Christians dating non Christians

[Guest CaptainMandolin]

One of the Preachers at my church was once a somewhat zealous Atheist who was converted by his always faithful wife who grew up in a Christian environment. It was a very touching story. A positive outcome of a Christain and Athiest dating. Ha! Go Me!

[UndecidedFrog]

Dear darkest red,

This is just my opinion. You don't have to accept it if you dislike it. DISCLAIMER: I am not a christian.

So, from a non-christian perspective, I would recommend that you give serious thought to dating only people you may consider marrying. If marrying an unbeliever is out of the question for you (this unequally yoked business), then I would suggest you do not consider dating unbelievers.

If, however, you are open to considering marrying non-christians, then by all means go and date unbelievers. Remember that in any growing relationship, as much as you influence your potential mate, they will influence you as well. Whether this influence is a good thing or a bad thing, I will not say.

I really disagree that being with non-christians necessarily leads one to sinful behaviour. I can tell you from personal experience (me, an unbeliever dating a christian) that it wasn't me that led my intimate friend into sinful behaviour.

If you are not sure about which direction you prefer, I suggest you do not date. I suggest you get together in larger social groups and get to know the person of interest better so that you can decide with more and better information.

Best of luck,

UndecidedFrog

Edited September 19, 2004 by UndecidedFrog

[Guest californialamb]

Darkest,

PERSONAL EXPERENCE SPEAKING!

In my search for a soul mate I have allowed myself to break my own spirtual boundries AND made excues for them. I have different varities of people in diffenet levels of beliefs.

I have thought that someone who believes in God would eventually grow stonger in the Lord (due to what I viewed as my level of belief) it only resulted in a block in my reationship with God. I have even dated those who have been a christian inexcess of 15 years. This doesn't show how far they have gone, only how long they have been on the road.

Let me tell you something. Try to learn how much God loves you and the way in which he loves you. Then when you look at a person you are interested in watch that person. If you don't see the "God" in them, then quick looking. A true man or woman of God should look for the same thing in you.

Once you understand Gods nature you would WANT the person God has for you. THere is the GOOD choice and the GOD choice. God knows you better than anyone. Choose the person that most resembles Him.

Does that make sense?

[Orr v'emet]

THere is the GOOD choice and the GOD choice. God knows you better than anyone. Choose the person that most resembles Him.

Very well said!

[stevehut]

A positive outcome of a Christain and Athiest dating. Ha! Go Me!

That's very encouraging.

But personal experiences and warm-fuzzy stories do not outweigh the teachings and examples of the Scriptures.

In the case of my Mom (A Christian) and Dad (An athiest) it worked the other way.

[senerhu]

I didn't...

[Guest californialamb]

Stevehut,

I agree

God is amazing at what He restores.

God is ultimatey in control. His words are to protect us from that which can control us. THere are a lot of stories out there that show Gods wonderful Grace, and the story of the unequally yolked realtionshp would be wonderful for those already in a marriage, and it may shed hope on those in a commited realtionship...

But no one should kid themselves into thinking straying from Gods word is wise. Why else would he say what he did. To even entertain the idea that OUR choice would be good, even when it goes against scripture, is to undermine scripture.

I pray that we all earnestly seek His commands. they are not reccomendations or suggestions, they are instructions. Love the Lord first... I believe He will direct our paths once we truely understand His desires for us. :il:

[Guest Lyssa737]

I think some of wat ur saying is silly, there is many stories of couples that arent both christians and then the one that is shares there beleifs and then the other one chooses christianity to. If no christians ever dated non christians then the word o the lord wouldent be spreading to all people. im just asking u to remember that u cant choose who u love or like and it can and does happen that your partner might become a christian.

[UndecidedFrog]

This is just my opinion. If you don't like it, you don't have to accept it. DISCLAIMER: I am not a christian.

For those people who have this Holy Spirit with which to interpret biblical passages correctly, I think it is a good thing to determine what is the difference between:

1) Commandments (what is commanded)

2) Recommendations

3) Suggestions

4) None of the above

Clearly, since I am not a christian, I do not have this Holy Spirit with which I can interpret these differences.

Regards,

UndecidedFrog

[Guest californialamb]

I think some of wat ur saying is silly, there is many stories of couples that arent both christians and then the one that is shares there beleifs and then the other one chooses christianity to. If no christians ever dated non christians then the word o the lord wouldent be spreading to all people. im just asking u to remember that u cant choose who u love or like and it can and does happen that your partner might become a christian.

I think maybe I didn't come across saying what I meant.

there is many stories of couples that arent both christians and then the one that is shares there beleifs and then the other one chooses christianity to.

OF course this is true I did not mean to imply that it doesn't happen or that it shouldn't happen. This is a wonderful thing! It is usually the one who follows that shows the other what God can do and is doing to the mate that brings them closer to God.

If no christians ever dated non christians then the word o the lord wouldent be spreading to all people.

I don't personaly believe that God uses "dating" as a regular means of bringing people to the Lord.

im just asking u to remember that u cant choose who u love or like and it can and does happen that your partner might become a christian.

You can fall in love with someone who isn't a christain when you are one, but I believe love is a choice. It does happen that a partner could become a christian. We all have opinions on what we view the scriptures to be saying and I am not here to argue with people.

What I am trying to say is FOR ME if I am devoted to God (not saying you are not) then I love Him first. I love his nature, I love his word, to know God in this way I must share in His nature. To Be Christ-like and to look for those things in my life that emulate him and his nature. I was single and after failed relationships hoping the person would grow to love God as much as I did, I realized that I needed to stop looking at those I could grow up and start looking to those who were mature in the Lord and would help me to grow. I want the man I choose to be the Christian Leader in my home.

Although your ideals may not match mine, I don't think mine are silly at all, just different than yours. I would appreciate if you could say you don't agree, rahter than label my opinons with adjetives that might be taken as an insult. The choices you make are yours and the only person you are responsible to is God, not me at all. I pray that we all learn to understand what God is tryig to tell us, so that we don't stray from truth.