the "indigo child"...

[Guest LadyC]

not sure if it really belongs in here or controversial issues. my oldest daughter has been reading this book about indigo children and thinks that it's all about her. she asked me to look it up so i could "know more about her". (like i don't know about the daughter i raised?)

i looked up a website, www.indigochild.com and read the ten-item summary. yep, it describes her alright, but the thing is, the term was coined by a psychic, and there seems to be this attitude regarding the personality type that it's a GOOD thing.

i was reading it thinking wow... sounds like some very self-involved children who needed a little more discipline in life. granted, my daughter got correction, and she still fits the bill in many ways. right down to the physical and intellectual characteristics (large, round, bright eyes and high intelligence, etc.) but also in many other ways... she did seem to always have a sense of entitlement and so on.

i've also read that as much as 95% of this generations children are indigo children. well, i have to again say that about that corresponds with the fact that a large percentage of children are not taught to be respectful of authority and to take responsibility for their actions.

just curious as to what others may think of the subject.

[Scarletprayers]

Its all new age junk. There was a program on TV the other day about "indigo" children. Run away and I hope you can talk your daughter out of it also.

[Guest LadyC]

no talking her out of it. she doesn't take advice from me very well. she considers herself to be agnostic, but dabbles in pagan ceremonies and wiccan witchcraft. she wants nothing to do with God.

[LadyRaven]

not sure if it really belongs in here or controversial issues. my oldest daughter has been reading this book about indigo children and thinks that it's all about her. she asked me to look it up so i could "know more about her". (like i don't know about the daughter i raised?)

i looked up a website, www.indigochild.com and read the ten-item summary. yep, it describes her alright, but the thing is, the term was coined by a psychic, and there seems to be this attitude regarding the personality type that it's a GOOD thing.

i was reading it thinking wow... sounds like some very self-involved children who needed a little more discipline in life. granted, my daughter got correction, and she still fits the bill in many ways. right down to the physical and intellectual characteristics (large, round, bright eyes and high intelligence, etc.) but also in many other ways... she did seem to always have a sense of entitlement and so on.

i've also read that as much as 95% of this generations children are indigo children. well, i have to again say that about that corresponds with the fact that a large percentage of children are not taught to be respectful of authority and to take responsibility for their actions.

just curious as to what others may think of the subject.

There are about a bazillion personality typing programs out there. If their points can be separated from their premise (assuming the premise is new agey) it has a limited amount of validity if it helps you understand your daughter in some way, however, it is not any more valuable than any other secular work.

The Bible deals with people as individuals. I have alot in common with Peter, and I've taken millions of those little tests. If I'm looking on a date site that uses them, it is somewhat helpful (I always come up "gentle artist" or "romanitic" or some other thing which makes some sense and i don't want to be linked to "the salesman" because that sort of thing irritates me. However, I'm sure that ten minutes with the person in question would have told me this test or no.) but at the same time, I'm not exactly like Peter.

I'm not exactly sure that I would have made the proclaimation that Jesus was the Christ because I would have been too scared at that time to do so. And I probably would have mumbled something after Jesus said "what is that to you, you must follow me" because I always have to have the last word. I identify to Peter's moodiness but mine is my own and his was his.

I guess my point is...after reading this, did you learn anything youdon't already know about your daughter? If so, do you believe it is an accurate assesment? If so, ask God how to apply that in a Godly way to your relationship. If not, or if you are not sure, just disregard the book as more secular information that wasn't helpful.

I wouldn't just assume everything in the book is accurate, nor would I assume that all the principles n the book are godly. Nor would I trust whatever the conclusion of the book is...It can be fun, I like personality typeing myself, but it's just some person's conclusions and even if there is a grain of truth to this...it only goes so far.

Now that that is out of the way...what was your daughter trying to tell you about herself? I used to try to ram these peronality tests down my ex husband's throat because he thought my personality was weak or lacking or non valid because it didn't match his. I was merely trying to get him to acknowledge that I was fine the way I was, that I had "experts" which would say I was fine, and I just wanted him to understand I'm actually NOT COMFORTABLE when my whole world is ordered and I can't just throw things away and that....etc...

She obviously connected with this theory, and for some reason, and by bringing you into it she wants something from you. Is she trying to get you to understand and validate something about her? or does she want you to reciprocate with some colour type for yourself so she can understand you or was she trying to have a gab with her mom about something kinda fun that in the long run means nothing but, if done in the right way, might open up communications on topics she's not comfy bringing up for no reason...???

[MrsSealedEternal]

I remember a thread on here from a couple of months ago. Maybe it could be a beneficial read?

Here's a link: Indigo Children

[Scarletprayers]

LadyR, I agree that the daughter is looking for something, but the whole indigo child thing I saw was linked up with ESP and channeling spirits, seeing ghost, all of the stuff I connect with New Age.

Be very careful and don't let your daughter get so drawn into this she looses sight of the fact that she is "Gods" child!

[LadyRaven]

I was reading the website. Hmmm, I guess I'm an indigo. I wondered at the last paragraph on the page though, where it said that this colour meant nothing about auras but the observations of someone who has synesthesia. Does this mean that indigos have synesthesia or that people with synesthesia can "diagnose" indigos. (Just curious cause I also have synesthesia...)

If I'm an indigo (lets just assume this theory floats for a second), I disagree with the premise that there are so many more of them than in previous generations. I know for a fact that I'm not "normative" and if there were many more of these people as they say and I was really one of them, then I would be "normative".

I do think that parenting does play into this to an extent. Your temperament you are born with, your parents and your surroundings teach you ways of dealing with that temperament, for good or evil. There are plenty of other types of people, if not restrained or trained properly, could exhibit these traits.

Although I still wonder why your daughter wanted you to see it more than I worry about the content of the book. cause nobody fits into a box, God made us all unique and deals with us that way.

[Guest LadyC]

she's always seeking something... usually to prove yet again that i don't understand her or that i don't listen... so when she asked if i agreed with it's assessment of her, i just said yes, there are some striking similarities but i don't give much weight to the theory personally.

this daughter really doesn't want my opinion unless it agrees with her. example: last week she asked me what i'd think of her buying an '85 corvette... i told her that if she wanted to do that, to make sure she tests drives it first to be sure she'd be able to see over the hood enough to park it. she got mad and told her husband i was griping her out.

[LadyRaven]

no talking her out of it. she doesn't take advice from me very well. she considers herself to be agnostic, but dabbles in pagan ceremonies and wiccan witchcraft. she wants nothing to do with God.

Well, since this is the case, Find out why she wants you to interact with her about this and deal with the facts in your relationship.

Don't give this validity because she is already hanging over the yawning pit of hell, you don't need to push her any closer to the flame.

If she wants you to interact with her about this because she's new age and this is a way of getting your approval of it...dont' dance to that tune.

If she wants you to understand something about her personality, or whatever, push the book aside and ask her what she learned about herself, facts only, and what she needs you to know. Of course that might cause conflict but if handled well she can understand that you're open to listening to anything she learns about herself but you don't believe in any of the new aged ways she 's used to find them out.

[Guest LadyC]

fabulous ladyR, absolutely fabulous! thanks, i'll definitely try that approach (asking her what she learned about herself)....