im scared

[delilah]

ithink that i have lost the trust of my parents for good.......i got into a verbal fight with my dad yesterday....some one please read this and reply

[deadman1204]

First thing I'd say is pray about this, speak with the lord.

Otherwise, I don't know the situation, but give a straight forward apology about it, and let your father know you really are upset about this situation.

[message]

Hello there..

Well dear,

we are all only Human.. but there are two ways of being Human you know..

We get het up..and need to loose some stress...that is good..

But sometimes we hurt the very people we really love..

Why don't you do the 2nd way of being human now ...

And go and give your Dad and then Mum, a BIG HUG EACH..and say SORRY!! to them..

We never grow too old , to say that wonderful healing word..SORRY, you know..

It can work wonders..and it can freshen up the atmosphere, really well..

And you are never grow to old to receive it either..

Worth a thought anyway..

You will be in my thought's,

Prayers are with you...

Could you please come back and tell us how you got on..?

Love message X+

[Ovedya]

ithink that i have lost the trust of my parents for good.......i got into a verbal fight with my dad yesterday....some one please read this and reply

Hi Delilah,

My initial reaction is: No big deal. Parents fight with their kids all the time. But then again I don't know your background or that of your household. Do you have a good relationship with your folks? Do you guys have more fights than you do spending quality time together in prayer or in close fellowship? Do you fell like you can talk to your folks about anything and not worry about them being judgmental? If so, then, while it might be painful right now, I think that having a little spat is no big deal. You should appraoch your folks and confess where you were wrong and then talk to them about it.

If you do not have a good relationship with your folks then this is something that's probably going to take a lot of prayer, support from friends, and a little time. Ultimately, though, consider this as an opportunity to gain the Lord. Seek Him in all things.

[50_Cent's_dog]

Hello Delilah,

Since you didn't divulge the nature of the fight, or the history between you and your parents, it is hard to give a sound answer, but I will try.

Even if you had a fight, what does that have to do with losing their trust? I could see that a fight would make them angry at you, and you might feel it was so bad they won't forgive you, but again, what does that have to do with trust? Could it be the real issue is that you did something terrible behind their back and that was the reason for the fight? If that is the case, you may indeed have lost their trust for a while, and it is up to you to straighten up and earn it back. It may take a long while, if the offense was bad, but considering your age, and the fact your parents will surely take into account all make mistakes, especially teenagers, you should win their trust back over time. If I am wrong in my conclusions please let me know, but all I have to go by is your short post.

Also, if I am right that you did something wrong behind their back, while you are working to earn their trust, (which again depending on what you did may take a very long time), don't keep jumping on them and demanding they see your change. Don't worry, they will. It is your actions that will make the difference. Being argumentative will only make things worse.

I hope I was of some help to you. Again, I had little to go on, but it is the issue of trust I couldn't help but notice. Concerning forgiveness, I don't think that will be nearly as big of a problem. If you go to your parents and admit you were out of line, I feel confident they will forgive you. They may not trust you fully, but they should forgive you. Parents love their children, in spite of their imperfections (I'm sounding like a Baptist now ), and I am sure your parents still love you.

Butero! I am so proud of you. You are starting to think like a Baptist. It isn't wrong to agree with what is said in the Holy Bible. Just remember God's children are the ones marked with the Holy Spirit.

[mike2]

Hello there..

Well dear,

we are all only Human.. but there are two ways of being Human you know..

We get het up..and need to loose some stress...that is good..

But sometimes we hurt the very people we really love..

Why don't you do the 2nd way of being human now ...

And go and give your Dad and then Mum, a BIG HUG EACH..and say SORRY!! to them..

We never grow too old , to say that wonderful healing word..SORRY, you know..

It can work wonders..and it can freshen up the atmosphere, really well..

And you are never grow to old to receive it either..

Worth a thought anyway..

You will be in my thought's,

Prayers are with you...

Could you please come back and tell us how you got on..?

Love message X+

Message, you said it so well.

Delilah, there are many things you can be sorry for, even in a specific argument.

Not necessarily for starting it or even raising it to the next level.

Heck, you can be sorry just for taking part in releasing your anger in the wrong way.

The thing that builds a stronger relationship is being able to go back and re-open the line of communication again, whether with a freind, parent or especially your spouse (heh, you could look at this as training for when you get married LOL), when you do that, you can find out how the other person felt, let them know how you felt and figure out a way to not let it happen again,

keep in mind you may have to give a little

Read again what Message said.

Saying sorry does'nt mean your taking all the blame, it means.....you're sorry

With Gods love

mike2