How should a Christian date?

[Leonardo Von]

On 10/21/2014 at 0:09 AM, Arka said:

Is there any wisdom I can give him that would help rein in his behavior? I don't think that it's good for him to be all over all of these different girls. I'm very concerned for him and just want to help him lead a good, Christian life.

Dear sister Arka,

 

Grace and mercy and Peace from our lord Jesus Christ.

Find in Jesus that he sees the true purpose of marriage. One of the things he needs to learn is that we should never be guided by eye sight, since:

 

·        Thus saith the LORD; Cursed [ be ] the man that trusteth in man, and maketh flesh his arm, and whose heart departeth from the LORD. For he shall be like the heath in the desert, and shall not see when good cometh; but shall inhabit the parched places in the wilderness, [ in ] a salt land and not inhabited. Blessed [ is ] the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is. For he shall be as a tree planted by the waters, and [ that ] spreadeth out her roots by the river, and shall not see when heat cometh, but her leaf shall be green; and shall not be careful in the year of drought, neither shall cease from yielding fruit. The heart [ is ] deceitful above all [ things ], and desperately wicked: who can know it?” (Jeremiah 17.5-9).

 

So much so that:

 

·        There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof [ are ] the ways of death.” (Proverbs 16.25).

 

The truth is that it is not for human beings to direct their steps.

 

·        The preparations of the heart in man, and the answer of the tongue, [ is ] from the LORD.” (Proverbs 16.1).

·        O LORD, I know that the way of man [ is ] not in himself: [ it is ] not in man that walketh to direct his steps.” (Jeremiah 10.23).

 

Second, instead of looking at the qualities that the other has to offer us, what we should observe is whether we are willing to help him overcome his disruptions, if we have the gifts, the talents, and the call of the Eternal for this, and if the qualities of the other are able to provide me with the necessary environment for the Spirit of Jesus to work His Word in our hearts through each other's lives.

[enoob57]

On ‎10‎/‎20‎/‎2014 at 9:09 PM, Arka said:

Should one date at all? I don't think so, but I can't find any scripture to back that up. I can only find verses dealing with marriage, not specifically courtship.

 

Sex outside of marriage is clearly forbidden; however, what about other acts? My younger brother is 15 and says he's a Christian, but he constantly has a new girlfriend and is always kissing them and doing other things...but he says that because he's practicing abstinence, it's OK. Is it?

 

Is there any wisdom I can give him that would help rein in his behavior? I don't think that it's good for him to be all over all of these different girls. I'm very concerned for him and just want to help him lead a good, Christian life.

Because sin is of the heart and not just the action... one must honestly evaluate from there! I know a beautiful woman with a georgeous body would not influence a male toward proper  direction >except< if one was keeping his mind on God and desire of proper relationship with Him in the dating... I as a man was only able to do this (rarely) and this is said to my shame before you all unto God! Love, Steven