ricky Posted September 30, 2015 Group: Senior Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 40 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 508 Content Per Day: 0.14 Reputation: 216 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/04/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/09/1985 Share Posted September 30, 2015 I have a really problem with social awkwardness. It has got better over the years, but I still have problems talking to people, some people even think I come across as rude and cold. The truth is I want to be out going, I feel like the real me is trapped inside, I feel my shyness is keeping me from being the man God wants me to be. I would like some advice to combat this problem thanks. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted September 30, 2015 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,992 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,690 Content Per Day: 11.78 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted September 30, 2015 Those who have Asperger's which is a autistic spectrum disorder have this problem as well.They can not relate socially.Do you think it is really "shyness"? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
other one Posted September 30, 2015 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 599 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 56,222 Content Per Day: 7.56 Reputation: 27,947 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted September 30, 2015 Ricky when I first went to work at Xerox I was somewhat the same way...... My manager asked me to join Toastmasters for a while and it helped me a lot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JoshuaB Posted September 30, 2015 Group: Members Followers: 2 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 72 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 86 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/29/2015 Status: Offline Share Posted September 30, 2015 I can talk to people, however at times I run out of subjects which leaves an awkward silence. I have very old fashioned values and do not partake in the activities that persons of my age group do, this make me seem very unsociable. It's great that it is getting better; I'm pleased for you and I hope it gets even better in the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
other one Posted September 30, 2015 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 599 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 56,222 Content Per Day: 7.56 Reputation: 27,947 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted September 30, 2015 I can talk to people, however at times I run out of subjects which leaves an awkward silence. I have very old fashioned values and do not partake in the activities that persons of my age group do, this make me seem very unsociable. It's great that it is getting better; I'm pleased for you and I hope it gets even better in the future. one should not feel awkward during silences, especially with family or friends.... sometimes there is just nothing to say, and that should not make you uncomfortable. If you happen to be on the phone, it might signal time to hang up though, but if neither of you have anything else to say then just bask in silent friendship Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted September 30, 2015 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,992 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,690 Content Per Day: 11.78 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted September 30, 2015 Ricky when I first went to work at Xerox I was somewhat the same way...... My manager asked me to join Toastmasters for a while and it helped me a lot. Toastmasters is good for some but a nightmare for others. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted September 30, 2015 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,992 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,690 Content Per Day: 11.78 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted September 30, 2015 I think a person needs to distinguish between a simple shyness and a genuine social anxiety disorder which is more serious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ricky Posted October 1, 2015 Group: Senior Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 40 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 508 Content Per Day: 0.14 Reputation: 216 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/04/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/09/1985 Author Share Posted October 1, 2015 I was thinking something called avoidant peronality disorder personally, but there is no confirmation of that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest shiloh357 Posted October 1, 2015 Share Posted October 1, 2015 Shyness, in my opinion is not a disorder. And I know people who are shy until they get around people with whom they have interests in common. Not everyone is the life of the party, not everyone is assertive by nature and that's okay because God has made us very unique, very special. Having said that, I do think chronic shyness might be problematic, I mean if you just cannot talk to people and being around people makes you extremely nervous, you might need to get some counseling if that is the case.I have seen people who were shy and introverted come out of their shells when they were around the right people. In those cases, they are like kids on too much sugar. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted October 1, 2015 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,992 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,690 Content Per Day: 11.78 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted October 1, 2015 Shyness, in my opinion is not a disorder. And I know people who are shy until they get around people with whom they have interests in common. Not everyone is the life of the party, not everyone is assertive by nature and that's okay because God has made us very unique, very special. Having said that, I do think chronic shyness might be problematic, I mean if you just cannot talk to people and being around people makes you extremely nervous, you might need to get some counseling if that is the case. I have seen people who were shy and introverted come out of their shells when they were around the right people. In those cases, they are like kids on too much sugar. No shyness is not a disorder.There are those who are introverts as well.I just happen to not be one . But I have a couple of kids that are.There is a disorder which is a social anxiety disorder.This can be serious because it disrupts a person's everyday life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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