New Christian married to a Muslim...Need advice

[PrincessLiana]

Start out by saying I’m so glad that my savior Yeshua lead me to this forum and showed me he is the messiah. 

I am in a pretty bad situation and need some advice. I am an ex Muslim convert who is married to a Muslim husband. I know that G-d hates divorce and I have been trying to keep it together for the sake of our marriage but it is getting increasingly more dangerous for me to stay. He has already threatened me and told me I can never leave , I’m stuck. He doesn’t know that I have found faith again in Yeshua and become Christian. There is zero  intimacy and he is emotionally abusive. I don’t know what to do? 

Edited January 9, 2018 by PrincessLiana

[Marilyn C]

Hi PrincessLiana,

So glad you have been led here to talk with other believers. Even though you are in a most difficult position, I know that the Lord will continue to keep you and guide you as to what to do. Yes God hates divorce however He does not desire that someone stay in their relationship where there is abuse. That is not right. Do you know a `safe house` you could go to if it got very bad?

Will pray for you and this situation. Marilyn. 

[GandalfTheWise]

10 hours ago, PrincessLiana said:

Start out by saying I’m so glad that my savior Yeshua lead me to this forum and showed me he is the messiah. 

I am in a pretty bad situation and need some advice. I am an ex Muslim convert who is married to a Muslim husband. I know that G-d hates divorce and I have been trying to keep it together for the sake of our marriage but it is getting increasingly more dangerous for me to stay. He has already threatened me and told me I can never leave , I’m stuck. He doesn’t know that I have found faith again in Yeshua and become Christian. There is zero  intimacy and he is emotionally abusive. I don’t know what to do? 

I do not have any practical advice to give.  I do not have direct experience with what is required to move into a safe location, getting separations, restraining orders, or other such things.  Nor do I have any sense of what really works or not.  I'm sure that there are some people on this site who can give you some practical advice on these things.   Perhaps changing the title of this thread from "New Christian" to something like "New Christian convert married to a Muslim. Advice needed!" might cause more people to take notice of this thread.

There are some separate issues to consider here.  One is to consider your safety.  Getting physically away from your husband into a safe place does not require a divorce right away.  Another thing is the reaction of your husband's family, friends, or the surrounding Muslim community.  You might need safe separation from many people once they find out you have converted.  I do not know enough about these matters to know if this is a problem or not.  Divorces and legal separations take time and the process can vary state to state in the US.  You can physically get away from him before deciding what to do with regard to legal separation or divorce.  Also, note that having a piece of paper that says you are separated or divorced does not insure your safety; he still might try to do something. I'm not sure, but I wonder if there might be some ministries that can provide tangible help to Christians who were formerly Muslims.  

There is also the matter of praying for your husband (and his friends and family) to come to know Jesus as well.

At some point, it would be helpful for you to get into a church or some group of other Christians.  We need each other for mutual encouragement and support.  We are not meant to try to walk the Christian life on our own without other Christians around us.  It might not be possible to do this safely right now, but at some point it would be helpful.

Overall, I think it would be helpful to get some advice from people who've been in this situation before.  There are many things here that are well beyond the experience of most of us.

 

 

[GandalfTheWise]

With regard to being a situation being surrounded by those hostile to Christianity, I think one must follow what God is leading us to do.  In the book of Acts, we have cases where Christians fled persecution and got away from the immediate danger and cases where they stayed and faced it.

In Acts 8:1 On that day a great persecution broke out against the church in Jerusalem, and all except the apostles were scattered throughout Judea and Samaria, we see Christians leaving Jerusalem and taking the gospel to other regions.  We later see what came of this in Acts 11.   19 Now those who had been scattered by the persecution that broke out when Stephen was killed traveled as far as Phoenicia, Cyprus and Antioch, spreading the word only among Jews. 20 Some of them, however, men from Cyprus and Cyrene, went to Antioch and began to speak to Greeks also, telling them the good news about the Lord Jesus. 21 The Lord’s hand was with them, and a great number of people believed and turned to the Lord.

In Acts 21, we also see the case where Paul went to Jerusalem knowing that persecution awaited him 12 When we heard this, we and the people there pleaded with Paul not to go up to Jerusalem. 13 Then Paul answered, “Why are you weeping and breaking my heart? I am ready not only to be bound, but also to die in Jerusalem for the name of the Lord Jesus.” 14 When he would not be dissuaded, we gave up and said, “The Lord’s will be done.”  

I think that the question of what to do in such cases comes down to what God is calling us to do.

[Wayne222]

You have to leave. You dont stay once been told by husband that you would be harm.You need a plan. Christ comes first in a christian life. Think of a plan and do it but be carful. Dont let anyone know ever. Because people cannot be trusted sister.  Ask God for wisdom. But you cannot ever be a open christian with him. He would harm you. Praying for you. Keep the faith. The true God of Jacob will save you.

[missmuffet]

On 1/5/2018 at 10:04 PM, PrincessLiana said:

Start out by saying I’m so glad that my savior Yeshua lead me to this forum and showed me he is the messiah. 

I am in a pretty bad situation and need some advice. I am an ex Muslim convert who is married to a Muslim husband. I know that G-d hates divorce and I have been trying to keep it together for the sake of our marriage but it is getting increasingly more dangerous for me to stay. He has already threatened me and told me I can never leave , I’m stuck. He doesn’t know that I have found faith again in Yeshua and become Christian. There is zero  intimacy and he is emotionally abusive. I don’t know what to do? 

When you come to God and Christianity your life changes. You need to give this to God and ask Him for guidance and direction.