Advice needed

[yomotalking]

Hi all.

I just want to say that my realationship with God is absolutely terrible.

It all stated when I had thoughts which plauged me, I was sometimes having 100 a minute.....

Anyway......I have had these go on.....since April......

Now, I'm hardedned to them.

Even swearing on the films, or TV.

Where as, I used to HATE swearing, and blasphemy, It will go over my head.

I heard some today on a film......breezed over my head.

There is something else that I worry about.

I am so hardened to anything.

I feel like I am lifeless, with no feelings, or emotions.

Obviously, I can't be miss weepy EVERY minute of every day, but I seen to myself like I have no compassion for anything.

When harsh words are flung at me, I don't feel upset.

I'm so hardened to myself, that I don't know what is wrong with me.

This may seem as a shock to anyone who knows me on here.

Oh boy, it was a shock to me too.

Yomo

[jesussaves]

Hi all.

I just want to say that my realationship with God is absolutely terrible.

It all stated when I had thoughts which plauged me,  I  was sometimes having 100 a minute.....

Anyway......I have had these go on.....since April......

Now, I'm hardedned to them.

Even swearing on the films, or TV.

Where as, I used to HATE swearing, and blasphemy, It will go over my head.

I heard some today on a film......breezed over my head.

There is something else that I worry about.

I am so hardened to anything.

I feel like I am lifeless, with no feelings, or emotions.

Obviously, I can't be miss weepy EVERY minute of every day, but I seen to myself like I have no compassion for anything.

When harsh words are flung at me, I don't feel upset.

I'm so hardened to myself, that I don't know what is wrong with me.

This may seem as a shock to anyone who knows me on here.

Oh boy, it was a shock to me too.

Yomo

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Yomo...I am kind of stumped? You said your relationship with the Lord is terrible?? So why not just get it right?? If you know you aren't where you need to be with the Lord, and you know His mercy endures forever, then just go to Him and rekindle that first love. Put away the junk you have been feeding on, a little leaven leaven's the whole lump, and feast on His word. Tear down any stong holds that pleague your mind name of Jesus, refusing to think on them for even one second.

Have a blessed and fruitful day. Draw near to God and He WILL draw near to you.

[yomotalking]

Ok, but my drift is:

Im feelling like the life has gone out of me......like I can't feel compassion for anything........

I'm hard to everthing, and it's not as easy as saying

"So why not just get it right?"

I am not trying to be obtuse, but it's easier said than done.

I just don't want to miss out on God's call for me......

[amazingrace]

Ok, but my drift is:

Im feelling like the life has gone out of me......like I can't feel compassion for anything........

I'm hard to everthing, and it's not as easy as saying

"So why not just get it right?"

I am not trying to be obtuse, but it's easier said than done.

I just don't want to miss out on God's call for me......

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You might consider fasting and prayer. A day or two alone in a quiet place with ony the word of the Lord for sustenance will benefit you greatly. During that time, confess to Him what you have shared with us, as well as your desire to get closer to Him. Find a place with no distractions... no phone, no other people around, no TV or radio... humble yourself to God and He will lift you up.

[yomotalking]

Ok, I'll try this.

But I'm 14.....my parents won't allow it....but I'll do what can to try, though......

*looks uncertain*

Yomo

[Trust & Obey]

yomo, hardness to the things you mentioned is likely caused by the "callousing-effect." If you sit in front of the TV and hear profanity all of the time, sooner or later it will stop bothering you. You've become accustomed and calloused to it. That is why were are told:

Pro 4:23 Keep (protect) thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.

We need to be very mindful of what we allow into our hearts and minds. God has designed our mind much like a computer. It can only process what has been fed into it. If you feed profanity and secularism into it, then the crop that is reaped will be of the same.

Gal 6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.

Gal 6:8 For he that soweth to his flesh shall of the flesh reap corruption; but he that soweth to the Spirit shall of the Spirit reap life everlasting.

You cannot sow a fleshly, carnal seed and reap a spiritual crop.

I would recommend turning off the TV for a while and tuning into God. Instead of watching TV when you feel like it.... reach for your Bible instead. Pray to God for eyes to see and ears to hear Him speak to you. Take inventory and confess any sin in your life that you may be harboring or not even aware of.

Focus on God and on His greatness. Consider that He loved you so much that He sent His Son to pay the penalty of your sin. Past, present, and future.

Begin being proactive about your faith rather than reactive.

Heb 3:13 But exhort one another daily, while it is called To day; lest any of you be hardened through the deceitfulness of sin.

Christians who watch TV need to be very careful of what they are putting into their minds. You may be watching a program that is okay, but the advertisements are not.

Just last night I was watching a sporting event and every time the commercials came I had to reach for the remote and change the channel. It is appalling the type of content in the commercials these days.

Mat 6:22 The light of the body is the eye: if therefore thine eye be single, thy whole body shall be full of light.

Mat 6:23 But if thine eye be evil, thy whole body shall be full of darkness. If therefore the light that is in thee be darkness, how great is that darkness!

[yomotalking]

Thankyou, but I don't watch a lot of TV.

I've become calloused over compassion too.

I can't feel pain of heart anymore, just floating numbness.......

THAT is what I don't understand.....

[MrLuke]

Thankyou, but I don't watch a lot of TV.

I've become calloused over compassion too.

I can't feel pain of heart anymore, just  floating numbness.......

THAT is what I don't understand.....

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I know exactly how you feel! I hated it. I'd do something sinful and so wrong, yet feel no guilt. See hurting and pain, yet feel no compassion. I could talk to people about it, give advice but never really feel for them in a way. It was strange and annoying, because I longed to feel emotion and stuff - feel "normal"!

I prayed about it so much, tried to feel and relate to problems but until God helped, I couldn't.

Eventually, when I was on a youth mission, God opened my heart to feel compassion for the first time ever! And it was a strange feeling indeed, first thing that came to mind was "this is how Jesus must have felt" when looking at the masses of hurting people like I was then. From then on though, God has been working with me to open me up to my emotions and feelings a LOT more!

I never used to cry until a few years ago (that was a strange thing too when it happened!) My emotions were being unlocked one by one when the time was right, and ever since those times, they have come naturally when the situation calls for it!

So all I can suggest is praying with a longing heart for God and for God to open you/your heart up! For me it was a slow process over a year or two but the end result is amazing! Not because you can feel "normal" but because God can communicate with you properly and express His feelings with you in a way you can finally understand!

Yay for God!

[NITE OWL]

Maybe you need to take a break from these boards. Not everyone here is a christian. I looked at your profile. You spend a lot of time here. Is Worthy the only board you visit?

I know if I'm here too long, I start getting arrogant. I get a "I know more then you" attitude. I'm getting close to my limit now. I catch myself thinking things that shouldn't thought. That's not good.

Are your parents christians? If they're not, that could also be part of the problem.

Read your bible. If you're sick of reading the bible, ( that does happen ) read Proverbs. You don't have to read it all in one sitting. You don't even have to start at the beginning. Read a chapter or just a few verses, put it down and come back to it later. There's a lot of things in that book that everyone can relate too. I know when I find myself drifting, I go to Proverbs.

Prayer. Find a nice quiet spot and talk to the Lord. Tell Him what you're feeling. Admit to Him that you can't do it on your own. Ask Him to lead you in the right direction. Tell Him to take away all thoses negitive feelings and thoughts that you have.

You might want to cut back on some of the music you listen to. Believe it or not, it does influence us. The same thing with video games.

Think about what you're going to do and say before you do it. You might even have to separate yourself from some of your friends for awhile. Not forever, just for awhile.

I've done all of the above and it works for me. Did it make me a super christian? No. But it did bring me alittle closer to God.

I'm starting to babble....sorry.

These are only suggestions. None of it is etched in stone.

You take easy...everything will work out ok. Let God handle this. He's always more than willing to lend a helping hand. I think that's something most people forget.

Anyway, as always.

In His name.

[kittylover0991]

Aw Yomo (((((((((((((((((((Yomo)))))))))))))))))))

As with others that have posted, i know exactly how you are feeling right now and my heart goes out to you. I also understand about the fasting thing, where you are 14 and your parents probably won't allow it. Especially if they are not Christian. Yomo, I love you to death in the Lord, but all that seems right to say has already been said. The only way through is to read your bible.... read it daily.. Try, just when you wake up, read a chapter of Proverbs... just to start your day, and pray before hand that God would give you understanding of what you are reading and that he would show you how to apply it to your life.

Even though you dont' watch much TV, when you want to watch it, just try and praying and reading your bible.

I know that it might not seem like much.. and i know that at times it might be boring or irritating, or whatever... but just keep doing it. Find a site online that gives a guide to reading the bible through in a year and start that today... read that at night, and again, pray before hand.

When it comes to compassion, the only way to have compassion is for God to give it to you... I know this can be fustrating.. but try praying for the people ABout a month or so ago, i went to my new youth pastor and told him about this person in the youth group who got on my nerves so much and has since i came to the church seven years ago... Here is what he instructed me to do:

I want you to go home and pray for him everyday. Now, don't pray "Oh Lord, I pray that Davy woudl stop being so irritating.. etc" but ask the Lord to bless him and his family.. to use him. Pray that God would help his family to live in him and to grow. Now, do this for two weeks and come back to me.

I went home that Sunday night.. and started praying for him. About two days into it..i stopped and he was all that was on my mind how i needed to pray for him. All i could think of was that he is a pain, i dont' need to pray for him. Well, my conscious got ot me, and i went and spoke to my youth pastor and he told me to do it for two more weeks. "You know what, do it for a month.. until the end of July"... I prayed for him for the next two weeks.. and the next thing i know.. he didn't irritate me as much... I think the Lord gave me a glimpse of him through his eyes.. I went back and talked to my youth pastor in confusion.. as to how on earth it is that this worked.. and he told me "When you pray for someone, you are having compassion on them".. Pray for people.. pray for you family, your pastors, your church family, your friends, and those that you know well. Pray for those that you don't know... The Lord will give you compassion. It is definitly a step by step process.. but it will come. Try taking your eyes off of yourself for just a few minutes a day, and pray for somebody. Pray for them for just two weeks. It works

God will give you compassion, but prayer is the key.

As for swearing and cursing to go right over your head.. pray that God would work in your heart and convict you of that.. Pray that you would hate those things again. Pray.. most imporantly.. that God would "make in you a clean heart"... pray that he woudl give you discernment and be commited to thing things of God. Pray for an urgency to his will.

Someone was talking about being on the boards a lot of it distracting you.. i feel that maybe.. just maybe...(i just thought of this :whistle: ) on your fight to become royalty, you might have taken your eyes of God for just a little bit and focused more on what you wanted than what He wanted... I dont' know.. but it is just a guess... you are very special to us all yomo.. I'll be praying for you and I know that other's will be as well... I pray that you will have that peace with God once again.

Love you in the Lord Yomo

With sisterly love in Christ Jesus,

Crystal (glad to see you finally made Roaylty)