Advice

[SondraKaye2018]

I have been working for a 33rd degree mason and his wife (daughters of Job) for about 10 years doing cleaning and yard work. I have felt even more creeped out by him lately. And, his hugs seem long and inappropriate. Making me feel violated. I pray spiritual warfare every time I go there. And, I share the gospel and my faith. Now I still owe him for a car that him and his wife helped me to get last winter. Note: He does not always post my payments and I have to watch out. He skipped my March 150 payment altogether! I should go keep working off the car (because I have no real job). But, I am feeling very spiritually sick to my stomach when he hugs me and says he loves me. What should I do??

[George]

Shalom SondraKaye2018,

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[SondraKaye2018]

George, my real name is Paige. Thankyou for being a devotional guide for a very long time. And, for laying down your flesh to be a voice for Abba Father!!!!

[SondraKaye2018]

Marathanah!!!

[SondraKaye2018]

Also, I have felt uneasy working for them for a long time. But, when I have prayed about it I have felt like I should stay and share my faith. I don't want them to go to hell. I choose to love them. Also, I have actually asked them if they believe in Jesus. They say yes but, my gut questions his answer more then hers. His demeanor changes when he heads off to a masonic meeting. Very creepy and I am surprised I have lasted this long.

[SondraKaye2018]

I probably shouldn't have posted this on welcome. I will continue to work off my car. It is the right thing to do. 

[Debp]

12 hours ago, SondraKaye2018 said:

I have been working for a 33rd degree mason and his wife (daughters of Job) for about 10 years doing cleaning and yard work. I have felt even more creeped out by him lately. And, his hugs seem long and inappropriate. Making me feel violated. I pray spiritual warfare every time I go there. And, I share the gospel and my faith. Now I still owe him for a car that him and his wife helped me to get last winter. Note: He does not always post my payments and I have to watch out. He skipped my March 150 payment altogether! I should go keep working off the car (because I have no real job). But, I am feeling very spiritually sick to my stomach when he hugs me and says he loves me. What should I do??

Hi and welcome!

Learn to speak up for yourself.   You do not have to suffer sexual harassment from this man.   Do you know people can be sued for harassing you sexually on a job?   Speak up, defend yourself.

[Coliseum]

12 hours ago, SondraKaye2018 said:

I have been working for a 33rd degree mason and his wife (daughters of Job) for about 10 years doing cleaning and yard work. I have felt even more creeped out by him lately. And, his hugs seem long and inappropriate. Making me feel violated. I pray spiritual warfare every time I go there. And, I share the gospel and my faith. Now I still owe him for a car that him and his wife helped me to get last winter. Note: He does not always post my payments and I have to watch out. He skipped my March 150 payment altogether! I should go keep working off the car (because I have no real job). But, I am feeling very spiritually sick to my stomach when he hugs me and says he loves me. What should I do??

Knowing your boundaries and proclaiming them is what a person does when he puts a gate on his property. He opens the gate when he allows someone to enter it; he keeps it shut when he wants them to stay out. Many people get confused about when to open and shut the gate. The best book I ever read concerning it is called  "Boundaries" by Cloud and Townsend.  You won't regret it.

[Henry_iain]

Hi Paige. Welcome. Nice to meet you. You will get plenty of good advice here but ultimately you need to make the choice, so I will praying for you that God will guide your steps. Enjoy the forums. God bless 

[SondraKaye2018]

Hello everyone. Thankyou for your kind welcomes and advice. The advice for boundaries and the book are great. I have that book! I just need to find it. My husband says that when he starts to give me a hug, I should just step back. But, how obvious is that! Please pray for me to have the courage to do it and, to do it with love and grace. And, for His protection. I will be praying for ya'll too!!!

There is some serious spiritual warfare when I go there. But, I believe I am covered in the blood of the lamb and nothing evil can touch me. So even when I work there, I aim to be cheerful and loving and do the best work I can because, I really work for my father. However, I just want to finish paying for my car and quit. Every time I educate my self on masonry, I do become uneasy and afraid to ever go back. But, on the day I am to go, the Holy Spirit helps me loads and loads!! 

I am excited to be here and have genuine believer fellowship. Many Christians I have met in my life were some of the most judgmental, self righteous and really mean people I have ever known. I stopped going to church because of it. I do not have tough skin and my spirit gets really grieved by these kinds of people. It makes going to church an anxious and unpeaceful event.  But, my spirit longs for being around true, loving, good, born again, brothers and sisters. That kind of church does not seem to exist around here. And, now with the whole virus thing, many churches are only on line. 

God's blessing and favor to ya'll ! Love, Paige