Need advice and support

[KeilanS]

Are you sure your daughter is able to answer your phone calls? From what you have said, it might be the husband trying to shut you out... How long is it until Bank Holiday is over? (I'm not sure what that is)... I don't think you should wait more than a week or two at most before you see your daughter in person... I'll be praying

-Keilan

The Bank Holiday is on Monday.

Traditonally a day when the banks closed, it is a national holiday.

Oh okay, I guess waiting until then couldn't cause any harm... and giving your grandson a gift is most certainly a good enough reason to see them.

[Anne]

Northern Lass,

How is everything? Praying here.

[cag7800]

I'll be praying.I was in this same kind of situation with my first husband(26 yrs.) I could not visit my mother who lived less than 5 miles away.I didn't see or talk to my mother or family for 3 years.my ex. had even went so far as to map the mileage to every where I went and I could never go anywhere without the kids.then he could drill them for imformation to where we went.he would take the phone to work with him.my mother is deaf so calling was out of the question.then I got a job and found shorter routes and I went to see my family..man thank God I finally got out of that mess.

[ladypeartree]

Still here and still praying with you lass, I will be keeping you in prayer especially on Monday.

[Guest maudie]

Hello

As I said, where do I start? I have a daughter (middle child) of 27 with 3 little boys of 8, 6 and 4. I adore her and my grandsons! However, a couple of years ago her marriage broke up. She came to live here for a month and then rented nearby. We supported them as much as we could. Then an older man, 39 (now 40) came on the scene and (too soon I think) she moved in with him. Although I had a few misgivings he seemed to be lovely with the boys. At first he was also very friendly with us but gradually it became more and more difficult for us to see our daughter or the boys. First it was phone calls which they never answered. The only time we were able to speak to our daughter seemed to be when he was at work. Then it was a case of his mobile "not working". Then he was extremely unfriendly and uncommunicative if we visited. Now finally, my last lifeline as he is not computer literate - e-mails to my daughter are being returned as not being delivered.

Only last weekend she rang me in tears to say she had made a horrible mistake - that he was very possessive and cutting her off not only from us but also from her friends. She poured her heart out to me, and said she was going to give him an ultimatum - either he changed, resolved things with us or she would move out. A couple of days later she spoke to me briefly when I was at work and said they were trying to sort things out. Since then silence.

I am so worried I am going to lose her and my beautiful grandsons. I don't want to cause her more stress by pushing things but half of me wants to go round and confront him (and the other half tells me to wait it out!) It is killing me not knowing what is happening, of if I will ever see them again.

Sorry to go on so long!....................

PS - I think there is also a spiritual element to this. My husband and I are both Christians and our daughter made a commitment once. The new partner is into Tarot cards etc!!

[ladypeartree]

Hi lass been thinking of youan dpraying for you ..did you manage to see your daughter ? any news? still holding you up in prayer and thinking of you

[AndrewA]

You need to remove your daughter and your grandchildren from this situation yourself. Although your daughter may have every intention of leaving she is probably too scared to pack a back and leave thinking that she will most likely be caught. having 3 young children in tow will make the logistics of fleeing even more difficult for her.

I assume he actually goes out of the house to work etc. This may sound a bit dramatic and over the top, but the better you plan something and the more professional people are the better the chance of succeeding. have someone, follow this man when he leaves the house. having someone who is unknown to your daughters partner will help, these people do get paranoid and check streets etc for anything suspicious. Once he is far enough away like 10 mins away make your move, go to the house, knock on door and tell your daughter you are there to take her away, hopefully she will want to come. give your daughter and her kids a couple of minutes to pack quickly, better still, just take a few essentials and whisk them away to safety.

You can not trust to arrange anything by any form of communication, you don

[Northern lass]

Hi everyone, thanks for praying There has been a little bit of progress - I now have an e-mail address for her and we are trying to arrange to meet up. Please keep praying.

Andrew A - thanks for your thoughts, but it's not that simple. There are 3 little boys involved who have already lost ONE Dad. My daughter's partner is good to them and they love him and so far he hasn't been violent to her - just possessive, so she is really trying to sort things out first rather than disrupt the boys once more. I have a feeling she won't be able to, but at the moment she is still trying. So I COULDN'T turn up and say I was taking her away as at the moment she wouldn't come.

Much prayer, wisdom and patience needed all round!

[Scarletprayers]

Well, we will all just keep praying then!

[ladypeartree]

still praying for you all Lass and if you think your daughter would talk to me ( I have been in the same situation ) pm me and I will give you my e mail address.