Difficult Dilemma

[tigeraqua]

My family and I moved to the U.S. from Hong Kong when I was little, and my parents always have this plan of moving back after I graduate from college.

This is my last year in college and my family is looking forward to moving back... but I'm not. I have been strugging a lot about this issue, but this is not the topic of this post, so I will not go further into that. I need advice on another related problem.

This year, I met a guy from church that I like. He asked me out and we've gone out a couple of times. But as you know from my situation, I will be moving back to Hong Kong with my family by the end of this year. This means that I may not have a future with this guy. I briefly told him about this before... but we haven't really discussed about it. Do you think I should end our relationship? Guys, would you rather end a relationship like this as soon as possible? Or would you rather stay with the person you like as long as possible? I feel so selfish....

[Guest]

Or would you rather stay with the person you like as long as possible?

I Married Her!

I feel so selfish....

Me Too!

[arrowfromgod]

thats a question all right,,, daystar said what i would do,,, what would you want ??? what do you want ???

[Blien]

Don't feel selfish. Ask God what you should do. He knows all the answers and the best results. If He wants you to be with this guy, He will tell you.

[redwing]

It's easy for me to say, but follow you're heart and do whats best for you.

[greenlee]

*hugs* I'm sorry you're in this dilemma. As others have said, be completely open and honest with the guy and pray heavily about it. If you and this guy both pray for wisdom and earnestly seek after God's will, I know that His way will become clear to the both of you. I'll be praying for you also.

[Rest is a weapon]

That is a really hard decision tiger. I agree with the strategy of praying and asking God specifically the questions your asking us. Ask him to confirm any answer he gives you through other sources.

I also believe in that gut feeling. If you go with your gut, it is most times, the right way.

Father, thank you for your goodness. You know all things Father and you have our best in mind for us all the time. When we come into confusing parts of our lives where conflicting choices have to be made; you don't leave us to ourselves. We can boldly come to you with our crisis. You love it when we come, it's when you get to be Dad. So Dad, would you please send Holy Spirit to instill in tiger new attributes of confidence and sureness in her heart to know, completely, when she senses your will. Give her deep peace in what ever she senses from you; whether it be here with this guy, or in some other part of the world. Her destiny exists, only, in your will. So Father give her the grace to feel that destiny inside her as it makes these hard decisions ring with a sensibility inside her. God your the bestest bestest ever. amen

[Trusting Jesus]

You do need to pray. You say you've gone out with this young man a couple of times. Well, you don't really know where this relationship will go, but you do need to talk it over with God. You also need to be honest with the young man. He needs to know all the facts so he can be a part of any decision that needs to be made. If you are in college then you are of an age where you are considered an adult, so if your family leaves, you are old enough to stay here. But do pray because this is a big decision that you will be facing.

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Nathele

[LIVN4JC]

In agreement with daystar and TrustingJesus. If it's God's will a way will be found. Praying for you sister.

Blessings

Anne

[tigeraqua]

Thank you everyone for your advices and prayers! I've been praying to God also for guidance =]

As of now, I really don't know where God is leading us in this relationship... but God must have a purpose of leading me into this guy during my last year here, right? He always has a good purpose for everything...