My sister cna't walk into a church!

[Chiquita]

I have been contemplating how I can help her for some time now. I was wondering if you might be able to advice.

Its a long story but I'll make it short. When my sister was growing up she was verbally and physically abused my our mother. My mother is a big alcoholic and she doesn't even remember half of the things that she did. I can't even think about it now because its just so painful having grown up like this. My little sister tells me that every night she would pray for the abuse to stop. She says every night she would cry for God to help the abuse to stop but it never stopped.

So, unfortunately, she got into praying to the evil one for him to make it stop because she says praying to God didn't work. How far this went, I have no idea because she doesn't like to talk to me about it. So she was into that for a while.

She never finished school. She had a child when she was 16. She never went back to school. She can't ever hold down a job. All she does is live with my mother and cook and clean. She talks a lot about what she wants to do but never does ANYTHING. She wants to model and go to school but shes over weight and hasn't even gotten a GED. She's going to be 21 next month.

I believe that the abuse mixed with praying to the devil mixed together is the reason she is like this. Shes back to praying to God but she can't go into a church. She stand outside and prays from there. She says the closer she gets to the church, the more painful it gets for her to even breathe. She says she gets a bad pain in her chest and she literally can't get close or even walk in.

I've tried taking her and she says no because it hurts. I can't find the words to help her snap out of this. I need advice and a lot of prayers.

My mother still drinks heavily and I pray to God to have mercy on her soul because thats all I can do. I have a lot of anger as well for the things shes put us through as well but I have better dealt with it than she has. I too went through praying to the wrong Gods because I also felt he never answered my prayers either. I too was very angry that he allowed this to happen to us. I have repented and am back with God. I am doing good now but my sister isn't.

Please help us,

Chiquita

[BroChuck]

Hi Chiquita.....Welcome to Worthy!

The Best Advice i can give ya is .. Pray for your sis ...The Lord hears the prayers of His children that are obedient to His will and...Just try to be the light of Jesus to her ... allow her to watch you you as walk in perfect peace of Jesus Christ...Go to His word and hold on to His Promises .. He Says He will never leave nor forsake us .... and thats a promise....The Abuse has hardened her heart tremendously and about the only thing that can penetreate that hurt is The Love of God ..... we don't always undertand things .. why they happen .. but they do .. and we must try to get pass these things .. Giving them to Our Lord and Saviour....Keep Praying for her ...and show her The Love of Christ That lives within you.

Psalms 66:19 But verily God hath heard me; he hath attended to the voice of my prayer.

I will Pray for your Sis .. and You too

Love in Christ .. Yur Bro ....... Chuck

[Leonard]

Lord Jesus bring healing to this family.

[Chiquita]

Thank you for your advice and your prayers. It is greatly appreciated.

[his]

I have been contemplating how I can help her for some time now. I was wondering if you might be able to advice. 

Its a long story but I'll make it short. When my sister was growing up she was verbally and physically abused my our mother. My mother is a big alcoholic and she doesn't even remember half of the things that she did. I can't even think about it now because its just so painful having grown up like this. My little sister tells me that every night  she would pray for the abuse to stop. She says every night she would cry for God to help the abuse to stop but it never stopped.

So, unfortunately, she got into praying to the evil one for him to make it stop because she says praying to God didn't work. How far this went, I have no idea because she doesn't like to talk to me about it. So she was into that for a while.

She never finished school. She had a child when she was 16. She never went back to school. She can't ever hold down a job. All she does is live with my mother and cook and clean. She talks a lot about what she wants to do but never does ANYTHING. She wants to model and go to school but shes over weight and hasn't even gotten a GED. She's going to be 21 next month.

I believe that the abuse mixed with praying to the devil mixed together is the reason she is like this. Shes back to praying to God but she can't go into a church. She stand outside and prays from there. She says the closer she gets to the church, the more painful it gets for her to even breathe. She says she gets a bad pain in her chest and she literally can't get close or even walk in.

I've tried taking her and she says no because it hurts. I can't find the words to help her snap out of this. I need advice and a lot of prayers.

My mother still drinks heavily and I pray to God to have mercy on her soul because thats all I can do. I have a lot of anger as well for the things shes put us through as well but I have better dealt with it than she has.  I too went through praying to the wrong Gods because I also felt he never answered my prayers either. I too was very angry that he allowed this to happen to us. I have repented and am back with God. I am doing good now but my sister isn't.

Please help us,

Chiquita

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Hello Chiquita~

Welcome to worthy. I always have a lot to say...but first, let me begin with a little true story that happened to me....

When I was little I was abused and basically treated badly. I remember praying like yesterdaythat GOD would save me ...take me out of this torture. I would cry and whail. I had never ending streams of tears. (It seems like it was just moments ago, when in actuality it has been nearly a decade.) I would sit, face in pillow....screaming for GOD to help me...because I was good, innocent, I prayed hard enough, I believed...I gave HIM an endless list of why he should save me. I prayed that he could take me out of this and give me a 'normal' family and let me be loved. I just wanted to feel the peace and security a person should have in a family. I specifically prayed "I just want to know what it is like to be loved in a normal family". It still chokes me up....(this was before I really knew GOD, but I distinctly remember after torturous months of praying and reading the bible...HE didn't save me.... He left me there to suffer and I figured that HE didn't care about someone as insignificant as me) but assuming GOD hated me, with bible in hand, tears in eyes, I screamed ' I hate you....G--, as loud as you can imagine a young child scream. I, from then on figured that I was going to live never knowing what it was like to be loved. Things got worse.....much worse. My life got about as bad as I can imagine ones life deteriorating to...I still prayed...but already accepted that love in my life would never happen...I would never have that necessary parental love. I married on my eighteenth birthday...to a violent man (go figure...very bad judgement on my part....needed better guidance) I then (while still consistantly praying) realized and accepted that GOD had never intended for me to be loved...I just wasn't lovable... I knew that HE hated me. So I thought I would just 'make it' alone...without anyone caring about me. After my husband had done some extermely immoral things....(not your run of the mill affairs) combined with violence his parents took me in....because it wasn't safe for me and my newborn. TO THE POINT....after...WAY AFTER I had given up on ever having a parental love these inlaws have been more that I would have thought having loving parents were like. They love me as if I were there own...no doubts ...NONE. Last night I was finishing a snack...and my 'dad'-father in law... said he was heading to bed...I said I am not done with my snack yet...don't leave..(I was just kidding) He sat down facing the ball game...as was I and when I finished my snack he said Okay...then headed to bed....I didn't even realize he was sitting there because of my request(had I known that I wouldn't have taken my sweet time)...nobody had ever done something (reguardless of how small it was) for me before. Mom-dedicates every Saturday to me. I could really go on forever about how wonderful they are...dad even washes my car for me sometimes....and does the cross word puzzle with me...and we actually eat dinner together as a family...mom lets me rummage through her clothes and does a lot of church things with me, they have shown me unconditional love. I AM twenty and I have been here for a year...( I NEEDED to recover from what I had been through...I had PTSD...just a minor case...still do..but it is much better) I know that I NEED to leave but would be happy staying here forever...I think they would like me to stay too...but we all know that I NEED to take care of myself and my son on my own... I am so thankful that just when I thought I had passed the age of possibly having the essential parental love...twenty years old, GOD answered my prayers from when I was eleven....the deepest prayer in my heart...I am so thankful that I got to experience it...even if it is only for a little while.

[refugepsa91]

Great testimony his...but just think your not going to only experience this love for a little while....you can experience it every day in your little boy And when you look at your baby with your heart overflowing with love...remember this is how God looks at you.

Love and Blessings,

Angel

[his]

I JUST WANT YOU TO SEE THAT GOD IS FAITHFUL AND REMIND YOU THAT EVEN THOUGH YOUR SISTERS PRAYERS WERN'T ANSWERED...IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT TIME IS UP....GOT TAKES HIS TIME...

I want to say that you should not worry about saving you sister...in the bible it says that GOD has chosen who will be his children (christians) and who will not. He has never lost one that he has chosen...it is in the bible...can give references... If you do nothing and GOD wants your sister to find HIM he will send someone else...but I still encourage you to serve HIM by sharing the GOOD NEWS.

Your sister may have what sounds like anxiety at the church because of guilt....she (I am just throwing in my opinion...) probably thinks that GOD is mad at her...and looks down on her for who she turned to in the time of desperation. I assure you that if GOD held things against people then I would never see heaven....before I was saved I did worse than most can try to think. That is what GOD's grace and love is all about. If your sister struggles with GOD and chruch then the first (and most important ) thing she can do is read the word...that is how she will get to know him...then she will see how unconditional his love is. I think she should read ROMANS...it is all about GOD's love.

REMEMBER: While chruch is wonderful...it helps you know GOD better...worship him..and meet christian friends...almost essential (in time) the MOST important thing it to know GOD. If she has a curiosity about GOD she is better than a lot of people I know... SHe NEEDS to READ the WORD!!!!!!! SHE MUST DO THAT....but church will come later...especially with the anxiety...church doesn't save...the words do...people get saved in church so much because that is where a lot of people hear the word...

If GOD has chosen her then she will know HIM.....Strengthen your faith....some people don't find GOD until they are even ninty....maybe older...but I will only speak from what I know.

No matter what the turn out is try to trust that GOD's will is perfect....HE knows what his is doing and Romans 8:28 'and we know that in all things GOD works for the good of those who love him and have been called according to his purpose"

As a christian, do not be angry at your mom..... I agree that she obviously didn't take being a mother the way God intended but I cannot imagine how sad her life must be.....to drink all of the time...she doesn't even allow herself to think straight...to be deprived of you own thoughts is unimaginable....she is probably drinking because she is miserable, and doesn't know GOD....which will not be good for her in the end....I feel terrible for her.....I pray that she will find GOD. I do not think that she is any less guilty for what she did to her precious children....that is inexcusable...but her life has been a waste and that is definately sad. She could have done better.

AFTER>>> AFTER your sister recieves Christ she will probably get serious about doing better for herself and her children. Until then, just pray.

For you, Chiquita, I recommend reading the book of Habakkuk...it is only two pages in the bible...I think it will really help you. It will not take long to read. IT is SO encouraging.

I will be with you in prayer. Have faith....GOD IS there. GOD BLESS, HIS

[his]

Thanks Angel...I definatly have the overflowing love of being a mother.....I never ever feel less than overwhelmed with love with my boy...he brings me so much joy. I will always have the love of my inlaws. Being blessed with loving parental figures in a peaceful homelife (I wont have the treasured constant one on one attention that I have been so abundantly blessed with) is only for a short while...the love wont go anywhere. Thank you for the reminder. Gratefully, HIS

[Chiquita]

Anxiety attacks, hu? That sounds about right.

Thank you all so much for your kind words...

[Fr Chuck]

While this will not fit well with others, most likely she has a demonic problem, and needs to have the church come to her. You need to go to your pastor ( if they beleive in such matters) or find one that does, and have them visit with her.

If she really wants to be saved and recieve Christ, it can happen.