Life at a crossroads, IDK anymore...

[NewToChrist]

Ok so here's where I'm at. Most of you already know what I've been through, some more than others. But, recently my family has decided to desert me. After a miscarriage and losing the man I thought I loved who I'd been with for a long while and wanted to marry...he passed away. Now my family is saying my job isn't good enough. That I need to go to Job Corps and get out, or they will "give me a one way ride to the mission".

 

Yes, I know they can't "force" my to go to Job Corps but I feel I am being strong armed into having no other option. They aren't giving me any time to save $ to get my own place just that every job I've had isn't good enough. THEY FORCED ME TO QUIT MY LAST JOB, after giving them nearly 80% of ALL the $ earned during it, AND letting them set up T.V services in MY name that THEY let go to collections three times!.

 

Yet, this job (secretary for a senior living center $9.33/hr 35hrs a week) still isn't good enough. At least it's something! Should I stand my ground and hope they don't kick me out or give in to the controlling manipulative behavior and go to Job Corps which I'll never be happy with, then sue them or every penny that went to collections?....I see no guidance from the Lord on this I feel like I'm all alone contemplating the worst is how bad this is for me right now. My parents ultimatum is quit my apparently "dead end" job and go to Job Corps or "get out"...

[missmuffet]

Where does God come in on all of this?Are you asking God to open your heart to Him? possibly to guide and direct your heart and your steps?

[NewToChrist]

Yes I have been for a while now. 

[Guest]

Praying~!

[Guest]

While only having one side of the story, I will say that no parent or family member has the right to rip off another.

 

I'm a guy, so I deal with things a little differently when it comes to things like this. I'm also a drug addict that Jesus cleaned up, so I know about controlling, manipulative behavior too. It just wasn't family in my case. I would suggest you take a few actions while you're praying. In the Bible we see God keeping his word to the Israelites, fighting many battles for them, and giving them victory -- but one common thread in most cases is the Israelites were still expected to suit up and show up on the battlefield, not lounge around in camp while God did all the work. I'm not saying that's what you're doing, but we are expected to do what we can.

 

I would have a look at Job Corps too. I know several folks who have gone, and there are a lot of options for training there. Its not as bad a some might have you believe. You'll have options available afterward that you would not otherwise have. I only takes a short time to learn what those options are, and the reality is that you are not making all that much considering the cost of living in the Seattle area. I spent a few years in both Seattle and Spokane, so I'm not unfamiliar with that. I'm not making much more than you are, and its not easy keeping an apartment and staying up on the bills, etc.

 

See what your options are for getting help at a shelter where you can stay and save up money to get your own place. This is important, especially if you're being ripped off by the folks at home. There are plenty of shelters in my area that will help folks do this, some even require you to save up to 80% of your earnings while there. Have a chat with a social worker about getting some free legal help over that TV service business -- it sounds like identity theft if someone is signing up for service in your name, and you could possibly bring charges. These things may take some time, but its worth the effort to find out what options you have and it will rob the family of the power of "or get out" when you know you have a place to go. It might be a shelter, but it would be better than putting up with all the manipulation and enabling bad choices.

[WalkTheWay]

Don't allow another human to force you to do something that you don't want to do.  Research all the assistance options you have in your community.  Find other fellow believers in your community who could assist you in some way.  Perhaps you can share an apartment with someone or rent a room from someone.  There are many other options besides joining the job corps.