How to deal

[cma]

I am looking for biblical advice or scripture verses that can help with dealing with rejection from other Christians as a Christian. 

[Debp]

13 hours ago, cma said:

I am looking for biblical advice or scripture verses that can help with dealing with rejection from other Christians as a Christian. 

I think you need to remember who you are in Christ.    You are a child of God through what Jesus did for you.    Then if someone rejects you, just remember who you are.   Also, it's important to remember some people can sometimes be uncaring....so learn to overlook what they say or do to you.  Forgiveness is important.  

[timf]

Self examination is always a good starting point. If you meet the following criteria, you may be expected to change;

1Co 5:11  But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.

If there is no cause to be rejected, you might then conclude that those who rejected you have done so for non-biblical reasons. It can be best to search for other Christians rather than trying to "win over' those who have rejected you. Often one can observe problems of immaturity in others that result in their indulging in contention or other problems. Not everyone you meet will be mature.

[cma]

14 hours ago, Debp said:

I think you need to remember who you are in Christ.    You are a child of God through what Jesus did for you.    Then if someone rejects you, just remember who you are.   Also, it's important to remember some people can sometimes be uncaring....so learn to overlook what they say or do to you.  Forgiveness is important.  

Thank you

[cma]

6 hours ago, timf said:

Self examination is always a good starting point. If you meet the following criteria, you may be expected to change;

1Co 5:11  But now I have written unto you not to keep company, if any man that is called a brother be a fornicator, or covetous, or an idolater, or a railer, or a drunkard, or an extortioner; with such an one no not to eat.

If there is no cause to be rejected, you might then conclude that those who rejected you have done so for non-biblical reasons. It can be best to search for other Christians rather than trying to "win over' those who have rejected you. Often one can observe problems of immaturity in others that result in their indulging in contention or other problems. Not everyone you meet will be mature.

Thank you.

[AnOrangeCat]

Paul called us the body of Christ starting in I Corinthians 12:12. The whole passage is worth a read. As for how it applies to your rejection, I'd look at it this way. A thumb is right where it needs to be to be of optimal use. If it's on an elbow or a shoulder or anywhere else it's going to lose a lot of its purpose and utility. With that in mind not all believers are going to fit in with any given group of believers, as nice as that would be. Anything ranging from sin to doctrinal differences to personality conflicts to different callings could factor in. As timf said there's reason to self examine, which can be a difficult thing to do when our feelings are involved. Depending on the circumstances you might want to extend the olive branch even if you don't feel like you're in the wrong, and if rejected again just move on. Or alternately just move on.

[In1]

My favorite (words in a) scripture (well one of many) is "Take no thought" no thought ... no problem ... (because it really has nothing to do with those who treat you good or bad) this is about a process happening in you).

Remember that even Paul was on his way to perfection/maturity (in mind) even held an obvious grudge against Mark until the Lord changed his mind. 

People are at various stages in their walk with God ... our love, like the kingdom (in us) increases with the increase given by God (comes no other way). The more we understand how much we have been forgiven the more we love others to this same measure. This is applicable to everyone who calls themselves Christian, and since the increase of his kingdom has no end so to the increase of our love (which is God's love ("who so loved the world)" has no end ...

"... the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the holy ghost which is given unto us."

 

[com7fy8]

On 5/26/2025 at 5:47 PM, cma said:

I am looking for biblical advice or scripture verses that can help with dealing with rejection from other Christians as a Christian. 

One basic can be that certain people reject you because they do not know how to love.

So . . . find mature Christians who are a good example, and feed on how they are and how they relate with you. And pray to be ready to love ones who do not know how to love > be  their real friends, by being their example so they can find out how to love. 

And trust Jesus to handle these people.

[com7fy8]

Possibly you can give us one clear example of what you are talking about.

[com7fy8]

I have been rejected when I was right. One person rejecting me was an emotional and moral mess, maybe a psychopath. I definitely would not want to be acceptable to her!

Another time, I was totally in love with a woman who did not want me. I was stupid to so fall for her > she turned out to not know what to do with herself emotionally and in her choice making for getting married. Neither of us was right, in that case. She was not right for a close relationship with anyone, and I did well to outgrow how I could fall for her charm and smart talk.

And now it seems I can enjoy sharing with various Christian people, and grow in love instead of falling for charm and what I want from somebody I hope to use.

My way of loving could isolate me with her, not have me learning how to really love any and all people.

"if you love those who love you, what reward have you?" (in Matthew 5:46) 

If we are trying to use someone, we can fall for that one and get isolated, get possessive, argue, and get frustrated and hurt.

One person got attached to me, maybe because I could be a lot nicer to him than ones had been in his past. But the person started making things up about right from wrong and he expected me to go along with what he was dictating. And he was isolating himself, since mature Christians plus others were not going to let him control and possess them. 

He could be very charming and helpful, but then get ornery when ones did not accept certain things he said about the Bible. So, I asked if he was getting "rest for your souls" (Matthew 11:28-30) like Jesus guarantees to anyone who is doing what Jesus satisfies and personally guides us to do. No, he was not. So, I offered he needed to pray and submit to God so God would be guiding him to really Christian people and have him doing what God really wanted.

He kind of disappeared in a huff. And we kept praying for him. He would find that people who did accept him would turn out not to be right; and he'd discover that really kind ones gentle and humble would be good to him but were not going along with some of his stuff. So, then he got back with us and has been good for people!

So, there can be ways you need to get wise to yourself, and you need to be wise to how others can be wrong. And as we find out the real truth about someone - - will we still love that person?

"And walk in love, as Christ also has loved us and given Himself for us, an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet-smelling aroma." (Ephesians 5:2)