Guest Countrycutie64 Posted November 18, 2015 Share Posted November 18, 2015 My father was an abusive alcoholic. My mother left him and has since remarried, but I fear that I will marry a guy like him. No matter how many times I tell myself that God will protect me in whatever, the fear still lingers. What should I do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omegaman 3.0 Posted November 18, 2015 Group: Graduated to Heaven Followers: 57 Topic Count: 1,546 Topics Per Day: 0.21 Content Count: 10,320 Content Per Day: 1.41 Reputation: 12,323 Days Won: 9 Joined: 04/15/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/05/1951 Share Posted November 18, 2015 Pray, and don't marry without having a prospectve spouse, earn a turst by deserving it, don't be afraid to interview the people who know him best, do a background check etc, big deceisions should not be taken casually. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ezra Posted November 18, 2015 Group: Royal Member Followers: 16 Topic Count: 134 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 8,142 Content Per Day: 2.34 Reputation: 6,612 Days Won: 20 Joined: 11/02/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted November 18, 2015 My father was an abusive alcoholic. My mother left him and has since remarried, but I fear that I will marry a guy like him. No matter how many times I tell myself that God will protect me in whatever, the fear still lingers. What should I do?While God will certainly protect you, He also expects you to be wise in all your decisions. Jesus said be wise as serpents and harmless as doves. Spend much time in Job, Psalms, and Proverbs and learn from God's wisdom. Also ask God for wisdom, and believe that He has granted it, because He gives it liberally to those who ask (James 1:5-8). Get to know your prospective spouse thoroughly, and balance "love is blind" with "love is wise". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gerbilwoman Posted November 18, 2015 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 10 Topic Count: 62 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 2,332 Content Per Day: 0.67 Reputation: 685 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/07/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted November 18, 2015 Personally I'd avoid your father, but that's for you to decide not me. Wishing you well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FresnoJoe Posted November 19, 2015 Group: Graduated to Heaven Followers: 207 Topic Count: 60 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 8,651 Content Per Day: 1.17 Reputation: 5,761 Days Won: 4 Joined: 01/31/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/04/1943 Share Posted November 19, 2015 Praying~! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littlelambseativy Posted November 19, 2015 Group: Royal Member Followers: 6 Topic Count: 230 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 4,941 Content Per Day: 0.95 Reputation: 2,003 Days Won: 14 Joined: 02/08/2010 Status: Offline Share Posted November 19, 2015 If you want to see how your prospective husband will treat you ..look at how his father treats his mother. He has learned from his father how his wife should be treated. The same applies for men..to see how a wife will treat him he should look at how the girl's mother treats her husband. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alien224 Posted November 20, 2015 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 8 Topic Count: 82 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,762 Content Per Day: 0.38 Reputation: 869 Days Won: 2 Joined: 08/09/2011 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/24/1964 Share Posted November 20, 2015 Pray and seek Gods will for your life. And also follow Megas advice! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Omegaman 3.0 Posted November 20, 2015 Group: Graduated to Heaven Followers: 57 Topic Count: 1,546 Topics Per Day: 0.21 Content Count: 10,320 Content Per Day: 1.41 Reputation: 12,323 Days Won: 9 Joined: 04/15/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/05/1951 Share Posted November 20, 2015 If you want to see how your prospective husband will treat you ..look at how his father treats his mother. He has learned from his father how his wife should be treated. The same applies for men..to see how a wife will treat him he should look at how the girl's mother treats her husband. Than might be true some times, but I treated my wife, nothing like my father treated his, even when I was an unbeliever. We are not robots incapable of escaping our programming. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petula Posted November 21, 2015 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 8 Topic Count: 3 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1,499 Content Per Day: 0.43 Reputation: 1,665 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/17/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/31/1955 Share Posted November 21, 2015 (edited) Welcome countrycutie54 , you have been given wise advice , follow it and pray .God bless you .......... you are a daughter of God , do not accept abuse or violence from anyone no matter what excuse they give you , tell others , get help , walk away . take care of you Edited November 21, 2015 by petula accidentally pressed send , sorry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Littlelambseativy Posted November 21, 2015 Group: Royal Member Followers: 6 Topic Count: 230 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 4,941 Content Per Day: 0.95 Reputation: 2,003 Days Won: 14 Joined: 02/08/2010 Status: Offline Share Posted November 21, 2015 If you want to see how your prospective husband will treat you ..look at how his father treats his mother. He has learned from his father how his wife should be treated. The same applies for men..to see how a wife will treat him he should look at how the girl's mother treats her husband. Than might be true some times, but I treated my wife, nothing like my father treated his, even when I was an unbeliever. We are not robots incapable of escaping our programming.True, but in general, our parents are our role models and we learn early from them. Many who have abusive parents learn to love from other meaningful people in their lives. When one accepts Christ as Saviour that first model is no longer followed and Jesus becomes the role model. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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