is 19 too young to get married?

[DaniJ87]

My mother was 18 and my dad was 23 when they got married. Now here we are... umm....21 years later.... and they are perfectly happy...

of course; they went to a Bible-college together and saw each other every day... so they got to know each other quite quickly; but in all, they knew each other for about six months before they got engaged.. and six months after that, they were married.

(after my mother's freshman year of college.. and my daddy's senior year)

[>> Hannah <<]

let me give you guys a bigger picture, me n ash have been together 2 years. for a year and a alf of our relationship we lived 50miles apart and with neither of us driving we relied of public transport and only saw each other every other weekend sometimes the gap was longer than that.we have both given our lives to god and have been baptised. i finish college in 4months. a month b4 the wedding. and i am taking a year out to get some grounding hopefully for the marriage b4 i start university in september 2007. we got engaged after a year of knowing each other. and the problem we face is that he cannot afford to rent a place just on his wage, and his dad lives in Essex, which is a few hours from where i live.we cant live together obviously. and ash is living with someone from our church so that he can be in same villiage as me but he cant stay they much longer, as we agreed with val that it would only be shorterm until we tied the knot, now im not saying that the only reason we are gettin married is so we can live together.but u gota see it from our point of view. its either that or he moves bak to essex, n were gona spend the rest of our lives together anyway so why not just make it officially and god approved through marriage and 110 % commitment to each other. yes i do have my doubts, but its a tad harsh people saying that they are worrying. in my eyes it shows that i am sensitive to the fact that i am young n to the fact that marriage isnt plain sailing and that it takes work by both people to make it work. the thing that worrys me the most is that ash is so laid bak he is horizontal. but thats just how he is. he takes each day as it comes, he is a ood example to how i shud react to situations as i worry and i shouldnt.

[Guest NewPilgrim]

To my mind theres only one reason to be married: if it's God's will for you.

If its Gods will then everything you need is in place, including love and loyalty, he knows your heart better than you do Yourself.

There's no greater way of seeking God's will than prayer and supplication and in such a big part of your life decisions, I'm confident he will make his intentions known if you are to be married. God's way isn't always easy, but it's always right. I trully hope you pair have his blessings x

[diakonos777]

HI I just wanted to let you know that I was 19 when my husband and I got married. We just celebrated our two year anniversary last month. Our situation is a little different (and no i wasn't pregnant I always have to throw that in because that's what people thought when we married), but if you truely love him and you seek God then I say go for it. Sure its hard at first, but if try as hard as you can at your marriage it will work out. We had people against us and we are proving them wrong. I dont love my husband any less just because I'm only 21 now then anyone who is 25 when they get married. You have to be mature and be able to compromise with eachother. Also I know times are different but 100 years ago or more people were getting married when they were teenagers so I really dont understand whey people are so concerened with the age thing now. Why not have someone there to support you when you are having a hard time in college or something like that. It all depends if your ready and you can handle the things that will be thrown at you and not walk away when the going gets tough.

I will wish you good luck and Gods Love.

Dawn

[Guest CWU4EVER]

well i believe 19 is too young but the only thing you should ask is. IS this what GOD wants you to do.

always ask GOD before you make decissions otherwise you will make the wrong choice.

i hope this helps.

[Guest torahdelight]

hey, i'm 19 n i am gettin married in 5months to a guy who is 21. we are both christians. are we too young to get married?

i would really appreciate some feedback on this. x

I notice you share in your post that "I am getting married in 5 months..." and that you both are christians but want to know if it is too young. Please ~ reflect on why you have these plans , but are not certain if you are ready. Dear Heavenly Father, may You our G~D of wisdom, LOVE and Sovereignty minster to Hannah and her Fiance. May Your will be done Father, in Jesus' precious name I pray. Amen. I personally espouse the view that LOVE knows no boundaries, with age and ethnicity. If this is the one that G~D has chosen for you, then You both will be in agreeance to keep your marriage Christ centered, in partnership, so that the WIll of G~D may be obtained in each of you for His honor, purpose and glory. So my prayer is that you are marrying one another because there is absolutely no other person that compliments your LOVE for Jesus, the way you both do so for one another.

Edited March 7, 2006 by torahdelight

[Giaour]

40 isn't "over the hill".

Sheesh!

Met my husband when I was 15 and he was 21.

We dated until I was 18 and graduated.

Married at 18 and have lived happily ever after.

24 years later, still married.

Age is irrelevant to your decision to marry.

I would have married my hubby at 15 if my folks would have let me.

Pray about it and let God lead you to your decision.

[RustyAngeL]

40 isn't "over the hill".

Sheesh!

Met my husband when I was 15 and he was 21.

We dated until I was 18 and graduated.

Married at 18 and have lived happily ever after.

24 years later, still married.

Age is irrelevant to your decision to marry.

I would have married my hubby at 15 if my folks would have let me.

Pray about it and let God lead you to your decision.

I was 30 when I got married. Most people don't wait that long but I"m glad I did. At 19 you still have so much ahead of you. Remember marriage is forever or should be if your both Christians as you say. If you are supposed to get married ( that is if God has planned it that way_ then waiting a couple of years won't make any difference. In spite of what one person said, being financially somewhat secure will make things easier. I'm not talking about being greedy and getting rich as they suggested, I'm just saying that it makes it easier to cope with what will come along. Your first love ( your faith in Christ) is the most important. If you both know beyond a shadow of a doubt that God has put you together then nothing will stop you and you will have many happy years together. Your in my prayers.

[>> Hannah <<]

thank u to everyone for there comments x

[>> Hannah <<]

any tips of how to make marriage work? please do not assume from this that i have no idea what i am doing, i would just like some ideas and stuff xxx