Pregnancy

[Guest g_garza77]

I AM A 21 YR OLD FEMALE. I JUST TURNED 21 AND WELL I JUST FOUND OUT THAT I AM PREGNANT. I AM ABOUT 4 WEEKS PREGNANT AND I AM TOTALLY SCARED TO TELL MY PARENTS. FOR THE SIMPLE REASON IS THAT MY MOTHER IS A CHRISTIAN YET SHE HAS ALWAYS SAID IF I EVER DO GET PREGNANT I WOULD BE KICKED OUT, SAME GOES FOR MY FATHER YET HE DOES NOT ATTEND CHURCH. MY FINANCIAL STATUS IS LOW. I WORK PART TIME AND GO TO UNIVERSITY FULL-TIME. I AM NOT SURE HOW TO BREAK IT WITH OUT THEM GOING CRAZY ON ME ... ANY TYPE OF FEEDBACK IS WELCOMED.

GOD BLESS

[Mikeyjay]

I will pray for God to give you the right words ok...how about the father where is he ???

[Bolts]

Mickeyjay asked a good question there - 'where is the father?'.

My daughter got pregnant not long after finishing school. Knowing that I was a christian made telling me about it very difficult for her. She actually spoke to her midwife about the situation. The midwife recommended to her that she not tell me straight away, but to finish her school year. In breaking the news to me (after exams), she and her partner told me that they were getting married. Then they told me about the baby. I was stunned at first, shocked, thrilled and then angry. Impulsively reacting to the situation, I threw them both out. My christian family were very supportive. Ensuring me that Sam would be a good husband to her. My Pastor was happy to perform the wedding ceremony for free. He was stern with me. He kept pointing out all the positive moves that my daughter and her partner were making. He kept telling me that they are mature, responsible adults.

The Lord began to show me my heart. He showed me that I wasn't willing to let her go. He also showed me in his word what is meant by 'you will know the truth and the truth will set you free'. Up until this point, I had been under the wrong impression about my daughter and about her lifestyle. But now that the truth was out, I wasn't being blindly led about. If anything, I was brought into her reality.

After my grandson was born, my daughter said to me, 'Mum I didn't think you would ever forgive me'. I just smiled. If the Lord hadn't dealt with my heart, she would probably have been right.

Are you able to talk to babies father?

Are you able to talk to your Pastor?

Finish off your uni studies and carry on with your part-time job.

I will pray for you dear sister

[Avodah]

I will be praying for you!!

I just want to say, when my daughter told me she was pregnant I cried, but never in a million years would I have kicked her out of my house.

[heavenlyfavoured]

Hi,

Sorry, i'll add u in my prayers.

God bless!!!

[growing]

Garza-I'm praying for you, your parents, the baby's father and your unborn child. It will take a lot of courage for you to face your family, but God allowed you to get pregnant for a reason, so He will take care of you if you trust Him. Your parents will be mad and disappointed, but give them time. Don't get mad at them in response to their actions (whatever they may be) accept their decision and deal with it. If you show responsibility and maturity they will be more accepting to you in the future.

If you really think your mom will throw you out, find a friend who can take you in for a few days, meanwhile give your parents time and keep in contact with them, patiently, even if it means leaving messages on their answering machine or sending letters. Explain your plan, whatever it may be (hopefully to finish school, continue to work and to give your child the best life possible) and let your parents think. I'm sure they will turn around and be there for you.

Also remember that there are a number of organizations to help unwed mothers. In my area it's called Alpha Women's Center. Talk to your church, your mom's church or find a church in your area who can lead you to a helpful organization. They can find a place for you to stay, offer emotional support and help through everything that you will be facing for the upcoming months and years.

Keep in contact with us, I want to know how best to pray for you.

[felix]

Amen WhySoBlind. Garza, it is first important to confess and repent the sin of fornication. You are suffering from the consequences of this sin. But if you come before the Lord and admit it to Him, then you may still be suffering the consequences of the sin BUT God WILL help you now.

Just come before the Lord and admit the sin. If you have brought this before the Lord, there is no need to worry anymore about what will happen to you financially, physically, academically, or issues with your parents. God has plans for the child...you won't be completely devastated. God will always provide a way for you to make it.

Phillipians 4:13

I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

Confess, repent, and humble yourself before the Lord... Then experience His grace, love and mercy in your situation. God is looking after you and the child.

[jesussaves]

After asking the Lord to forgive you, pray, ask the Lord to help you break this to your parents. Ask Him to help them have the compassion of Christ and realize you are hurting and scared and in need of your parents support. Then go to them and tell them. Don't do it at an inopportune time, like when they just get home from work or if they are upset about something, etc..

The Lord loves you. He is there for you if you go to Him. If everyone in the world near and dear to us forsakes us there is one thing we can always count on...the Lord will not forsake us.

He has written you on the palms of His hands!

[Guest unsure]

hi,

i was 18.5 when i got pregnant

i am now 21 with a 2 yr old.

my mum did nothing but support me.

no matter what any of my child(ren) ever do wrong in the future i will forgive them 100% and i hope you parents can show you love, and look on it as a beautiful new life in the world rather than a mistake you made.

good luck

[darkest_red]

Understand that if they told you they would kick you out, then they are perfectly within their right to do so

They may be within their right to do so but that is not how a Christian should act. We are taught to love.