Is irt an infatuation or is it really love ?

[Born4Jesus]

Beloved,

Since I was a little boy, I was heartily sick of hearing about the marriage. Then I decided in favour for the celibacy by devoting myself to the Lord GOD as a single so that I would only care about to please GOD. 1 Corinthians 7:32-33.

But now, become an adult, I did not fear girls and I do not avoid them. And I am searching for she whom really is the bone of my , the flesh of my flesh and the rib of my ribs after wondering a lot and asking the will of GOD.

Aged 25 by 25 March 2006, I publicly committed myself as a missionary for Asia on the occasion of the first and the last till today, the last Youth camp of our church, the Evangelical Church of the Congo recognized with the French meaning Eglise Evangelique du Congo (E.E.C.) on Sunday, 23 August 2003.Unfortunately, my parents would not like me to serve GOD except to be a laity. But I could never deny my commitment for I devoted my whole life to GOD. Ecclesiates 5:1-6.

Also, I never got intercourses since 1987 and later I undertook to lose my chastity only before she whom is my only soulmate as a gift marriage to be offered to herself only.Proverbs 5:15-21. then I would never like to share my sexuality with anyone else than my wife for I would get married once only and whatever happens. Malachy 2:13-16.

However, I never met any girl or woman right for me and whom is my only missing rib. It happened one day I dreamt to be giving the communion to people of GOD within the parish.I was wore with white blouse. So I remind 1 timothy 3:1-13 and I cannot deny how that I realized that I could never stay single but I had to marry for GOD made me to search for anf find my half with whom I would share the ministery and the Mission He entrusted. Genesis 2:18; 1 Corinthians 11:7-9.

I met online many Christians whom seem to be right for sharing my life. Furthermore, they are many young ladies and women whom are writing to me about to apply for the conferences or resettlement programes through WRAHA but I never approved of any of the. And recently I met one Canadian of whom I approved of the proposal to participate to the conferences which would take place in Canada her home country and in Africa where she undertook to pay for hotel reservation in order to be counted amongst participants to the both conferences. For, the organizers will take care my travel ticket; my visa and my accomodation and my feeding during my stay in Canada only but I had to pay for hotel reservation and she agreed to pay for it. The matter is that she is older than me and according to my conviction and what I read in 1 Timothy 2:9-15 and Genesis 2:19-23 when GOD created Adam then Eve, I would never like to get married with an older woman. But I still wonder I make failure to the willpower of GOD.

But I am very motivated to leave my parents and then to leave the Congo for Northern America according to find a right a community to support me for the ministery and the Mission I have from GOD since there is no missionary department here in the Congo excpt to the Roman Catholic but I cannot join the Catholics. My envy to go away is right according to Genesis 2:24.

Amongst my overseas pen friends I met one whom is a missionary and she failed to come down my home country for according to her speech, GOD called her in Africa but she does not know the continent hence I invited her to come. But she could not come and visit my country for a few details. Later, I asked her to be mine but she let me kow to already have gotten her boyfriend. It was last year around August or September 2005. And they now broked to such an extent that she asked me some piece of advice for, she still loves him and his parents disapproved of te fact she gave one chance to his cousin whom was victim of thunderbolt. Their parents decided to send him to India far away from her. The worse is that she had to deny the Lord Jesus Christ but the Holy Spirit inspired me to persuade her to go back on her way. She thanked me to have been god with her and better than her good friends in the U.S.A., also she because of her disappointments, she decided to stay single for GOD.

And when I asked her if I ever could hope in any chance to date each other she let me know that she cannot deny neither accept after all these disappointments. But, she promised me to stay my friend whatever happen and even if I had to get married with a woman other than herself only. She also told me she coud not make a right decision since we never met face to face, together on the same earth or land.

Sooner or later, we could date and then live together as husband and wife if GOD wills, whe said to me. And she also told me she has nothing against me and I never wounded her since we met. Everytime or most mails I sent to the lady inviting me to Canada are often sent to her to so that I can get her and she said to me to be excited about my coming in America so that we may meet and make knowledge.

I never was in love with somebody then I stil wonder very much if it is true love or just an infatuation according to 1 Corinthians 7:1-4; 13:4-8a. For a long time, she was very reserved but she is now unburdening herself to me to such an extent that she ended , for the first time since we met, by

[Jorge S]

Hi Chang,

I also share your conviction that marriages are made in Heaven. When God first established marriage He caused Adam to fall into a deep sleep to find Eve upon waking up. (Gen. 2:21-25)

We are not told whether Adam was handsome enough for Eve or whether Eve was beautiful enough in the eyes of Adam. We know that they only had God and each other in shameless nakedness, no credit card, luxury car, big house, dream jobs, career expectations, high social status or anything else material. They did have, though, what God provided for them in the Garden, His Blessing, plus the divine decrees to cleave unto each other, be fruitful and take dominion over the Earth under His Rulership.

None of them chose, God did. Adam acquiesced without hesitation and named his wife in full exercise of his authority and acceptance.

The title question of your post tells me that you are still undecided. I had an issue of confusion regarding my own marriage but I prayed over it and God blessed me with a sense of certainty on what to do. I simply followed where He led and -believe me! - everything happened lightning-fast and well. I wasn't doing things on my own, I was actually carried from step to step without a hint of trouble!

I earnestly urge you to pray and follow God's command. There is no confusion in Him and He will not allow confusion to trouble you. My prayers will also be with you.

Be Blessed in Jesus' Name.

[Born4Jesus]

Dear beloved,

you are wholly rigjht i al what yo say. However, I am still wondering about this US penn friend whop a missionary. Maybe it is real love. we did not mmeet online through dating website, no. But we m

[Born4Jesus]

Dear beloved,

you are wholly right in all what you say. However, I am still wondering about this US penn friend whop a missionary. Maybe it is real love. we did not mmeet online through dating website, no. But we m

[Jorge S]

May the Name of the Lord be blessed for ever and ever!

You're the first person I have replied to since my inception in this board and we happen to share a few things in common. I laughed reading your reply because... guess what... I also contemplated taking vows of celibacy about the time I met my wife!

I'm not Catholic and by then I was in the process of conversion. I was longing for a family and frustrated by failed relationships in the past. It looked like there was no hope. I knelt down on my Dec. 2001 birthday and asked God to give me deliverance from my spiritual confusion (I was first an atheist then a 'truth seeker' in paths other than the Christian faith) and bless me with a family and a certain possession I was in need of. I had three specific requests in this order: faith, family and that item. His answers were unbelievable: faith by 25 December, material gift by 24 February 2002, and I met my future wife 9 April 2002. We married 29 October 2002 and our lovely son was born the following year.

I want to emphasize the last two paragraphs of my previous post. Pray! Pray! Pray! And wait on the Lord!

Blessings.

Edited March 7, 2006 by Jorge S