nude posters on ur bf's walls

[Guest fil007]

You are right looking at nude woman or men ( if there not your spouse) is not right.

Since the sin of Adam and Eve, when we realized or nakedness, we covered ourselves for a reason, and although we would be far better off having not sinned, it is to late, and we should cover our shame (nakedness). I empathies with your position as a back sliding Christian, I have been there, as hard as it is to hear when your in that state, if you truly accepted Jesus Christ into your life and had a personal relationship with Him, no amount of sex, money, social status, est. will ever fill the empty space inside of you, that space wich gave you huge advantage in life can only be filled by God. The only thing that can come close to filling that God sized hole is an overdose of wordily activities, and the plain truth is, it always winds up causing us and those around us far more pain then it's worth. You see God is a jealous God, He bought us with a price (He's only begotten son's blood) and after we make that commitment to Jesus, there is no going back, God loved us first, so we should love Him. You see, if you are a Christian, like you say you are, God will never leave or forsake you and He loves you:6:. From personal experience, I can say that, the longer we stay back sliding, the longer we punish ourselves, how long is to long?

Rom 8:15 For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father.

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Rom 8:16 The Spirit itself beareth witness with our spirit, that we are the children of God:

God is the Creator and we are the Creation, not the other way around. Although it's in our sinful nature to want others to praise us, we are not worthy of praise, only The Father, the Son, and the Holy Ghost are worthy to receive praise, anf that is simply the way it is.

This may be hard to listen to but I beg you to hear me out. Are you really in love with your boyfriend, is He really in love with you? I heard you say that He is a devote Christen, so does He love you enough to wait for marriage before sharing your bodies with each other and vise versa:kiss2:? It is my firm belief that love is an act and not merely a feeling or emotion, sure, don't get me wrong, emotions and feelings can lead to love, but they are not love. I am simply telling you the truth, I am walking the good walk with Jesus at this present moment and have been back in God's good grace for two years now, in that short time my life has improved so much that you would probably not believe me if I told you what my life used to be like and what it's like now that I've asked God to come back in my life, it's truly unbelievable, and He will do the same for you if you let Him:lightbulb2:! The only woman I would ever consider being with is a devote Christian who is walking the walk, not just talking the talk, and I would never dream of having porn or pictures of naked woman around, that is a terrible thing to do to you, if you asked him to remove it.

If this guy really loves you, taking dirty pictures off the wall would be nothing, in fact you would have never seen them in the first place, because when your really love someone, you spend all your time to let them now that (other than Jesus), you are the most important person in the world . I really question if your boyfriend is walking a pure as walk as you think he is, if you two aren't able to communicate simple things such as naked posters, who will you communicate your feelings with each other?

Rev 2:5 Remember therefore from whence thou art fallen, and repent, and do the first works; or else I will come unto thee quickly, and will remove thy candlestick out of his place, except thou repent.

God loves you, what are you waiting for sister?

 

hey every1..im new it's polite to introduce myself so i will.. i'm from new zealand am 21 and have been a christian all of my life..during the past 3 years i have backslid so to speak not intentially but i am not reali going to church and am not as close to God as id like to be. I realise God is real and nothing will ever change that fact i cannot deny the experiences i have had in the past. I am so hungry for God but too lazy to go to the super market so to speak (church) ok so there'z sum info 4u about where im at. 

I have been going out with a wonderful guy for 3 1/2 months who i have grown to love..he was brought up christian has good values and is quite alternative..i dont know if he is the one for me as i know that God has the right person for me and will bring us together in his timming..but how do i know if he is that one? 

anyway this is what's bothering me....... 

I have a very strong dislike for porn..i hate it it's almost like i can feel my spirit mans anger when i see it..i feel confused..hurt..frustrated..clueless i dont understand why guys have these posters on their walls. I have brought this up to my boyfriend and he says they are just there because they are nice to look at and full in space on his walls. But why naked in those grossed out poses? cant you still appreciate someone who's good looking with clothes on? it's not like were in the garden of eden anymore. 

After a rather heated argument (the 3rd one) he took them down..i still expressed my anger even so..asking him why it had taken him THIS long..telling him if the situation had been turned around i would of taken them down the minute he said they made him uncomftable..he didnt really have an answer. A few days later i found some more pics he had printed off the net of a lady who looked like she was older enuff to be his mother with blond hair  ..u know the deal. He said hed had them for ages and he wasnt lying but wouldnt get rid of them..i was so mad i got them ripped them up and threw them in the bin. He doesn't ever get worked up or angry but he did say "alisha this is not going to work if you react like this everytime you find something about me you dont like" "you cant make me perfect" Am i being unfair? i hate those posters so much so doe's God but it's his room his life what can i do about it. I told him its disgusiting and perverted especially when he has a girlfriend..he said he had those pics cas she was "good looking" but im quite aware that "good looking" to most guys is sexy/seductive not beautifull as in say catherine zeta jones..i have neva seen tastefull pictures like these on a guys wall. i think that kinda made me jealous and upset as she was hideousally pornstar and it made me feel as low as anything he says im goregous and they dont compare as im his perfect girl. But i dont want to be with my bf surrounded by pictures of woman with no tops on with seducing poses etc.....he mite find them nice to look at but i dont when and how do you draw the line. I personally dont think its right when you have a girlfriend (especially) to have posters like that on ur wall it screams "hey look at me im perverted" im no different to that builder who whistled at you hollaring slime this morning. or "this is what i think is good looking/attractive now compare yourself" (it's worse when they look like pornstars or are!)...im not ugly but im not perfect i dont spend 5 hours in hair and makeup and photoshopped and airbrushed to look like barbie please help me i'm lost on this one yo 

Alisha 

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[Guest Bro David™]

After reading over that last post of mine i actually feel really stupid as i am with an unbeliever even when i know the truth.

I dont know if i am sinning as such, but please understand that once you get yourselves into a situation like this one thing is easily lead to another and before you know it this person is far too important to just drop..

yourv'e shared so much together your falling in love and you continuesly wonder how different life was before you met them and how empty it would be without them

sometimes i think to myself..who am i too judge where his heart's at with God?

i do not know why i think this..but it is true i should'nt judge him..but it is wrong too think that and..it's confusing

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Sis just ask yourself this one question.

If you prayed for the salvation of this guy you love.

Will God grant it ?

It is true that being married to an un-believer is not in the best interest of your walk with God.

See how God leads you and follow what HE leads you to do.

God Bless.

I guess I am saying this because I have seen many people while being a Christian fell in love with an "outsider" but prayer and their un-wavering love brought the "Outsider" into Christ.

And togather they are living has a testimony of the power of prayer.

[Constant]

Hmm...nude posters on your boyfriends walls? Yeah to me that is disrespectful to all women and I find that is sleazy but I really can't say anything since I am a subscriber to a certain magazine if you know what I mean. Um..I wish I had some good advise for you but as I type this, I realize that I don't. I am sorry for that and I hope that you will find and solve what you strive to do!

P.S.

The magazine thing was a joke. Just trying to bring some humor to the post! No but really, nakedness doesn't bother me but I can understand why it is wrong to have posters of it hanging up where everyone can see!

[tsth]

And many have followed their hearts, instead of what the Lord desired and had planned, and wake up and wonder, what have I done? Why is my marriage a mess and this man my husband? We get entangled in the "feelings" of our own emotion, and they will begin to "override" God's plans for our lives. We should NEVER, NEVER, NEVER, prioritize by our feelings. We should ALWAYS believe what God says is right for us. God knows what is best. That is why He tells us that He will not be mocked, we reap what we sow. We plant a thistle bush, we sow thistles. If we plant a bountiful harvest by His Word, we will reap a bountiful harvest to live off of. Listen to His Word Alisha, He will not mislead you, He is trustworthy and right.

In His Love,

Suzanne

[Guest Bro David™]

And many have followed their hearts, instead of what the Lord desired and had planned, and wake up and wonder, what have I done?

[tsth]

So how does it work if by the time this girl gets to prayer her Faith is influenced by negativity that somehow God only answers the Prayers He wants.

That is pretty much a correct statement David.

God does not go against His Own Word. So, in essence, yes, God answers prayer HE wants. Prayer that is in alignment with His Word. If we are asking amiss, we are asking things that are not in agreement with His Word, and these things are not right.

See James 4.

In His Love,

Suzanne

[Guest Bro David™]

God does not go against His Own Word.

[tsth]

Dear David,

Faith is NOT believing in "anything". Faith is believing in God's Word.

In His Love,

Suzanne

[tsth]

That is Truth, based upon the Word.

thanks WSB, for contributing that.

In His Love,

Suzanne

[nebula]

After reading over that last post of mine i actually feel really stupid as i am with an unbeliever even when i know the truth.

I dont know if i am sinning as such, but please understand that once you get yourselves into a situation like this one thing is easily lead to another and before you know it this person is far too important to just drop..

yourv'e shared so much together your falling in love and you continuesly wonder how different life was before you met them and how empty it would be without them

sometimes i think to myself..who am i too judge where his heart's at with God?

i do not know why i think this..but it is true i should'nt judge him..but it is wrong too think that and..it's confusing

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Hey, Alisha -

There is a question you need to ask yourself:

"Who is the first love of my life?"

There is an old song by a man named Keith Green I wish to share with you:

If you love the Lord

You will love His will for you

Instead of questions, "Why?"

There'll be praise for all He brings you through

And if you love the Lord

You will love His holy commands

Delight yourself in them

And everything you do will surely stand

We are His workmanship

Created for good works in Christ [Eph. 2:10]

He calls us to offer up ourselves

A living sacrifice [Rom. 12:1,2]

Here is something else I wish you to consider.

Biblically, the husband is the head of the household. This means that you as the wife must be in submission to his authority. This is how the Lord designed for marriage to work.

If you marry an unbeliever, then you are placing yourself under the headship of a man who has not the heart of God in his heart. Chances are likely you will be forced to chose allegiences - between the desires of the Lord and the desires of your husband.

Who do you love more?

I know what it feels like to have a broken heart. I know the empty feeling of losing someone you love.

But I can promise you the Lord will be there with you.

What if you were to put the desire to please the Lord above all things in you rlife?

What if you sought after His love? (I mean, being able to feel and experience His love - to not just know in your head that He loves you, but to embraced and be embraced by His love.)

Walk with the Lord.