How do you keep from feeling like a failure when the kids don't tu

[mizzdy]

We can only do so much they have to make their own choices. I have an almost 28 year old and a 26 year old neither go to a church they confess to believing in God and Christ but don't want to put in the bible study time or even get to know God. I talk both their ears off but ultimately they have to repent of their sins and do as God tells them. One thing lately I have found some common ground with my daughter has been forum boards. She has started posting on a secular board and she tells me what those people are talking about and I tell her what people are talking about here and she has listen lately.

[JCISGD]

Hi David, both my daughters have grown into good adults i can do enjoy, but neither are Christian and their were some turbulant times.

Accept where you have failed without accepting the accusation that you are a failure. I do not mean that if you had just done better things might be different.

Continue to learn to roll with the punches, and give back a few good hits of your own.

Ask your best friend Holy Spirit for CREATIVE ideas that will really surprise your kids. Break the mould and start fresh. Find a new foothold into their lives, maybe individually sometimes, as its easy to lump them together and not show them that God does see each one as special.

My eldest daughter who was about 10, became very uncommunicative, and the more i talked about things the less i got results. Then Holy Spirit showed me to stop talking about serious matters and joke with her. Sometimes the laughter brought us to tears and was provoked by no more than a look or a meaningless sound. she is still today the quiet type, but i have her love and admiration without comprimising my faith.

May the God of all creation go with you and envelope you in his consuming love and joy.

[Johnsean]

When yours kids leave home and invite evil influences into their life or embrace the party lifestyle. How do you keep that from making you feel like an absolute failure as a godly parent? Do you have any further responsibility?

We have to take responsibility further by explaining to the kids what negative attributes they pick from such activities. After all we can not watch them go bad and hide under the tag "Responsibility". there is no limit as parents.

John

Edited March 16, 2009 by Johnsean

[fireproof_always]

"Your responsibility is to continue to live a Godly life; a constant reminder of what they are putting on the shelf."

As short and simple as this was, it's basically as honest an answer as you can get. Are you setting a godly example, without pressuring them (pushing Christianity on the young often creates resentment and rebellion, leading to sin)? Are you praying daily for God's intervention, that he might deal with them in their own way, and touch their souls with his love? If so, I know how hard it may be to accept, but you are doing your part. No one can be forced to follow the straight and narrow, it is a course we all must come to of free will, not by being told by man but by coming to see God's mercy and will.

Edited March 24, 2009 by fireproof_always