Love Is Confuzzling!

[kodischild]

Yes, people can fall in love without meeting. My mom fell in love with my dad over the radio. (Good thing, he is scary looking!) Keep in mind what everyone here said about people not being who they say they are on the internet.

If you had said that you want to date right now, or that you are planning to marry him in 3 years, then I would have said it is a bad idea. I think that maintaining a freindship with the plan to court in a few years is a pretty mature response. I can only hope to someday have a daughter who wants me in her relationships, wants to court, and wants someone who loves God.

I would caution that you should be careful to keep your friendship as much just friendship as possible over the next couple of years. There will be temptation to take it to a deeper level, but taking it slow is a good idea.

[Baz]

So I met a guy online. He is a christian, and is 3 years older then me. We were friends for about a month. During that month I began to be very much so attracted to his strong biblical views and christian attitude.

I let him know my feeling for him, and the feelings where the same.

Now, as the months went on our friendship grew and so did our liking for each other. After about a month of talking to each other knowing we both liked each other, we grew fond of the idea if God allows, to court in a few years. We really are at peace with us getting married some day. We have received parents permission, and prayed oh so much to our Heavenly Father about the issue at hand. We gave the relationship to God. And believe He is either going to marry us, or break us. We are at peace with either, as long as its Gods will.

Not only do we talk online but over the phone and through snailmail. He had written a letter to my parents, and I wrote one to his mother since his father isn't there. We had a week end break where we didn't speak to each other or look at pictures or anything of that sort, but just prayed that whole week end and wrote our thoughts.

Right now we are just living life as friends.

He did ask me to be the third strand in his life until God either kept me there or replaces me. As in, that bible verse talking about a man with three strands, God, himself, and as I view a helper. And to me a helper is a woman from looking at where God makes Adam a helper!

Now many people say you can't love some one you have never met, is that true?

How do you know Gods will when it comes to this?

Is it right of me to have said yes to being a third strand?

-Mind you, I do know I am 15 (almost 16), and he is 18(almost 19).

But I just need advice! Cause I know he's been such a blessing to me, but how do you know when love is real? And not some dumb High School emotional crush?-

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

He's too old for you. Feel free to chat with him online and on the phone, but don't be romantically involved. And, I cannot believe your parents gave you permission to be involved with this guy. I would ask them why they'd do that 'cause that's not right. Sorry...

[Adoni~Is~Alive~4~Ever]

If he's too old for me then wow...

My parents are 5 years apart. And some other people I know are 10 years apart.

Im sorry, I dont see how he is too old for me.

If you want to explain further be my guest.

He is now talking about going away for a year on an oversea's project. He wouldnt leave till march 06 gets back march 07 which means it would be 9 months till i turned 18. If we still know each other after a year of not talking.

Even if he is just my best friend that still is gonna be hard. I mean, Gods will is best! And I guess that will really dertermin things! GEEZ really will it!

[Pipit]

That's actually awesome for him... if its a missions project, or any humanitarian project, it is an awesome oppotunity to grow closer to God, and to mature spiritually and to learn what it means to serve. If you are able, I would suggest seeing if he would be able to get a possible forwarding address. Many organizations are able to provide a mailing address if the project is long term at a specific site (such as being in the same relative area for his whole time there)---so you may both be able to write letters still!

You are totally right in saying God's will is best, and it is awesome to see that you are focusing on that, and keeping Him center to your friendship. Sadly, for many that is a difficult thing to do, which is why they rush into things, or why they mess up what could have been a really awesome relationship.

Keep Christ at the center, and let Him be your first love always!!

As for age... don't worry about it too much. If you are waiting on God, and waiting for the ONE God has for you, age will mean little, if anything.... (hey, I know an awesome couple who are 15 years different in age, and they are awesome together because Christ is center!)

[Baz]

  If he's too old for me then wow...

My parents are 5 years apart. And some other people I know are 10 years apart.

Im sorry, I dont see how he is too old for me.

If you want to explain further be my guest.

He is now talking about going away for a year on an oversea's project. He wouldnt leave till march 06 gets back march 07 which means it would be 9 months till i turned 18. If we still know each other after a year of not talking.

Even if he is just my best friend that still is gonna be hard. I mean, Gods will is best! And I guess that will really dertermin things! GEEZ really will it!

<{POST_SNAPBACK}>

By the age difference, here's how I see it: If you're 18 years old, the youngest age you can go out with is 16 and if you're 19 years old, the youngest age you can go out with is 17. You have to remember that he's passed adulthood and you haven't even reached adulthood. I was 17 years old when I dated a 14 year-old and her parents said I was too old for her. Once you reach the age of 18, feel free to date anyone of and beyond your age.

[Guest RJD Servant]

Hi

All you people that seem to think it is ok for relationships to start early to hold on to till marriage at that is is wrong. Friendships and fun and many male friends also so that you can decide what type man you desire in your life. I am not talking about dating at all at 12,13,14, but being serious at 15 and 18 you have no clue what God desires for your life as you have not grown up into his full likeness and desires of Christ. You could be called at 18 to be a missionary and choose this boy instead. What if God has a man on the other side of the world that will fullfill the wonder in your life at the age 21 and you chose beneth the Will of God for your life.

Be conserned about being in Christ and doing a work where you are for God and giving of your life and live it to the fullest in Christ before you settle down and change the path that you should take.

My son was 23 and met a 16 year old girl and I strove to talk this Mother of this girl out of making a committment to my son as she was too young to be in love and had never lived life herself. I wanted My son to move away and allow this girl to grow up and experiance life in everything. Her mother did not stop the engagement and they were married by the time she was short of 18.

I still believe it was a big mistake and it has its trials in it. I love her and would do anything for her but my son is a controling person and he rules her life. They love each other but she is not mature enough to deal with the Reality in her life around her. They are now 24 & he is 31 there going and they have 3 children.

Do I think it worked NO! and what it will bring down the road no one knows.

I was for protecting the young women and keeping her living to find the truth for herself and have experiences in life until 21.

Please listen and take in consideration what I have said for the benifit of you being all you can be for Christ and the Young man that God chooses for you.

Maybe he was here in your life to lift you up to a better place in Christ and the newness you feel with him around. But move on and Know that God will take care of marriage and a Man when you leave that in his hands to do.

I dated one man my whole life and he is my husband, my first kiss and love of my heart as I was taught to pray for a mate and be peticular in your prayer. I prayed for a more Godly man then I Who loved the Lord with ALL his heart and one that was Just so and had Blue eyes and was French.

God sent me just that and we have been married for 32 years.

Pray Gods will be done and you can never go wrong with that.

RJD Servant

[darkest_red]

My son was 23 and met a 16 year old girl and I strove to talk this Mother of this girl out of making a committment to my son as she was too young to be in love and had never lived life herself. I wanted My son to move away and allow this girl to grow up and experiance life in everything. Her mother did not stop the engagement and they were married by the time she was short of 18.

My parents got married when they were 16. 39 years later they are still very happily married and love each other as much as (if not more than) they did 39 years ago. I guess she wasn't too young to be in love after all!

[HisWordIsSufficient]

[Adoni~Is~Alive~4~Ever]

Well well, guess what, Broc and I are still best buds!

God has cleared ....most...the feelings out of my heart now so now i can focus on who HE wants me to be, and learn who Broc is.

Some things have changed. One is next fall Lord willing I will be moving to Chicago to Moody Bible Inst. at age 16 *yikes*

We are still interested in mission work.

Though we said once im 18, i would kinda wait till im 20 to get anything serious going. I mean at age 20 i will be done with college Lord willing!

Then i can focus on who God has me being and where God has me going rather on then that plus school!

Anyhow!

Much love!

Please keep praying!

Becka