In the beginning the Lord saw that it was NOT good for man to be alone and made the woman from the other half of him. This is the first instance in the Bible where it says something God made was NOT good. REPEAT it is NOT GOOD for man to be alone! Listen to God, what did he say. It is NOT good for man to be alone. This was before the fall. God designed marriage into the original man and woman as equal partners ..the woman was NOT originally designed to desire her husband that was the curse. She is to desire God. Who are we to tell God he had it wrong. Many people do not understand Gods purpose of marriage not even Paul. Marriage is divinely made. Sex was made to pleasure our partner with ones spouse, it makes us desire and fall in love with our spouse, it is inner healing and bonding, it stops people that have very high sex drive, it leads us together down a path to self-sacrifice. The two are bound into one. It forces us to put another before ourselves. Many people in church have NOT been born again and they do not know it. The born again experience lets the Holy Spirit into us and He works all those inner demons out. It can take many years in desert experiences to release these demons. Trust me marriage will push you so you grow, and whatever is in the heart will come out. Many in church have NOT had the continual inner cleansing one needs to be in a strong christian marriage. That is why our lives seem so hard both partners need to work out their own soul. Sometimes the Lord will take a marriage and separate them because He desires them to KNOW his love. Personal relationship with Jesus and salvation is first, which looks really bad on the outside sometimes. If God allows, they return to the marriage, but now it is a marriage made from God. Each spouse needs their relationship with God to unconditionally love our spouse; otherwise we demand from our spouse what they do not have. Man +woman+without God= burns to ash. Man +woman+God=burns to gold(sanctification). Mark 9:48-49, "In hell the worm does not die; the fire is never put out. Every person will be salted with fire." Jesus promises all will go through the fire whether single or married. Be grateful and give thanks in all situations. Abide with Christ.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 New International Version (NIV)
9 Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.