How do I overcome these 2 things biblically?

[farouk]

19 hours ago, Coruscating said:

Have you been isolating yourself from others, due to your social anxiety? If so, your first issue could be contributing to your second issue. Proverbs 18:1 says

"Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment."

[Someone who is isolating themselves will live in a self-centered way and his desires will surpass his ability for good sense. Socializing in a healthy environment (a good church — most of all: a church that allows you to volunteer in their charitable mission) would have multiple positive results.]

The best verse to help in any issue is the verse that makes us sit down and study it. If words enter like words in our mind, they will have as much power as words can have. But if we sit with our Bible and study it, if we spend time with sincere prayer, we are feeding our soul with God's food, we are spending time with the Holy Spirit and open to listen to Him. We learn in ways that go beyond the words. Then, when we are in trouble, like being in a situation we don't feel we can handle well, or lustful desires, the Holy Spirit won't be unknown; it won't feel weird to rely on God, because we already have an interaction with Him, He is familiar to us.

This will lead you to spiritual maturity. Spiritual maturity promotes emotional maturity, which will help you with those social obstacles you mention. Put your relationship with God first and you will see that much happens in your relationship with others.
That love you have for people is already a beautiful gift, He will help you in how to express it. The commandment "Love your neighbor as yourself" underlines the necessity of the knowledge that we are loved, in order to know how to love others and make them feel loved. Right now you are almost saying "I feel like I have nothing to give" and this is heartbreaking.

[I don't know if you saw my suggestion on that other topic, about making a Prayer Bible... But this topic makes a great theme. ;) ]

There is something physical one can do to improve anxiety, by working the sympathetic response of our nervous system and our body's ability to tolerate the building up of carbon dioxide. Someone who has a short and informative video is a physiotherapist called Conor Harris (his channel goes by the same name) in a video called "1 Simple Technique to Reset Your Nervous System". It is 4 minutes and 12 seconds. (Moderators: If I can't recommend videos these way, please let me know and I won't do it again.)

@Coruscating Such a lot of good quotes in Proverbs.............

[Marathoner]

On 6/19/2024 at 1:03 PM, Figure of eighty said:

The first thing, I feel I can be super awkward around people( have social anxiety)and I mess with my face/hands alot, dart my eyes.  Lol and when I think about it I know it most likely makes others uncomfortable but I'm just nervous. 

I do like people alot and wish I could connect with them but I feel at my age ( 32) I'm not an adult. I feel I don't know much or have much to say and sometimes when talking to people I want to withdraw so much I almost curl up ... I also have a major issue standing up for myself. It's like when people get talked to a certain way they flare up in angrr.. where as me. I feel there's nothing there. And people run over me.

 

2nd issue is just. May get a little tmi but just has been an issue for me. I want to overcome it and not let it over come me.what are practical ways I can overcome just. How do I know when I've overcome lust?

I seem to recall that you live with psychiatric issues, yes? I do as well so there's no shame nor stigma in that. I wanted to make that known so you'll understand where I'm coming from in general. If you are familiar with some of my testimony, then you might know that myself and my three sisters suffered abuse and neglect from our parents. It was unspeakable.

So, I do indeed understand how our upbringing impacts us. I want you to know that as well. I'm over 20 years older than you are which is only meaningful in that I discovered how certain issues changed over time. The 30's were difficult, and it wasn't until I passed 45 that things started to change. 

Would it surprise you to learn that I struggled greatly with your second issue? There is a link between promiscuity and childhood abuse and neglect, my friend. This is by no means an excuse (or justification) but rather, when we discover how that impacted our personality, we can begin to cope and then overcome. It's all about a warped self-image and self-loathing. We blame ourselves for everything whether we realize it or not.

The Lord revealed those things to me, but it didn't happen overnight. It took years of suffering and trial to arrive at the end when the Lord revealed how all those things I had endured prepared me for what He called me to do. It wasn't easy... it never is. Nothing of worth comes easily, but those things which destroy us are easy to come by. They seemingly fall right into our lap.

I was homeless for a very long time. I came close to death more than once. I share that to encourage you. What? 

Yes! For those whom much is required, even more shall be given by the Lord. If you were not beloved of the Lord, you wouldn't be here sharing your burdens with us. Don't forget that.

As for overcoming that second issue? Practice! How do we practice? No matter how awful or hard it may seem, don't act upon lust. Let it run its course. It will not last forever. I will tell you this: it becomes easier the more we practice. You'll see that for yourself!

Edited June 21, 2024 by Marathoner

[farouk]

On 6/19/2024 at 8:37 PM, Coruscating said:

Have you been isolating yourself from others, due to your social anxiety? If so, your first issue could be contributing to your second issue. Proverbs 18:1 says

"Whoever isolates himself seeks his own desire; he breaks out against all sound judgment."

 

Hi @Coruscating I have seen a NT ed. with not only Psalms attached but Proverbs also; such wisdom in Proverbs.

[Who me]

On 6/19/2024 at 8:03 PM, Figure of eighty said:

I can be super awkward around people( have social anxiety)and I mess with my face/hands alot, dart my eyes.  Lol and when I think about it I know it most likely makes others uncomfortable but I'm just nervous. 

I do like people alot and wish I could connect with them but I feel at my age ( 32) I'm not an adult

At 32 you are an adult. Where do you work? How do you attend church?

All I can suggest is to make the hard effort to attend church, to meet with people. In  the same pray group, bible study regularly.etc

That way you will become accustomed  to being in a social situation.

Talk to your doctor, if you are really scared, you might get so etching to tranquilise you so you can function around people. It is far better to learn that people are not scary  and that you can talk with them, be with them.