Wedding rings

[Guest The Chief]

Married couples in our church do not wear wedding bands simply because there is no Scriptural support or basis for the wearing of them. When we first began to attend our church, my wife and I wore our rings, but after seeing the lack of supporting scripture for wearing them, we decided to agree with our church's stance on the issue and placed them in our safe for safekeeping; we know whom we are married to (face it, who'd want ME, lol, other than her?) and so do the other church members. It has never been an issue for us in public, as we are not looking, and we politely explain we are married if asked...

[UndecidedFrog]

This is just my opinion. You don't have to accept it if you dislike it. DISCLAIMER: I am not a christian.

Married couples in our church do not wear wedding bands simply because there is no Scriptural support or basis for the wearing of them

There is no scriptual support for buying gasoline to fuel your automobiles either. Do christians buy gas?

There is scriptual support for not cutting off men's sideburns, or eating unclean animals such as pigs (pork, bacon, etc.), or eating meat mixed with dairy (cheeseburgers). Do christians do these things?

How do most christians rationalize what to do and what not to do?

Regards,

UndecidedFrog

[Fr Chuck]

The wedding ring is a very pagan custom, and all Christians were not allowed to use them for 100's of years in the early church. It was not till one of the Bihsops of Rome because of pressure from many who wished to wear them, finally gave church approval for thieir use.

So Christians can wear them because Bishop in about the 8th century gave his permission for us to wear them.

But before that they were always considered a sign of pagan religions.

I guess those today that don't want them, remember what they really were at first and don't wish to take the permission of a bishop of Rome as an ok to use them.

[NotJohn]

I was quite surprised when I read that some churches have banned wedding rings!! To me, it's very strange. Perhaps the custom does have pagan origins, but are we worshipping pagan gods by putting one on? How funny!! Fields, you said that your pastor used the scripture about outward adornments as a defense of his belief in the matter. A wedding ring is not designed as an adornment to entice! On the contrary, it announces (to most people) that the one wearing it is not available. I look forward to the day when I can wear one, and announce my love and commitment to a wonderful woman to everyone who sees me! And if a pastor told me to remove it, I would remove myself instead, from his congregation. But that's just me. Ask God if that is the church in which He wants you.

[Guest fiverottendogs]

Even among christians, you cannot agree.  Hence you have over 10,000 individual denominations.  Some shun all (and I mean all) worldly things and live as hermits.  Some live freely in the world.  I would say most are somewhere in between the two extremes.

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You are exactly right Frog. I am a Christian and it makes me mad to see how we can say we have the love of God in us and then fight with each other over stuff that is so small between all denominations. Personally I believe what I believe and that is why I belong to a certain denomination but I don't think others have to agree with my denomination to be right also.

I think people like yourself who are not Christians see all the fighting and think hey why should I even want a part of this and I can see why.

Frog you are a very observant person and even though me and you do not agree on being a Christian I respect what you have to say. Thanks for all the things you say to make people on this board take a look at things from a person that is not a Christian.

[Lekcit]

I wanted to add my 2 cents. I realize that the custom of wedding rings was originally a pagan custom but that doesn't mean we cannot adapt the meaning into our spiritual pilgrimage. I mean look at the Christmas Tree.

I look at the wedding ring the same way that I look at Baptism. Baptism is an outward sign of an inward relationship. Our Baptism is the public display of our personal decision to follow Christ as Saviour. Baptism does not save us. The same holds true for a wedding ring. It is an outward display of our personal relationship with our spouse, in my case, my wife. It does not make me married. If I take my ring off, I am still married. So, like Baptism, my wedding ring is an outward sign of an inward relationship.

In Him.

[RustyAngeL]

I have never heard of a church that doesn't allow wedding rings, however if you run into one run, don't walk away from it.... There may be no scripture to support it but I like to. I read that it meant an ownership over the wife by the husband. That is a little over the top for today. And yes for the record I wear one. You bet I waited 30 years for the right one to come along before I got married. Yeah I wear a wedding band. You bet I do!

Edited January 17, 2005 by Rustyangel

[UndecidedFrog]

Dear fiverottendogs

This is just my opinion. You don't have to accept it if you dislike it. DISCLAIMER: I am not a christian.

Thanks for all the things you say to make people on this board take a look at things from a person that is not a Christian.

Thank you for noticing.

Regards,

UndecidedFrog

[Guest tanner]

I have never heard of a church that doesn't allow wedding rings, however if you run into one run, don't walk away from it.... There may be no scripture to support it but I like to.  I read that it meant an ownership over the wife by the husband.  That is a little over the top for today.  And yes for the record I wear one.  You bet I waited 30 years for the right one to come along before I got married.  Yeah I wear a wedding band.  You bet I do!

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My faith does not beleieve in rings, however wearing a ring is not going to send you to hell. This is not a new teaching and has been practiced in my faith for at least a 100 years. It is both because of the scripture referring to modest aparrel and because of the pagan traditions.

[Guest quadding101]

Some churches r very strick and put things on people that God did not put on them. It does not mean they r bad but for whatever reason the leadership somewhere in their past chose these laws for their church. If u like the people and the church i would go and not let what anyone tells me affect me. I have gone to such churches and many of the people r good but misguided. God calls us to modesty in dress and such things, Dress for a woman is a lust issue and in this day and age with the life styles it is also for a man. What a man sees turns him on and if a woman or man dresses in such a way to cause someone to lust after them then that person is just as guilty as the person that lusts. it is called responsibility. no i am not says a guy that lives his or her life style is a christian but because of the life styles men need to watch what they wear or it will cause someone to lust after them. God did not call us to dress like we just steped off wagontrain in the 1800s. modesty in all things except God u cannot get too much of God.