StartingToday Posted May 19, 2009 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 20 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/18/2009 Status: Offline Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 Forgive me if I misunderstood your statement, but I don't think anyone enters into a marriage with a "Plan B". I certainly didn't think 12 yrs down the road I would be feeling like I'm "doing my time" (for a lack of a better term). And unfortunately thats exactly how I feel, I am just doing my time. Please don't get me wrong, I am not looking for permission to leave and I will not make excuses for why our marriage failed. It failed, first and foremost, neither of us allowed God to take charge over the marriage, we didn't seek God when we needed Him the most. Secondly we didn't grow together we grew apart. I was 15 (he was 20) when we met and he was my knight and shining armor; he literally rescued you from the hell I was in. But over the years, his true colors started shining, unfortunately they didn't start shining until after we were married. Yes I know the truth hurts. Regardless, to say someone entered a marriage with the "I might" instead of the "I do" is just not a fair statement. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fez Posted May 19, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 683 Topics Per Day: 0.12 Content Count: 11,128 Content Per Day: 1.99 Reputation: 1,352 Days Won: 54 Joined: 02/03/2009 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/07/1952 Share Posted May 19, 2009 All this and more from the statement 1k Ok lets try 2 k Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
StartingToday Posted May 19, 2009 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 20 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 05/18/2009 Status: Offline Author Share Posted May 19, 2009 All this and more from the statement 1k Ok lets try 2 k I know I'm sorry. I had actually decided to keep this to myself and I deleted my entire posting with the exception of what ended up getting posted, which is truly beyond me how it posted! Like I said, sorry. I really probably should just deal with this on my own Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shiloh62 Posted May 19, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 83 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1,683 Content Per Day: 0.30 Reputation: 51 Days Won: 1 Joined: 11/14/2008 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/14/1962 Share Posted May 19, 2009 I k I beg your pardon? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Believer1997 Posted May 19, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 66 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 6,363 Content Per Day: 1.12 Reputation: 119 Days Won: 9 Joined: 11/07/2008 Status: Offline Share Posted May 19, 2009 Forgive me if I misunderstood your statement, but I don't think anyone enters into a marriage with a "Plan B". I certainly didn't think 12 yrs down the road I would be feeling like I'm "doing my time" (for a lack of a better term). And unfortunately thats exactly how I feel, I am just doing my time. Please don't get me wrong, I am not looking for permission to leave and I will not make excuses for why our marriage failed. It failed, first and foremost, neither of us allowed God to take charge over the marriage, we didn't seek God when we needed Him the most. Secondly we didn't grow together we grew apart. I was 15 (he was 20) when we met and he was my knight and shining armor; he literally rescued you from the hell I was in. But over the years, his true colors started shining, unfortunately they didn't start shining until after we were married. Yes I know the truth hurts. Regardless, to say someone entered a marriage with the "I might" instead of the "I do" is just not a fair statement. Oh Sweet Lady - I didn't mean to distress you anymore than you already seem to be. I was halfway joking - but it does seem that an awful lot of people enter a marriage with a "plan b"... I was married to someone for many years who didn't act like he was married at all. It wasn't a good union at all - but, because I was blessed with 3 children I thank God for it. I'm sure you didn't enter into your marriage with anything but the best of intentions - and I think most people do. I never saw myself alone - but I was and God blessed me and my children and helped us through life. Please know that I care and will pray for you. God Bless you!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fez Posted May 19, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 683 Topics Per Day: 0.12 Content Count: 11,128 Content Per Day: 1.99 Reputation: 1,352 Days Won: 54 Joined: 02/03/2009 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/07/1952 Share Posted May 19, 2009 StartingToday, please don't deal with it on your own. We joke a little on the boards every now and again, and we can because we love each other in the name of Jesus. If you have something on your heart and you think your Worthy family can help, please post it. There might be some joking at times.....but most of us are deadly serious about our faith, our fellowship and our prayers for others. Bless you and may you rest in Jesus Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneLight Posted May 19, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 22 Topic Count: 1,294 Topics Per Day: 0.21 Content Count: 31,762 Content Per Day: 5.22 Reputation: 9,763 Days Won: 115 Joined: 09/14/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted May 19, 2009 Forgive me if I misunderstood your statement, but I don't think anyone enters into a marriage with a "Plan B". I certainly didn't think 12 yrs down the road I would be feeling like I'm "doing my time" (for a lack of a better term). And unfortunately thats exactly how I feel, I am just doing my time. Please don't get me wrong, I am not looking for permission to leave and I will not make excuses for why our marriage failed. It failed, first and foremost, neither of us allowed God to take charge over the marriage, we didn't seek God when we needed Him the most. Secondly we didn't grow together we grew apart. I was 15 (he was 20) when we met and he was my knight and shining armor; he literally rescued you from the hell I was in. But over the years, his true colors started shining, unfortunately they didn't start shining until after we were married. Yes I know the truth hurts. Regardless, to say someone entered a marriage with the "I might" instead of the "I do" is just not a fair statement. It never is too late to seek God for any reason. In case you have forgotten due to your troubles, God does care and He is here to help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
georgedrw81 Posted May 20, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 7 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1,823 Content Per Day: 0.33 Reputation: 36 Days Won: 2 Joined: 04/10/2009 Status: Offline Share Posted May 20, 2009 Point of no return (in) marriage - "I DO..." Unfortunately a lot of people say that but instead mean "I Might".... Thats not a fair statement, not all situations are the same If the couple enters into marriage as the covenant which God intended it to be, the "MIGHT" would be irrelevant, as the union would be held as a sacred commitment before the Lord. Unfortunately, any couple entering into a marriage with a "Plan B" probably will need it, as they see a readily available exit strategy to the hard times that invariably will develop during any marriage. Things such as "we've fallen out of love," "I/we messed up, she/he is not the one God intended me to be with," "I/they committed adultery so we have to get a divorce," "He/she is abusing me (place way here) so I deserve to be free... Thankfully, the rate of divorce across the board has actually declined (to about 49% - Christians and nonchristians are at about the same rate). Thing is, marriages require HARD WORK. "Happily ever after" is the stuff of Hollywood; real marriage requires a daily commitment (and recomittment) between the couple and the Lord through both the highs and the lows. It is not a 50% shared deal, it is a 100% contribution on the part of both parties and a determination that, regardless of what happens, the marriage is worth saving. Adultery? The Bible PERMITS (but does not REQUIRE) divorce (Matthew 5:32; Mark 10:11, 12). Abuse? Separation certainly, for the good of the children and the person being abused (1 Corinthians 7:10, 11) but divorce is not mentioned as a remedy. Not "meant to be together? "Fallen out of love?" What about the vow/commitment/covenant you made before God (Mark 10:9). This post probably will not be popular, but that's ok, sometimes truth really does hurt, even when offered in love. right Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Trusting Jesus Posted May 20, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 66 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 2,050 Content Per Day: 0.34 Reputation: 22 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/12/2007 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/09/1952 Share Posted May 20, 2009 Starting Today, I wonder if not all of this post got deleted because you need to talk to someone. So many here at Worthy have Godly advice and loving hearts. Maybe we can help. Maybe you need to talk. Marriage is a very important institution to God. You were very young when you got married, but you still made a commitment. So did your husband. Can I ask if you are both Christians? Marriages can be saved and all it takes is one of the partners wanting to save it. <>< ><> Nathele Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shiloh62 Posted May 20, 2009 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 83 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1,683 Content Per Day: 0.30 Reputation: 51 Days Won: 1 Joined: 11/14/2008 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/14/1962 Share Posted May 20, 2009 As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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