I have a question about marriage after death.

[Guest foxstar128]

Okay I just got married less then 3 months ago and I thank God that we love each other so much! The problem is that I love here so much that I could not stand to not be with her for eternity so I need to ask a very important question. I am so afraid I might get the answer I don

[ayin jade]

Welcome foxstar.

Your wife is a gift from the Lord. She is a special gift to you, one you should treasure for as long as the Lord wills you to be together. I understand your fears regarding her illness. Do not worry. Is not everything in His hands?

Matthew 10:29-31 Are not two sparrows sold for an assarion? And one of them shall not fall on the ground without your Father.

But even the hairs of your head are all numbered.

Therefore do not fear, you are of more value than many sparrows.

What happens when we both are dead? Are we going to be in heaven together? I know that we are not married in heaven but will we still have that special closeness that only a married couple have when we are in heaven as we do now? Also if that is the case then how does it work if say I died and then she got married again. I don

[Leonard]

Marriage on earth can be a wonderful thing, yet it only the barest shadow of our relationships in heaven!

I pray the Lord will heal your wife and give her many prosperous and happy years with you.

[Guest foxstar128]

Well that is the last thing I wanted to hear. Even if I will not have sadness by missing her when I am in heaven I will feel very much sadness during this life knowing that once she leaves this Earth I will never be with her again. The thought that we would be together again in heaven would be what could get me through life if she died and now if she dies early and way before me I will know I will never ever see her again for the rest of eternity. I am in tears right now and am trying to wipe enough away so I can see to type. This is really devastating because then I guess that means when my other family members die I will never see them ever again. That is how I get through funerals because I know I will see them later but now I am just thinking of the funerals I have been to and now knowing I will never see them again makes me sad beyond words. I pray to God that you are wrong but know that you are probably right.

Edit: Okay I am more calm now but I stil pray that is not true.

Edited August 8, 2005 by foxstar128

[ayin jade]

I never said you wont see her again in eternity, unless one of you is saved and the other isnt. I do beleive we will know each other in heaven. I also believe that the love of the Lord will be so intense in our lives that our love for each other as brothers and sisters will also be intensified. This is good. This is desirable.

[Guest foxstar128]

Do you think that we will have a special bond between us or would there be lots of people that I feel just as close to because that is what I am worried about? Because then that would mean there is no such thing as a soul mate but just a life mate.

[Atalyah]

Well that is the last thing I wanted to hear. Even if I will not have sadness by missing her when I am in heaven I will feel very much sadness during this life knowing that once she leaves this Earth I will never be with her again. The thought that we would be together again in heaven would be what could get me through life if she died and now if she dies early and way before me I will know I will never ever see her again for the rest of eternity. I am in tears right now and am trying to wipe enough away so I can see to type. This is really devastating because then I guess that means when my other family members die I will never see them ever again. That is how I get through funerals because I know I will see them later but now I am just thinking of the funerals I have been to and now knowing I will never see them again makes me sad beyond words. I pray to God that you are wrong but know that you are probably right.

Edit: Okay I am more calm now but I stil pray that is not true.

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Is 64:4 For since the beginning of the world men have not heard, nor perceived by the ear, neither hath the eye seen, O God, beside thee, what he hath prepared for him that waiteth for him.

Re 21:4 And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away.

Foxstar, I don't think the Bible specifically answers your question about the future relationship of husbands and wives in the kingdom (except to say that it won't be similar to how it is now, as per the passage in Matt. 22, already posted). Those glorified will be as the angels, and all as the bride of Christ, not married one to another. In our own minds, with the love we have for our spouses, it's difficult to comprehend not actually being married in the kingdom, and yet be happy. But this is not something to grieve or worry over, as happiness is assured.

So, in as much as you can't understand how this happiness will be, simply take comfort in that as much as God is faithful to what He's promised, there is no more pain in the kingdom.

[Guest foxstar128]

Thank you so much! God has used you to make me feel better. So should I go through with what I said about asking her for us to commit to each other even if one of us dies. I really want to do it so I basically asking if there is anything wrong with it?

[Leonard]

Well, look at it this way: Heaven WILL have whatever it takes to make you PERFECTLY happy! If a special friendship with your wife is necessary for your happiness, I assure you YOU WILL HAVE IT!

[Gerioke]

In Heaven there is no hate, sorrow, dread, pain, boredom or any other negative possibility. It is all good. Enjoy your marriage now. The best is yet to come.