A Single Christian's Prayer

[SweetRain]

"I believe that you have someone planned for me,

who I can trust my life with.

I also know that you are maturing the both of us until the right time we meet.

Until then, you are the only love of my life and I will remain pure because I love you;

you are my first and true love; mold me into the Godly person you want me to be

And help me to become the type of person my future love needs in thier life.

Help me to realize how special I am and that I do not need to worry or rush myself to find someone;

I know I'm sensitive when I'm in situations in which I'm by myself,

but I know I am not truly alone. Prove this to me daily.

I pray you make a way, the perfect time and place for us to meet

because I need your help to find someone trustworthy to love.

Break the cycle of insecurity that tells me to change and compromise,

and help me to be free to be the loving child of God you created me to be.

help me to remain focus on you

and guide me according to your will.

I will no longer compare my life status with others and feel bad,

but remember that you have not forgotten me."

Originally, this was a prayer I wrote to God as the new year began. But I wanted to share my prayer because I know there are many of us who has started the year out like I had; Some times I can go a long time without really thinking about being single, but when certain events happen, the facts can bite. Just in a womans perspective, I have seen too many women lose faith in thier self-worth and compromise thier standards for a moment of happyness. Yes, the wait hurts... but rushing is a permanent scar. You deserve more than that; you are beautiful and you need someone who will love you for who you are and will draw you closer to God.

Same thing for guys. Though there are twice as many hot girls whom you can have fun with, those women will not passionately love you with the love of Christ nor commit to you. You are wonderful sons of God; don't lose your value. When people say "Don't worry, God has someone for you," right then it sounds like a lie; but honestly, God does. He hasnt forgotten so we don't need to worry. Instead, I encourage to write out a prayer to God, just like I did, and pray daily that God will bring the right girl/guy into our lives. Also that he will help us through those times of loneliness and help keep us to be Godly men and woman before Him.

I hope it helped someone out there,

Be blessed this year!

[GerdaHannah]

"I believe that you have someone planned for me,

who I can trust my life with.

I also know that you are maturing the both of us until the right time we meet.

Until then, you are the only love of my life and I will remain pure because I love you;

you are my first and true love; mold me into the Godly person you want me to be

And help me to become the type of person my future love needs in thier life.

Help me to realize how special I am and that I do not need to worry or rush myself to find someone;

I know I'm sensitive when I'm in situations in which I'm by myself,

but I know I am not truly alone. Prove this to me daily.

I pray you make a way, the perfect time and place for us to meet

because I need your help to find someone trustworthy to love.

Break the cycle of insecurity that tells me to change and compromise,

and help me to be free to be the loving child of God you created me to be.

help me to remain focus on you

and guide me according to your will.

I will no longer compare my life status with others and feel bad,

but remember that you have not forgotten me."

Originally, this was a prayer I wrote to God as the new year began. But I wanted to share my prayer because I know there are many of us who has started the year out like I had; Some times I can go a long time without really thinking about being single, but when certain events happen, the facts can bite. Just in a womans perspective, I have seen too many women lose faith in thier self-worth and compromise thier standards for a moment of happyness. Yes, the wait hurts... but rushing is a permanent scar. You deserve more than that; you are beautiful and you need someone who will love you for who you are and will draw you closer to God.

Same thing for guys. Though there are twice as many hot girls whom you can have fun with, those women will not passionately love you with the love of Christ nor commit to you. You are wonderful sons of God; don't lose your value. When people say "Don't worry, God has someone for you," right then it sounds like a lie; but honestly, God does. He hasnt forgotten so we don't need to worry. Instead, I encourage to write out a prayer to God, just like I did, and pray daily that God will bring the right girl/guy into our lives. Also that he will help us through those times of loneliness and help keep us to be Godly men and woman before Him.

I hope it helped someone out there,

Be blessed this year!

thankyou

i needed that

[Deepblue]

Hehe. You're only 19, so you have time. I'm only 20, and it's something I think of from time to time as well. That's an awesome prayer though, and some excellent advice. Thanks for sharing.

[appreciative]

I agree with SweetRain. I got the same feeling before I got married as well.

It hurts when people treat you like you are not normal just because you are single at your age in the couple's world.

I didn't care. I just waited upon the LORD and his PERFECT TIMING. And the LORD as true to His promises did not fail me.

I got married last year at the age of 33. He is worth all the wait.

I am glad that I've found my Mr. God's Will for me.

The LORD knows exactly what you need if you would only submit your desires to His plans for you.

Yes, peer pressures and waiting time can be tormenting.

But the damage that rushing just for the sake of marrying even to an unsuitable partner would cause permanent scars and never ending regrets.

It is good to wait upon the LORD. I can tell you guys, the LORD is worth all the wait.

It may take long before His perfect will and TIMING for you comes, but when he comes,

you will be overwhelmed by joy and gladness that you waited and outsmarted the pressures.

As you wait upon the LORD... find a way to be busy and happy. Cultivate your interests and potentials.

You will enjoy life when you do. You will find out that there's more to these life than a future partner.

Find contentment in the state of being in love with God.

Seek God first. Don't listen to the pressures of this world. Be wise.

REMINDER: God has made EVERYTHING beautiful in its OWN TIME.

[rising from the ashes]

Thank you for sharing such a personal topic. I hope that you have found a certain strength that only comes from sharing those things that are personal and that so serve the body of Christ in as much as it may encourage another broken heart or lift a sinking spirit. Thank you..

Your brother in Christ

Logan Durrett

[SweetRain]

Thank you for sharing such a personal topic. I hope that you have found a certain strength that only comes from sharing those things that are personal and that so serve the body of Christ in as much as it may encourage another broken heart or lift a sinking spirit. Thank you..

Your brother in Christ

Logan Durrett

Your welcome. I knew there where others out there who were feeling how I was feeling, so I wanted to let them know that they are dearly loved by God and will one day find someone to spend thier life with. Just have to hold on to hope and trust in God.

[tscotty4him36]

Some thoughts about being single...

I got married very young and up to that point i had a very sheltered life. I was raised in a Christian home with loving parents. So I thought this was just the normal way of life for most everyone. At 22 I married a girl who came from a horrible past. She was only 19 at the time and to say i wasn't prepared for all the drama i just married into would be an understatement. We where together for 3 yrs and fought most of that time. She needed counseling for her past abused life and I had no idea how to deal with her. We ended up with her leaving me to run off and back to her old life style. After our divorce I dated around but my heart was very broken and alone. Many years later i received a call from her mother saying that Shannon (my ex) had past away from cancer. That was the most surreal moment in my life.

I have always struggled with loneliness. It seems to dog my ever foot step... After her I managed to get in and out of many relationships but non ever made it through to a life time together. I was hurt, angry, frustrated.. I cried out to God .. WHY??!! I am sick to death of being hurt, lied to, and betrayed.. all i ever wanted was to simply settle down with a good Christian woman, and raise my family like i was raised. I even got to the point i became very angry and distant with God because i never could get an answer from him about this.

I am still to this day struggling with God over this issue. Some days i can let it go and trust in him to lead me the right way but other days I just plain out hurt. I don't know if God has someone for me, he may in fact not.. but the question came down to this. Was I going to let Satan destroy me over this? Could I give this up if God so wanted me to and still follow him?

He showed me what his disciples gave up to follow him which is much more then he is asking of me.. could i be that strong? I have to be... If this is what He wants me to lay at his feet then i will scoop up all the pieces of my heart and lay them at his feet. So be it.. I will never allow my hurt to come between me and God again. It nearly destroyed me...

So you have to be patient with God but be willing to do whatever he asks of you even if it means giving up what your heart desires the most. I'm not saying God has told me I will never have someone but though i struggle i still let him know i am willing to do what ever he wants me to do..

Just my 2 cents

[SweetRain]

Some thoughts about being single...

I got married very young and up to that point i had a very sheltered life. I was raised in a Christian home with loving parents. So I thought this was just the normal way of life for most everyone. At 22 I married a girl who came from a horrible past. She was only 19 at the time and to say i wasn't prepared for all the drama i just married into would be an understatement. We where together for 3 yrs and fought most of that time. She needed counseling for her past abused life and I had no idea how to deal with her. We ended up with her leaving me to run off and back to her old life style. After our divorce I dated around but my heart was very broken and alone. Many years later i received a call from her mother saying that Shannon (my ex) had past away from cancer. That was the most surreal moment in my life.

I have always struggled with loneliness. It seems to dog my ever foot step... After her I managed to get in and out of many relationships but non ever made it through to a life time together. I was hurt, angry, frustrated.. I cried out to God .. WHY??!! I am sick to death of being hurt, lied to, and betrayed.. all i ever wanted was to simply settle down with a good Christian woman, and raise my family like i was raised. I even got to the point i became very angry and distant with God because i never could get an answer from him about this.

I am still to this day struggling with God over this issue. Some days i can let it go and trust in him to lead me the right way but other days I just plain out hurt. I don't know if God has someone for me, he may in fact not.. but the question came down to this. Was I going to let Satan destroy me over this? Could I give this up if God so wanted me to and still follow him?

He showed me what his disciples gave up to follow him which is much more then he is asking of me.. could i be that strong? I have to be... If this is what He wants me to lay at his feet then i will scoop up all the pieces of my heart and lay them at his feet. So be it.. I will never allow my hurt to come between me and God again. It nearly destroyed me...

So you have to be patient with God but be willing to do whatever he asks of you even if it means giving up what your heart desires the most. I'm not saying God has told me I will never have someone but though i struggle i still let him know i am willing to do what ever he wants me to do..

Just my 2 cents

Thank you for sharing your testimony. Right now I know I need to wait and be patient on finding someone for me. Occassionally I get confused, wondering if there is somthing wrong with my life when I notice my friends finding boyfriends/girlfriends and possibly marrying sooner than I. But I need to know that the greatest relationship I can ever have is one with God. When I can realize how wonderful it is to be in love with God, the hurt and insecurity of lacking a bf relationship dwindles. I can finally be free and live in tone to what God wants me to be while I'm solely his. If a part of my life is to find someone to love aswell, then great, if not then so what, nothing is going to stop me from enjoying life because God still love's me the same.

I know it takes forever to perceive being single in a positive light because, especially for me, it seems that we never get to experience love or that no one deeply cares about us. It always silenced me whenever I saw most of my female friends always receiving flowers or being called lovely when the only time I get that encouragement is on rare occasions from relatives. So satan really had a hold on me. Then what made it worse was when I finally did get alot of complements it was from people who wanted to take advantage of me. So I felt like I may never have anyone who wants to care about me.

Unsuspectedly, despite all my loneliness, God was beginning to show me what true love is. At that time, my desire of a boyfriend was greater than seeking God. Fortunately I didn't get a boyfriend (because I probably would have lost my faith in God), but God sent a few godly single men in my life who cared about me not because they saught a marriage relationship but a strong friendship in Christ. For the first time, confidence began to sink in and I felt beautiful even while being single. My closest guy friend was a real blessing because even though we were not dating, he constantly prayed for me and loved me like a dear sister. I definately saw the love of God in Him and decided to seek after the source of that love, which was Christ. I believe that God used them to reveal his love to me and helped me realize that I do have someone caring for me, and it was Him.

God taught me to accept being single not as a punishment, but as a season in life. We don't have to feel odd. God created us to seek after him first, everything else follows if he wills. His love is perfect and His loyalty last for eternity. When we recognize how beautifully and wonderfully made and desired in the eyes of God, all other desires will not dictate our live's any longer. That kind of love is not optain in a spouse relationship. Many times we rush into relationships hoping that we can finally be secure in ourselves and find happyness. The problem is that the person we are with are hoping the same thing. Or worse, we may believe we are completing each other and begin to lose interest in loving God. So at this time of being single we are given an opportunity to mature in love for others. So whither or not God wants us to live totally available for God, or caring for a family as well as serving him, we can still be confident in who we are in Christ and have time to develop into the person God made us to be.

And for all you singles who lack in being told how wonderful you are, God wants you to know that your not simple, not even nice.... but.....

Beautiful and handsome peoplez!! God Loves You!

[Fez]

My vision is to be a community leader, serve others

Are you working towards that in any way?

Not a loaded question, but if it is your vision, the desire of your heart, you should be taking positive steps towards achieving this.

Blessings

[RGR]

Wonderful post, Sweet Rain! As a 36 (soon to be 37) divorced guy, I can relate to what you're going through.

I can relate to tscotty in a lot of respects. I never really dated, led a sheltered life to a great extent and never really understood that there were those out there who were users.

I married a girl I met at another church at the ripe old age of 21. We were introduced to one another through a friend of mine and after dating for one month and ten days, I married her. Stupid, huh? Well, it didn't seem stupid at the time. Everything I wanted to hear, she had to say.

11 1/2 years after we were married, she walked out on me (not the first time) to be with a newly found boyfriend. Everytime before I'd let her come back but this time I made up my mind I wasn't. I have custody of the kids and she might see them every couple of months.