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  1. Prayers for you and your wife! God bless you!
  2. I am sorry you have had to deal with this as well. What works with one person may not work with the next. I am glad this approach is working for you, however, it may not work for her. I believe she should seek God's will ultimately, but if it is destroying her then i feel like she should separate for a while. And this is my opinion as well, it's really between her and God. I apologize if i approached it in the wrong way, but as a survivor of abuse myself, i feel very strongly about this kind of topic.
  3. my heart goes out to you Esther. I've been in abusive situations before, so I can relate. I think the best thing for both of you would be to separate. Give you a chance to find some healing away from the chaos, and him a chance to think over his actions. I will pray for you. Seek the Lord and His strength <3 If you ever need a listening ear, I am here!
  4. to answer question 2, I would say probably out of fear. An abusive relationship is hugely based on silence and the fear of what will happen if you tell someone else. for question 3 -- that is a question so many people ask a victim of abuse. "why didn't you just leave him?" It really is not that easy. Usually, when you begin a relationship with the person you would never guess that they could be capable of such awful things. They are charming, caring, they are a wonderful person. Gradually they begin to abuse you..in little ways that you brush off or start believing it doesn't matter. They tell you that too and often make you doubt your perception of reality. It happens so gradually, that when it turns to full on abuse you begin to feel like you deserve it. Like it's somehow your fault. You are controlled and trapped. I can hope and pray that she will find the strength to at least separate from him.
  5. woah...that is some very harsh judgement and ignorance right there. If you have never been in an emotionally abusive relationship, you can't understand. But you can at least try. It's psychological torment and dealing with it every single day is VERY hard and it breaks you down. That sounds very good and spiritual until you are put into such a situation! Yes, dying to self is something a follower of Christ should practice, but it does not mean you have to let people walk all over you and abuse you. Nor does it mean that abuse will not cause you pain and agony even if you do die to self. You use your wife as an example that the problem is always you. Obviously your wife treats you well. if Esther was being hit, kicked, thrown around, etc., by her husband...would you still say it's her problem? Emotional abuse is just as bad as physical abuse, if not more so. It's an all out attack and abuse on your mind and soul. It is by no means selfish to hurt or express that hurt. If only you knew..
  6. A lot of churches I've been to like to pledge allegiance to the U.S. flag in church, or kids AWANA/prayer classes. I'm all for respecting the flag, but I have a problem with Christians pledging allegiance to it in church. I feel like this just isn't needed and we should yield our allegiance to Christ instead. What are your thoughts?
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    aww! Wow! Congratulations to all of you! It's always a blessing to hear when someone gets adopted into a loving home 😊 God bless you all!
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