Husbands role in marriage

[Giaour]

Now, in our last study we talked about the woman a little bit, and we said that the key was verse 21; let's look at it, "Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God." We said that a woman's submission is initial, it's basic, it's just God's beautiful design, and she submits to his provision, to his headship (verse 23), "For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church." To his "Saviorhood" if you will, as a preserver, Christ even to the church as the Savior as well. So she, in verse 24, is told that as the church is subject to Christ, so is she to be to her own husband in everything, in a beautiful submission to the husband who is a savior, a preserver, a provider, a head who cares for her.

We saw how the Scripture is not oppressive, it's not chauvinistic; it lifts a woman up. It elevates a woman to a place where she is the object of care, she is the object of protection, she is the object of provision, she is the object of concern. The husband is to lift her up and exalt her in that way. Her place is simply to respond to that care and that concern, and to focus her attention on the home that God has given her--to fulfill the responsibility there to her husband and her children.

Then secondly, and for just a brief time this morning and then next time, I want us to talk about the duty of the husband. This morning I am just going to introduce it to you, verse 25, "Husbands, love your wives." Stop right there. Now, the husband also is to submit. Verse 21 is the umbrella under which all of this passes, submitting the wives to their husbands and the husbands to their wives by loving them. Now, listen men, we are to love our wives. Now, keep in mind that this is a mutual submission.

The tendency in the man is to dominate the woman. This is the tendency of the human nature--to be chauvinistic. That's why we have it because of sin in the world--men are that way. You know we exalt the macho man--don't we? The hard guy, the tough guy, you know the guy who comes into the bar and everybody falls over. The guy who smashes her in the head with a club, drags her into the cave, and when she is used up--pitches her out. Macho! We exalt that kind of stuff, and that is so depraved. That is nothing but a manifestation of human sinfulness. You know you get weary of seeing that kind of stuff, men who just abuse and use, and tread on the glory of a woman, and so he [Paul] says here, "Husbands, love your wives." Love your wives! The word is "agapao, agape" (Greek). It is the strongest, most intimate, far reaching, comprehensive, fulfilling term for love. "Love your wives."

Yes, there is authority in a marriage. Yes, there is a headship and one who follows. But he doesn't say, "Husbands, rule your wives. Husbands, order your wives around. Husbands, subject your wives. Husbands, command your wives, exercise authority over them, dominate them." No. "Love them!" How? "Love your wives even as Christ also loved the church." Stop right there. That's the manner. That's point one in the duty of the husband.

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[tah]

Absolutely...

I often wonder if the reason God speaks to us they was He does in Scripture is perhaps because He knows full well just what we need to hear..

Men have a problem loving so He makes sure He tells them to love..

women have a problem submitting so He tells us to submit...

children have a problem obeying so He tells them to obey..

My husband has had just as much trouble learning to love as I have in learning to submit...

and everyone knows children are disobedient by nature...

Perhaps he will get in on the conversation...I told him about it ...

[billie]

Absolutely...

I often wonder if the reason God speaks to us they was He does in Scripture is perhaps because He knows full well just what we need to hear..

Men have a problem loving so He makes sure He tells them to love..

women have a problem submitting so he tells us to submit...

children have a problem obeying so He tells them to obey..

My husband has had just as much trouble learning to love as I have in learning to submit...

and everyone knows children are disobedient by nature...

Perhaps he will get in on the conversation...I told him about it ...

Tah, I believe you're right on in that. Why else would He give the different commands?

[Giaour]

Excellent point Tah.

I wonder why the men arent complaining that they HAVE to love their wives?

[tah]

They do...if we have ears to hear it...

There is a rash of unfaithful husbands now a days...

that should tell you something...

[LadyRaven]

They do...if we have ears to hear it...

There is a rash of unfaithful husbands now a days...

that should tell you something...

??that morals have seriously declined recently??

[tah]

That men are not loving their wives...

[billie]

They do...if we have ears to hear it...

There is a rash of unfaithful husbands now a days...

that should tell you something...

Our discontent displays itself verbally. Men display theirs by DOing something. How telling when you think about the differences in how sexes communicate.

[tah]

It sure would be nice if we had some men come in here and share with us how it is hard to love thier wife.....

We certainly can be unlovable at times...

[billie]

Wow, I know I can be! I'm glad my husband has the Holy Spirit equipping him to love the unlovely!!!

But, sometimes it's the other way around...