SIC Posted June 13, 2023 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 13 Topic Count: 34 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 2,437 Content Per Day: 0.83 Reputation: 2,625 Days Won: 3 Joined: 05/02/2016 Status: Online Birthday: 08/11/1989 Share Posted June 13, 2023 In your opinion, is it absolutely necessary for your partner to have your back i.e., support your aspirations and stand by you when people don't treat you well? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael37 Posted June 14, 2023 Group: Servant Followers: 21 Topic Count: 241 Topics Per Day: 0.11 Content Count: 6,952 Content Per Day: 3.27 Reputation: 4,870 Days Won: 2 Joined: 07/05/2018 Status: Online Birthday: 09/23/1954 Share Posted June 14, 2023 7 hours ago, SIC said: In your opinion, is it absolutely necessary for your partner to have your back i.e., support your aspirations and stand by you when people don't treat you well? I don't make it a deal breaker to avoid disappointment if there is a discrepancy. Sometimes the Lord leads me into things without my wife being enthusiastic about it, but time and again it proves to be 100% right. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SIC Posted June 14, 2023 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 13 Topic Count: 34 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 2,437 Content Per Day: 0.83 Reputation: 2,625 Days Won: 3 Joined: 05/02/2016 Status: Online Birthday: 08/11/1989 Author Share Posted June 14, 2023 2 hours ago, Michael37 said: I don't make it a deal breaker to avoid disappointment if there is a discrepancy. Sometimes the Lord leads me into things without my wife being enthusiastic about it, but time and again it proves to be 100% right. What if it is consistent? Your partner consistently does not have your back? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debp Posted June 14, 2023 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 52 Topic Count: 1,021 Topics Per Day: 0.15 Content Count: 12,321 Content Per Day: 1.80 Reputation: 16,370 Days Won: 92 Joined: 07/19/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted June 14, 2023 1 hour ago, SIC said: What if it is consistent? Your partner consistently does not have your back? To consistently not support you isn't good. If you are not married to this person, maybe you should make a change. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Who me Posted June 14, 2023 Group: Royal Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 17 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 3,300 Content Per Day: 1.72 Reputation: 1,686 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/27/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted June 14, 2023 1 hour ago, SIC said: What if it is consistent? Your partner consistently does not have your back? Why did she marry you if she thinks so little of you? If she doesn't support you why is she there, tell her to get on side or to get out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Michael37 Posted June 14, 2023 Group: Servant Followers: 21 Topic Count: 241 Topics Per Day: 0.11 Content Count: 6,952 Content Per Day: 3.27 Reputation: 4,870 Days Won: 2 Joined: 07/05/2018 Status: Online Birthday: 09/23/1954 Share Posted June 14, 2023 1 hour ago, SIC said: What if it is consistent? Your partner consistently does not have your back? There are many causes of relationship break downs, not just in marriage. One aspect of the fruit of the Spirit is longsuffering. If the benefits of the relationship are eroded beyond what is reasonably bearable then it has become detrimental. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SIC Posted June 14, 2023 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 13 Topic Count: 34 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 2,437 Content Per Day: 0.83 Reputation: 2,625 Days Won: 3 Joined: 05/02/2016 Status: Online Birthday: 08/11/1989 Author Share Posted June 14, 2023 (edited) Ok. This is about partner. Not wife. If your girlfriend consistently does not have your back, Should one break up? Obviously nobody else can answer that question. But I wanted your insight on whether or not it is a problem... Edited June 14, 2023 by SIC Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jayne Posted June 14, 2023 Group: Royal Member Followers: 16 Topic Count: 107 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3,820 Content Per Day: 1.29 Reputation: 4,806 Days Won: 2 Joined: 03/31/2016 Status: Offline Share Posted June 14, 2023 1 hour ago, SIC said: Ok. This is about partner. Not wife. If your girlfriend consistently does not have your back, Should one break up? Obviously nobody else can answer that question. But I wanted your insight on whether or not it is a problem... Married or seriously dating - it's a problem when the one you love will not support you. However, in what ways do you mean that she won't support you or have your back. If I were married and my husband asks me to help him cheat on our taxes, I would say no. If he wanted me to go with him to have a hard conversation with in-laws about a serious problem and I really thought the conversation would NOT help, I would still go with him because he asked for my help/support. So how is she not supporting you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SIC Posted June 14, 2023 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 13 Topic Count: 34 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 2,437 Content Per Day: 0.83 Reputation: 2,625 Days Won: 3 Joined: 05/02/2016 Status: Online Birthday: 08/11/1989 Author Share Posted June 14, 2023 (edited) 6 minutes ago, Jayne said: Married or seriously dating - it's a problem when the one you love will not support you. However, in what ways do you mean that she won't support you or have your back. If I were married and my husband asks me to help him cheat on our taxes, I would say no. If he wanted me to go with him to have a hard conversation with in-laws about a serious problem and I really thought the conversation would NOT help, I would still go with him because he asked for my help/support. So how is she not supporting you? In my career as a research scholar. To me it is my calling from God. As hallowed as any other calling. She does not see it that way. So she just 'ignores' that part of my life. I am working on a research project. I told her 'If I complete this project I can become a star in the field'. Her reaction was 'I don't want you to be a star.' There was this incident with the hotel clerk. We booked two individual rooms. He laughed at me. There could have been an element of racism in there. I don't know. I responded 'Excuse me can me make it fast please?'. Perhaps a little too sharp. She shouted at me right in front of him. Edited June 14, 2023 by SIC 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FreeGrace Posted June 14, 2023 Group: Royal Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 8 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 4,419 Content Per Day: 8.21 Reputation: 610 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/07/2022 Status: Offline Share Posted June 14, 2023 3 minutes ago, SIC said: In my career as a research scholar. To me it is my calling from God. As hallowed as any other calling. She does not see it that way. So she just 'ignores' that part of my life. I am working on a research project. I told her 'If I complete this project I can become a star in the field'. Her reaction was 'I don't want you to be a star.' Next question: Why don't you want me to be a success in my field? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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