.com/ - lots of very serious men related topics there. Go to the forums though, and all you get are crickets chirping.

Could the reason be that men see it as a sign of weakness, to seek help from others? I don't know. I'm a guy and I don't know. I do know that we are very different from women in the way we communicate with each other.

I also enjoy having a "lounge" where I can go "kick back" and not be so serious like in the controversial forum and this one. A place to just act silly and have fun. If someone starts a serious thread though on anything I could possibly provide input into, I will be very pleased to participate. I really would hate to see the lounge go away though, because then we would lose our "fun" place. Perhaps a secondary forum called "Men's Issues" would be appropriate - the title alone would suggest a serious tone. And yes, give us men a password too, as it might just be possible that some guys would be leery about baring their emotions regarding certain men's issues when women could be reading it. Just the fact that the women rate a password and the men don't indicates prejudice that the women are deserving of privacy, but the men aren't (you know those men, they don't have anything serious to talk about anyway, what do they need a password for).

[GymRose]

Could be a good point JP, about the lock. The ladies lock didn't actually go on until there was some very serious and intimant discussions on abuse that warrented it but maybe if there was a lock it might encourage some more up front discussion.

Hey there is plenty of fun and games to be had in the fellowship hall.

I know full well men and women are different........ Sheesh ................ do I know........ I'm a woman in a house of 5 males. LOL But I'm just going more on what I here Hubby say and what I read others are saying.

I'll get him to look at the site.

[Guest LadyC]

gymrose, let me add to your list.

issues men need support through....

MENOPAUSE!

i swear, i've searched the internet and our local support group meetings listings, and there is no such thing as a support group for men who have to put up with their wives going thru menopause. what an absolute shame! we women put our men through more grief than they ever thought possible when we hit that time of our lives.

[RGR]

Could be a good point JP, about the lock. The ladies lock didn't actually go on until there was some very serious and intimant discussions on abuse that warrented it but maybe if there was a lock it might encourage some more up front discussion.

Hey there is plenty of fun and games to be had in the fellowship hall.

I know full well men and women are different........ Sheesh ................ do I know........ I'm a woman in a house of 5 males. LOL But I'm just going more on what I here Hubby say and what I read others are saying.

I'll get him to look at the site.

I've hinted that the men's needs to be password protected as well. It may look on the surface that I want to compete with the women, but we've had our invasions as well, though not from the regulars. One teenage girl jumped in the fray and when I politely challenged her being there, she copped an attitude. We recently also had a newbie, who I guess was a guy, start in about selling devil music on eBay on the "Enter the Confessional Booth" topic I started way back when. I for one don't feel comfortable in "bearing my soul" in a non-password protected forum. Gary, Patsy, and Catsmeow have been willing ears during this trial I'm still going through, but I don't want anyone and everyone to be able to see what gives in my life, ya know?

[Guest LCPGUY]

Are you listening George?

In His Love,

Bro John

[GymRose]

I think that is brilliant Lady C and I mean that in all seriousness. And I'm ganna be real up front here on the open forum and say when I am PMSing I put my whole family through turmoil so much so I'm having an op as soon as we have the money to get it done with the doctor I want and I'm also on medication to control those mood swings.

My Man needs a shoulder during those times I tell ya he is so wonderful and understanding I don't deserve him but wow how he keeps it all together I'll never know. I don't even like livin with me.

So in all seriousness great point Lady C.

[Guest glm]

Thats a cool idea, and if the ladies get into the menses side we have a roasting the chat lounge haha same for guys...

muah 2cents

[RGR]

I just sent a lengthy PM to George and explained the reasons I felt the lounge for men oughta be protected as well. Guys, if we are going to get serious conversation, please PM George and express your desire to get the lounge password protected. Thanks.